Avni's defense mechanism

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Posted: 8 years ago
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What Avni feels for Neil now is not hate, it's love only expressed through hurt and anger, actually she never hated him, she doesn't hate him and she will never hate him, he is her one and only love and in her own words no matter what he thinks of her she will always love him.

It's her defense mechanism, she might not admit it not even to herself that she loves him or cares, but her reaction itself whenever Neil or love are mentioned shows clearly that yes farak padta hai. If u notice, she is calm in all other situations even when she thinks about Vidyut, but with Neil, she feels sadness, hurt, disappointment and anger because he didn't trust her (that's what she thinks) and broke his relationship with her (we know it's not true, mangalsutra is different and he wiped the sindoor he applied while she had another sindoor the one she applied before) and more because during all these 6months he didn't come one single time to see her or ask about her and now she sees in TV that he is enjoying his job and is even appreciated for it without thinking about her.

Avni has always been like this with Neil whenever she felt she isn't trusted or loved by him, remember the Gazebo time, she was angry, remember when Ali was kidnapped and she thought Neil didn't believe her and didn't trust her, and then when Neil accused her of taking Juhi out, she uses harsh and very hurtful words when she herself is hurt badly by him but all these are just reflecting how much she loves him and how much he impacts her, I feel that her aim is not only to destroy Vidyut but also to prove her innocence to Neil because that's what mattered to her the most.

Due to her self respect and her ego to some point (positive wala ego), she will never admit that she still loves him or cares about him, not even to herself but deep down she loves him but she is so hurt, and I'm sure when she will meet him she will be cold to him (facade/pretense, her heart will be affected) and will say some of the most hurtful things ever but as I said all these things only show how much she loves him and was hurt by him.
Edited by arshisfan - 8 years ago

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Posted: 8 years ago
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I agree with you. Hate is very strong term to use for what Avni feels for Neil now. The Avni I know can never hate Neil. She is only hurt because she felt Neil didn't trust her as his trust was the most she wanted when she was accused for a crime she didn't commit. Neil's views about her always mattered most to Avni. I also feel that after collecting evidences against Vidyut, she will first confront Neil with them, and will tell him that look I am innocent but you didn't believe me.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Exactly this is her defense mechanism, she doesn't react much , but she only reeacted seeing Neel on tv or hearing the word love and friendship,which is both related to Neel,for her Neel was and will be everything,
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Totally agree with you I am happy at least she showing some emotions its better then behaving indifferent that would have been much worse
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Totally agree with u. She will never hate him. She is so hurt. When dhe come to know about his sacrifice. She will melt.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I agree, Avni can never hate Neil whatever she feels now is the pain of not being believed by someone whose opinion mattered to her the most. Avni did not care for anyone else's opinion be it her family or friends, all she wanted to hear was from Neil that he believes her innocence. It really shattered her to know Neil could believe she did this and once again awakened the insecurities and scars from her past. Avni has been through so much in her life it is only natural she would have this defense mechanism and put walls around her heart, I just hope that she finds some peace whenever she learns the truth behind Neil's actions. I don't know if it can undo the damage he did to their relationship but at the very least she can know that Neil never believed she was guilty and to this day has fought for her innocence.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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yes I don't think Avni will ever hate Neil.
She is hurt and disappointed by the basic nature of her past which makes her feel that he does not trust her.

Somewhere i also feel that Ali is a wonderful friend but he just supports her in her impulsiveness.
As a true friend he should be able to call her out when her decision could be wrong.
This is where I have been disappointed with him.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Beautifully written

Yes avni will never hate Neil. Her anger and disappointment are justifiable. But the damage which is to done has already done.both Neil and neela on the name of protection had triggered the wrong place. Even after knowing the truth she may forgive him. But for Neil gaining her trust seems to be the most difficult task for him.




Edited by vijaya138 - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Off course she does not hate him, never have and never will! Neil is her first and only love. He was her world who gave her a family she craved for. But then Neil took everything away in a jiffy and that shook her to the core. She didn't know what hit her on that fateful day because they had everything going right in the relationship. And the scars of the day of her arrest are too raw even after 6 months.Even an ex and a kid didn't shake the foundation of their relationship. That is why Avni is pained by what Neil did to her. By knowing the reasons, Avni will get some solace but the healing is still further away. In trying to protect her from Vidyut, Neil has given her wounds which are tough to heal.

Acc to me Avni is still puzzled by Neil's action and pained by the fact that he misunderstood her.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: vijaya138

Beautifully written

Yes avni will never hate Neil. Her anger and disappointment are justifiable. But the damage which is to done has already done.both Neil and neela on the name of protection had triggered the wrong place. Even after knowing the truth she may forgive him. But for Neil gaining her trust seems to be the most difficult task for him.





i don't think that it will be hard for Neil to gain her trust back because even she has misunderstood his actions

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