Baseless insecurity or genuine fear

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Note: If you can not have healthy discussion then please do not waste your time in reading my post & replying.
I for one is very happy with this insecurity which annika is having. I have seen it in real life example where such insecurities happens even between d couples who are madly in love with each other.

So let's look at annika's POV.

First of all Annika is a girl who didn't had anyone who loved her so much before SSO. Sahil we can really not say because he is a kid and she has brought him up as her child so there was no one whom she can lean on. Who loved her, cared for her.
First time in her life she got someone who really loves her, cares for her so there will always be fear that what if I loose him.
Now just think, All arrived to bareli and from that time annika is in wig. Acting as an old women 24*7 then those aunties giving gyaan time to time, on top of that Shivaay making fun of her, teasing her in every single time. Then she herself saw how he is having fun in playing singer, taking selfies with those girls. He wasn't doing intentionally and was in flow with the character of diljeet, but for her, she was in old women getup, listening to those aunties saying that how husband looses interest once u get old, then seeing that Shivaay is so happy in attention of those girls. Just think what all would be going on her mind, just like Bhavya explained to Shivaay that we girls doesn't take much time to go from A to Z. We have our own film going on in our mind which is so true. Annika was already frustrated because she wasn't feeling like herself bcoz of all these scenarios so she asked Shivaay to fight with her, through water on her so that she will feel herself. I could see the frustration of annika (kudos to SC) when she was talking that mere dimag me itna raiyta faila hua hai, I could feel that she is so much irritated/tired of all d happenings in her mind. Just see her smile after he throws water but then again he started laughing on her. SO it is very very natural for a person to have this insecurity.
Like Bhavya explained that Annika just have Shivaay and he is everything to her so just the thought of loosing him is unbearable for her.
This isn't about doubting Shivaay's love for now but Shivaay's behavior (of course unintentional) and those aunties saying (Annika was with them only most of time as she is playing dadi) anyone can have insecurity that when I will become old then my husband will loose interest on me.

I loved it :) looking forward to tomorrow when Shivaay will assure her that no matter what he will always be there for her because their ishqbaaazi isn't dependent on age ❤️

PS: your thoughts are welcome but please keep it as healthy discussion & not any fight zone
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Will be back after watching episode😳

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Angel very good post. Agreed with all your points.😳 I was little sceptical about this track but today when I watched the episode it was actually good. And I can't side anyone. Both are right at their places. Somehow today Anika got hyper. Maybe she was just quiet understanding let it go types but somewhere in the corner everything was piled up and it just burst out today. I felt today was just a normal husband and wife fight which happens with most of the people. Shivaay being clueless was also normal. He himself dint get to know wat was happening. Both of them were in characters and no OTT.

Also I don't understand y there is problem in Shivaay being sorry in tomorrow episode. What is expected then? If he doesn't then he is again blamed that he is being tadibaaz ego bhandaar. What do you want him to do? He is just behaving like a perfect husband who is just comforting his wife and not manaoing . Both are poles apart.

Anyways my POV 😳
Edited by freebird_91 - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Completely agree with you...her being insecure here is so normal...but Shivaay is not understanding this because he didnt meant to hurt her n will not do anything like this when they are old...but thankfully Bhavyas words put some gyan n we will get to see how billu is gonna pacify his billi tomorrow...
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I don't think its baseless. Dekhke hi mujhe old feeling aarahi hai.😆 Shivaay thinking she is only wearing a wig. He cannot understand. Rudy jokes about his age height. He is thinking like that only.


Another point that i posted in EDT:
Consider this as hidden insecurity due to the other women who entered shivika life. Even if they didn't mean anything to shivaay and anika believes him also, thoda insecurity toh hoga. Now its manifesting in a seemingly trivial situation. Those times they had bigger issues to deal with than dealing with insecurities.

