Should parents decide good/bad ?

Should parents decide what is good and bad for kids till a age kids turn adult hood?

This is flip question as supposed to what we normally debate from kids point of view or stand point.

Let it be the question of deciding on career / marraige / etc... Aren't parents in good position to decide what is best for kids, futuristically, seeking and understanding the interests of thier own children ?

If we say parents are most trustworthy in life then where is the issue obeying them in make/break decisions of life?

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

NO.. they should TEACH their children to understand what's good or bad for them. That way, children can take their own decisions when adults.

Alas, all were at the same understanding and grasping level as some.... basically with that approach cycle of mistakes (being lucky) ....learnings ...experience...seeing sibiling doing mistakes continuesss.... atleast in some cases...

Originally posted by: *Jane*

Children should be making decisions all along. Parents are the advisor's and the teachers. They're there to explain why things should be done a certain way. As one gets older they attain more knowledge thus become more independent of the parents and learn to decide for themselves what is best. I'd say that the parents decisions have precedence (but not dictation) until the person reaches adulthood (which, I would say is late teens early twenties) because the teen years are the transitional stage and a child has yet to attain the knowledge to override what the parents know.

There's something to the saying that "a parents work is never done," because it never is. Their advice will always be needed and wanted but that's all it is, advice. In the end it's ones own decision because it's ones own life.

Parents is like a teacher......very young age they just show/teach their kids..how to behave n do other things,they grasp easly...then development stage sometime our parents is our hero or ideal...Later we respect their ideas...and we put our views also....may be they will accept ...or they try to convince us...If they not able to convince us , they confuse us thats the main probs 😉 Adult stage...parents works as friendly/angry/normal consultent...i think so😊

Originally posted by: sareg

If it is me and my kids, it is the parents, i.e me

And what about the missus???😆

if it is anybody else's kids, I will leave that upto you whoever you want to choose, Parents, kids, the neighbours, Dr Phil, Oprah, Jerry Springer, Dyfus, nukkad ka paanwala or maybe the Govt I dont really care

When you said "me" for your kids, did you mean for the entire life time or up to a certain point?

I concur that I would decide good and bad, but only up until I can see that they are mature enough to make their own decisions (this could be when they are 16 or when they are 60 😆). After that, I will take a back seat and let them come for advice if they want.