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Renu, i had written a post about chachi's POV sometime back, want to share it again. Though situations are a bit changed from that particular time now. But i still find it relevant to share it again with you. Text in bold is written by me today only.
In one's life trust that is bestowed upon you by your parents plays a very important role and simultaneously i strongly believe that after a point of time when you have crossed a particular threshold of education, age and mental level reciprocity is what matters. Initial faith shown by your parents need some cementing from a child's side too. In the case of mehak, i agree she was bound by some limitations which i believe were pretty normal citing the constraints Sharmas had as a family. But, along with that she was also provided with an ample space to grow as a person. Who gives the permission to let their daughter work in a dhaba even after knowing that it is a place where she will have to deal with all kind of people. I mean, there was no financial obligation put in front of her. Sole reason of allowing her was seeing her love for cooking.
- Most important thing which surprises me about her behaviour is, despite of seeing a family where women always had an equal say in decisions of the household, where the very foundation of a couple's relationship is respect for each other; how come she still settled and went behind a guy who treated her in the worst possible way someone can. Why did she decide to fight for love and left behind the respect in this entire process
- Kanta chachi has always been a pillar of support, where she trusted mehak and gave her blessings. Mehak's decisions and suggestions were always given priority over her real kids. Shouldn't it be enough to make a girl believe in herself and stand for her respect??What can we expect from a mother who sees her daughter everytime taking a decision which is not good for her life.
- In Kanta's case her being a little extra cautious is completely justifiable. She is not her real mother ( though she has showered her with all the love and care that a mother would have) and ultimately it is quite natural to have some insecurities deep down. If anything bad happens with mehak it is kanta who will be blamed first and all that care and love will not matter for anyone pointing fingers at her and her family. And on the very same premise,is her worry to give mehak a settled and secure life a wrong thing?? We cannot ignore the fact that kanta chachi is bound to feel more responsible for mehak and she considers it as a duty to get her married in a nice family. I'll say, may be it is a kind of promise that she made to mehak's parents when they died in an accident.
- Burden of proving rightness of her decisions completely lies on mehak. She had been given her chances with full support of her family in background. But once your firm belief over something turns into idiocy, someone has to take the matters in control and in this case it is Kanta Chachi.
I personally don't consider marriage as a solution of this problem but seeing it from Kanta's perspective, i don't find it completely wrong either.
Here i am not trying to say that this should be the case everytime, but in mehak's case i really feel it was only her who could have convinced chachi about the genuineness and correctness of her decision, we have seen chachi believing her when mehak said she doesn't want to get married to anyone, chachi was ready to give her a chance, but once again the girl backed out of her own words. And citing the speed of everything that conspired around Sharmas, i feel chachi's fears can be justified)
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