Maybe CVs giving it this way.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I watched the episode and Annika's insecurity was not at all baseless. On a lighter note my only hope after this blast from Annika, Billu will mend his ways and will keep a 20 ft distance from his girl friends and fake wives like Tia, Mallika, Ragini and Tia.This issue has been raised by Annika earlier also in case of Tanya but Shivvay never could understand. This was very necessary, Shivvay always thinks that Annika is doing this because of jealousy.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Totally agree with you. A girl matures faster than a boy and a women ages faster than a man. That is normal physiology. But this affects women psychologically and if you see your partner is still attractive to the opposite sex while yourself feel old, then it creates more insecurities.
Annika is in a get up of an old woman and is in constant company of oldies while Shivaay has to play the sexy sardaar who is a 'singer'. This fans Annika's insecurities of losing her only love that she has gained after many trials and tribulations !

Shivaay needs to address Annika's insecurities. It is a long process; for the girl has always got the short end of the stick in her life and she is still skeptical of her good luck.
Thanks Ishqbaaz makers for potraying such a delicate and yet common issue in a sensitive manner !
Edited by Hriju321 - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I don't think her insecurity is baseless.. Infact no one should be mocked for their insecurity no matter how trivial it is. Ones insecurity should be put to rest.. as her partner Shivaay needs to make her feel secure at this point.
Anika is not an insecure person by nature.. the situation of being dressed as an old woman and constantly being told by those aunties not to do this that and the other otherwise her husband will loose interest in her and Shivaay constantly laughing and jokingly making fun of her has added fuel to the fire. She is upset and thats natural. All Shivaay needs to do is to make her feel that he will stand by her and loves her.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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No matter how secured you are in your marriage/ relationship, there are days one feel little low and sad and need that reassurance from your husband /wife/partner. Shivaay is thinking that this is one of their usual banter where they laugh it off when they make fun of each other. But these aunties nagging and taunting her from the minute she landed in Bairely , she is already in a vulnerable state and what would've been otherwise a joke taken lightly between them has made her insecure and sad. But nothing to worry, they'll kiss and make up 😳 This is not a test of each other's love, trust or anything like that !
Edited by Michmichi - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Hey, you have made a post on a nice topic.

Before getting into IB , Just wanted to share a personal experience.
A while back I saw a few grey stands of my hair.. althoughh I am far from being into vanity. It was bothering me a little, I causally asked my husband if I should start colouring my hair.
He was a bit confused & said do as you wish. I asked again for his opinion and showed my grey stands.
I said "doesn't it look bad?" He said with all honestly.. it doesn't look bad to him. It's just a part of growing up. I was so overwhelmed & instantly hugged.

What I am trying to convey is age, youth, beauty aren't that important in the grand scheme of events, but it can get the wisest of us. Unfortunately we women are more prone to insecurities related to looks & youth. All it takes is a few words from your loved one & the whole issue is water under the bridge.

Coming to IB, I really enjoyed this storyline. It was fun, realistic and light-hearted. Not to mention Aanika looked super duper adorable in bebe getup. I also enjoyed Shivaay's antics. It was refreshing to see him enjoy the moment. It didn't look like he was flirting with those girls. He simply enjoyed being a non sso celebrity. Being SSO must be really taxing. It comes with so many expectations, being punjabi pop singer was his way of taking a vacation from himself.

Anyways I thing I ve blabbered on for too long..
Will enjoy reading the discussion.

Neetu.
PS: I haven't watched Mondays epi. So I may be not getting why some aren't in favourable to this "track"

Edited by Bronze. - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Shivika dealing with this insecurity issue right now is so not needed now like the current track which did not need them dressed this way . Their disguise did not fool anyone . If Bhavya could get away with being her n still be not recognised do not understand why anika needed this wig . So as the current track all these insecurities are manufactured as per me . They had to do something so they are doing this way .

That said i agree with in real life insecurities like these happen ... even worse than these hapoen n they need to addressed n handled with utmost care n finesse. The sooner these are dealt with the better .

Shivika addressing their insecurities is nice to lookfw to tomorrow but as i said before force fitting it into the current scenario totally seems so unnecessary.The whole track has been so out of character or i call it out of body experience for Shivay n Anika . This was never them n never will be .

My Pov only ... if this leading to something else or feel it will pls PM i will edit n delete .
Edited by yash2010 - 8 years ago

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