Originally posted by: sareg
Let is debate this in reverse order of your points
hmmm you seem to say, inless you become a parent you wont be able speak about the task
It is not my intention.only after beconing a parent you undertand the gravity of the task As every person is different, every kid is diffrent and the parent should be careful to handle him/her, otherwise the mother/father has to face severe set back.
now the other thing you claim, I will talk to my kids and explain them and if neccessary I will get involved in the decision making,
Yes, that is the way I am using to my children, but upto this stage, I never impose my decision on them, try to make them undertand my opinion.
but even while talking to adults you come out with this logic "you wont understand till you become ...." you will be prone to using thos logic more when talking to kids and that is what leads kids over the edge most of the times.
My be my inability to use the English language give you the impression😆😉
Do you really want me to speak about the example you gave me here😉
You are always welcome.
BTW interesting thought there, you need to be one to talk about an issue😆, half the opinions on this thread are out the window with that(unfortantely for you, sorry you shot up the wrong alley there😆),
may be, I am not as intelligent as you are, ie., the wrong choice , my appology.😉 I have no intention to object your thought because you are entitled to it.
by this logic people in India, who have not seen cultures outside India other than thru media should not talk about it, people who havent encountered racism, shouldnt talk about racism, people who havent been addicted to smoke/alcohol/drugs shouldnt talk about it, people who havent played cricket shouldnt talk about cricket selection😆, nice way to eliminate people from debates😉
It is your alligation, it is not my intention, I try to explain it is a difficult task being faceing the real task.
About the example cited by you,I never been out of india,never been encountered racism and never been adicted to smoking/drinks/drugs and never played cricket. But I know about this,but don't experienced it, experience is different from knowing about a thing. It is my humble opinion you are welcome, if you differ.
when you are a parent you always end up deciding when to allow the choice made by the kid to stand and when not to, you can twist it thousand different ways, but it is what it is, adults control things in kids life's.
As parents, and my self and my husband (usually very much adament in his opinion and decision, and always using remote controll from another country) never influence our child in her choice of subject for her +2 and now for graduation( 1yr biotech) but perhaps her teachers/friends in +2 influenced her,what to study and where to study.,To me it is my daughter's choice. Choosing dressess, my children are modrate with out my influence, and there also I have nothing, more to do. It is said that in teen age there is a scope for confrontation between children and mother, but here it is rare. Up to this stage, it apears' I am successful as a mother who is not deciding/dectating but explainig things to her children, I don't know what is comming next, I am only a student in parenting. .
and thanks for throwing that statement in there to prove the point😉
It appears that you didn't read the lines after it. I am also thankfull to you for giving your valuable opinion about me😆 since all opinions have a scope for thinking about one"s(my) personality.😉.
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