Originally posted by: foresight
very well said. completely agree. she has given them the right to hurt her unfortunately. something she has never done with the others. in a way not even Yash to be honest.
She once told ratan that happiness is in relationships so it is imp to forgive people close to you and she does that quickly as well.
with others in Kesar mahal, they never treated her well. didnt allow her to enter the house though she was in charge of everything, threw chilies as her. taunted her always. but then they were outsiders. people that she wasn't attached to. they weren't family. they were people she had to deal with objectively as part of her job. it was easy for give it back to them when the situation warranted it.
they are still the same taunting selfs with her now, but now for her the have sadly become part of her family too. they are now related to her and because of past, she is in negative balance territory with them (not that they are in her great books) . any sensible girl - and diya is a sensible level headed girl - will not try to make it worse right away when everything is still sinking in. esp when she knows the directive from her parents, the declaration they have made to everyone that she will be "good" wife and the deal they have done with KM who didnt leave even that oportunity to let everyone know that she is unwanted addition to the family and will need to work hard to be accepted, which her parents have agreed and signed and sealed.
i still see the old Diya today. I see her when she resisted marraige and tried to talk sense to her father. i see her when she reacted to ratan's comments during grapravesh. i see her when she removed the gathabandha and told him he is free to do what he wants. i see her when she resisted going to "their" room. i see her when she calm told a pressure cooking ratan that she will clean up the mess. i saw her when she complained about his phone's irritating ring tone.
well said we can see old Diya in bits and pieces... she is holding herself from reacting unpleasantly to anyone...if we remember when on terrace KM was saying that she is being stubborn about wearing that gown ...also that DH is "heera" her facial expressions showed that she was not at all liking what KM was saying but still she kept quiet and got ready to wore that gown.
but we also need to remember that she is softer when it comes to ratan. she was feeling bad when he had to eat her bad khicdi so much so that she went to cooking classes to learn how to make it just for him. she never did that for abhay even. she was willing to do moon walk on hurt leg so that he could go clubbing and she would be there to protect him. she quietly took ratan's unjust punishment when he thought her guilt only choosing silence as her counter and saying that she will not go anywhere and ratan will understand and come and het her. she is the same diva who was hurting more because ratan wasn't at her wedding and that they had fight rather than being excited about her marriage.
with ratan, she has given him a ton of rights to hurt her and gives him a lot of leeway. she always had. she is understanding with him always. now even more so, because she knows what he is going through. she knows and understands his spurts of blasts. she is being mature, understanding...and to a good extent guilty for the marraige to react.
as girls, we tend to be more perfectionist than men. we want to be perfect daughters, perfect wife, perfect house maker, perfect business woman...perfect everything. and when we fall short in any area, we are over critical of ourselves. it takes time to consciously get out of that mind set. now if you have someone who has been successful at a lot of this, the first failure hits hard. Diya has accomplished a lot right from tender age. she had always gotten things right. marraige, family, being wife - this is not just new but a areas that she is genuinely worried about right from beginning of the show that she wont be able to deliver in. first time failures and failures in this...no support in fact taunts back to back..pressure...uncomforted of an unwanted relationship...understanding what ratan is going through...is it really a surprise that she didnt react just one single time during the portrait? that she felt overwhelmed just once after such amazing amount of pressure?
Agree completely ...i have seen what pressure can do to a person...people start making sily mistakes when under pressure...looks like here combo of pressure and guilt has taken away all the self confidence of Diya.i also think this is result of the stage that was set from the foreshadowing that happened at the party. Ratan was useless there. he was trying hard but everything was turning out messed up despite best intentions. Diya is in the same place now. If was Diya who wanted things a particular way and was rigid (not wrongly) during the wedding...now it is Ratan (in his immature ways)
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