Why I like KAnta chachi

I agree with all the posts in this forum about kanta chachi...

Because of her...Now I'm going to take a break in ZKM...Will watch old episodes for time being...

I'm breaking my fast and gonna share why i got hurt in seeing kanta chachi as bad yesterday...and also why I liked her most...

You know friends...We cant judge one person as good or bad with their habits...I read this quote somewhere..they even proved it by posting the habits of Hitler..who is a good husband...Disciplined person...Dont have any bad habits..But he is the reason for the second world war and massive destruction...

No one can judge anyone from distance or thru their habits...I liked Kanta chachi not because she is good mom like karuna to mehek...I feel her genuine care at times for mehek..when she sent mehek with ajay for party...everyone went to sleep...but she was worried that mehek is not home till 12...She sacrificed her sleep for her daughter like mehek...She love her...there s no doubt in that...Her over protective nature...Strict mom...which strangles mehek's neck many times...

My parents too somewhat like kanta chachi...But there is a difference between her and my parents...They wont agree for any of my wishes or desires...I always struggle or fight for that to get from my parents..When I finally decided to give up and give in to their demands...My parents will fulfill my wishes...You know guys...I will lose interest in enjoying the same for which i Fought with them...They intrude in all the phase of my life...

At once I thought they gonna shape kanta chachi's character like my parents...thats y i interested in that character much...

Forcing her to go for ISC and again forcing her to leave that in the middle...Same happened to me too(except shaurya like involvement)...I selected a career which my parents want and they literally forced me to accept that..And later they themselves wanted me to leave that...And like ISc big drama...Sth big happened to me involving my parents...So like mehek,..I left my job even without serving notice period..HR management threatened me to rejoin for almost one year and still I dinn get reliving order to join next job...Ok..lets dont go deeper...Its a different story altogether...😊

Then as Kanta chachi supported mehek...my parents too did the same...Like she arranged marriage for mehek without giving her time to move on...My parents started seeing alliance for me...I dont like this and yelled at them and finally they stopped and give me some time to study by sending me to Chennai...I was literally happy until flood interrupts..next was...My uncle demise...My cousin's marriage drama...I dinn clear my exam with few marks at short...

Now its my parents turn...as I promised...I lost and they won...Now I need to say Ok to the marriage...I did...And I already shared that in shantiaco's thread what happened with that proposal...I need to settle in US forgetting my dreams with that guy after marriage...And he dont get leave for more than 20 days...So,..marriage and engagement will be within this few days...I dont like this...I dinn see the guy but have to get married within 20 days...Finally it was stopped by my mom...

And now drama continues...I'm getting used to it...Whatever happens...both my parents love me more than they love themselves..I knew this well..They live for me...Whatever i did it ll have its impact on my parents...I dunno someone can love me more than my parents do...

Now say guys...How i will be disappointed in watching yesterday episode...what you guys think about my decision in taking a break from zkm is good or not...

sometimes my bro jokes that my life is gives tough competition to TV soaps with all spices...And he wants to produce a movie based on my life after he turned a billionaire...He even ask me for patent rights...😆

Originally posted by: Santiago24

Renu, after having read your post, I will say this much..

All parents... ok.. most normal parents love their kids, in fact love them obsessively, beyhadh etc etc.

The problem is not with the love - but the way the love manifests. In some cases, they will be the pillar of rock for kids and in some cases, their actions can be completely catastrophic.. Again, some parents let the children take the decision and be the guiding force and some parents, live vicariously through their children, using the kids to be fulfill their own unfulfilled dreams.

Am not taking a stance on which is right or wrong here, but just showing a mirror to the actual reality.

Its upto us kids to be informed and take a stand when we know we are being pushed in a direction that is not right or one that is not comfortable to begin with. Its our life - we have the right.

Else, albeit a character, the adjectives used for Mehak like meek, submissive, doormat.. spineless etc will be a reality and worse, still its not about the penury of those words, but the fact that one's life will be living hell coz of misdirected love.. Take a stand outright, as opposed to going through the whole turmoil and then getting freed of it in the aftermath. The emotional trauma is not worth it.

Anything in copious amount is harmful - be it love too..

I would say, help yurself first as we keep sayin in the forum, you need to help oneself first for Mehak.. before expecting others to do it..

Originally posted by: Santiago24

Renu, after having read your post, I will say this much..

All parents... ok.. most normal parents love their kids, in fact love them obsessively, beyhadh etc etc.

The problem is not with the love - but the way the love manifests. In some cases, they will be the pillar of rock for kids and in some cases, their actions can be completely catastrophic.. Again, some parents let the children take the decision and be the guiding force and some parents, live vicariously through their children, using the kids to be fulfill their own unfulfilled dreams.

couldnt agree more 👏👏👏

The way love manifests is really important thing...But we can change them till we have fire in our heart...Its mostly not about their unfulfilled dreams...Its about society..Relatives...our parents care about them than their own children which in turn makes them do sth catastrophic as u say...

Am not taking a stance on which is right or wrong here, but just showing a mirror to the actual reality.

yes we cant...we dunno which is right or wrong...only the sharing percentage varies...What is right for us is wrong for others...But reality is what we do to overcome that...

Its upto us kids to be informed and take a stand when we know we are being pushed in a direction that is not right or one that is not comfortable to begin with. Its our life - we have the right.

Again couldnt agree more..at the end of the day...Its our life...we have full rights to live our life...No one has any say in that be its our parents too...But again the way we do that really matters santi...Getting success by living our life is not at all a big thing...But sacrificing few to achieve what we want is what we need to do...

Else, albeit a character, the adjectives used for Mehak like meek, submissive, doormat.. spineless etc will be a reality and worse, still its not about the penury of those words, but the fact that one's life will be living hell coz of misdirected love.. Take a stand outright, as opposed to going through the whole turmoil and then getting freed of it in the aftermath. The emotional trauma is not worth it.

Being tolerating and crying in silence is not meek or submissive...or blah...blah...But as you said..misdirected love..It really matters a lot...Karnan failed to understand this thats why he died for duryodhana than being supportive to his brothers and his sister in law..you know..there is one thing,,,,think before you act... Sometimes as you said it will cause emotional trauma to us but when you put yourself in their shoes...you willl feel its better to experience this trauma for them..at the end...we knew our goal is the main thing which we shouldnt lose till we achieve or reach the destination you are confined to

Anything in copious amount is harmful - be it love too..

again couldnt agree more...Everything should be balanced to lead a simple and yet great life...

I would say, help yurself first as we keep sayin in the forum, you need to help oneself first for Mehak.. before expecting others to do it..

agreed..Standing for ourself is must before we stand for others...I never abduct myself away from my dreams...Be it demanded few things to sacrifice cox we need to pay price for everything in this world...It will definitely make you strong..No one can understand what you really are except yourself...so its your responsibility to satisfy and bring happiness to you...

Originally posted by: jey3ram

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