Sonam grandma told her to stay out of Temple and Kitchen during Period - Page 9

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

If menstruation is not impure or dirty or unhygienic in Islam - why are there any restrictions at all?Religious restrictions are based on menstruation taboos, no matter what the faith.

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I remember my first period. I was in the fifth standard. Being India, no one had thought to talk to me about such things. I thought Iwas dying. I hid the bleeding till it got heavier and I could not keep up with secretly washing my underwear.😆

Purchasing sanitary napkins was always so embarrassing. For some reason society wants women to feel shame for menstruating. You have to go to the chemist (mostly men) and coyly ask for Whisper/Stayfree. They then proceed to wrap it up in sheets of newspaper as if its po*n you are purchasing. As if it's not an open secret what the package actually contains. I was a heavy bleeder. It is so difficult to get to the restroom enough to change your pads in India. And Indian style toilets are so inconvenient when you need to change them. So add to it the embarrassmentof stains and all the creative ways to hide them with sweatshirts and sweaters around the waist.

It was eye-opening coming to the United States. Feminine hygiene products are sold off the shelves en masse. People pick it off the shelves and buy it without inhibitions. Whats there to be ashamed of? It is a natural human process. No silly wrapping. No concern whether the cashier was male or female. You occasionally had men buy products for their wives/girlfriends or even daughters.

Soon enough I switched to tampons instead of pads. Pads are large and ungainly. Tampons are small, discrete and can handle more flow. You can use a pad or panty liner for backup during heavy days. I don't know why tampons are not so prevalent in India. Perhaps it is the fear that tampons will tear the hymen. If only we could give up our issues with the tissue.

Recently, I switched to the Diva cup - just two periods ago. It is cheaper and more sustainable. Pads create nonbiodegradable landfill waste and tampons are not actually flushable. Pads and tampons surprisingly create a lot of urban sewage clogging. Most women spend $8.00 a month on sanitary supplies. Plus cost of painkillers for cramps. This can increase or decrease based on length of the period. Not counting the soiled underwear and clothes that can sometimes be unsalvagable. For $25.00 you are set for a few years, and be environmentally friendly too. Unfortunately, people still have hangups over inserting something in the vagina.

Thanks for sharing your personal experience.. in India & in US! ⭐️

My mother followed this rule and tried to tell us to follow. When these things are drilled inside your head, it's difficult to ignore the sense of guilt but I was always challenging these archaic rules. I come from a very conservative priest family with Kali temple. There are a lot of nonsense rules. I don't follow most of them. During period, its mostly my state of mind. If I feel better not, I don't force myself to enter a temple. Because usually the mind has the biggest influence on everything. If you feel negative and think negative, negative things tend to happen.

Mostly I don't care. Nothing really happens if you touch tulsi during Menstruation. But I believe very strongly about that. It all depends on how strong you feel. A woman in this world has to have unwavering faith in her convictions about everything, to stay true to herself.

However I was never removed by force or punished for entering temple/ pooja house in my family.

When I went to a friends house, I was told I committed sin by entering the pooja room in period.

Irrespective of the earlier practices and beliefs the imperative thing now is to move to sustainable menstruation and shun disposables pads as much as possible. Not only are pads harming the environment, the people most affected are again women who are waste collectors.

Originally posted by: Enycedoll

So ritual purity is the STATE of being pure. Bodily functions are linked to ritual impurity. Given that menstruation is a bodily function, just like farting and peeing, it negates your prayer.

Wuzu breaks even when you bleed due to a prick or something and has to be done again.. You need to bd in a state of wuzu to pray or read Quran and fasting without praying is meaningless.. So how exactly would you be in a state of wuzu qhen you are actively bleeding and perform all the religious rituals?