Today's topic: CONSENT
This is one of the simplest concepts yet surprisingly incomprehensible in our society.
The reason it is so simple because there can be only two answers to this question.
- Yes, I agree.
- No, I do not agree.
Unlike other heavy questions of life, Consent has no grey area.
Yes means yes, no means no.
Yet it seems that this simple concept becomes murkier when it belongs to a woman.
No becomes - Yes, may be, sort of, kind of, I guess etc etc etc.
Yes becomes automatically implied.
Now comes the second part of Consent.
That is the right to give it.
Every human being has the right to give or not give consent for something that involves him and her personally and professionally.
If an adult human being is of sound mind and not under duress, they have the right to give consent for themselves.
No one else has the right to give consent for an adult person.
The law is clear on this and it's the same for all countries.
The only time one adult person can give consent for another person is when,
- They are related (Parents or spouse)
- The person on whose behalf the consent is being given is a minor (under 18). Even parents can't give consent for their children once they are over 18.
- The person on whose behalf the consent is being given is mentally unstable.
- The person on whose behalf the consent is being given is termed to be brain dead or in coma.
- The person giving the consent holds a power of attorney that gives him/her written permission to act on the other person's behalf
There is a reason intention has not been mentioned in any part of the law for consent is because well, FREE WILL is a basic human right.
Claiming that someone took away someone else's right to consent because he/she had good intention is violation of basic human right of free will and hence is not taken into consideration in any contract drafted in any country in any form whatsoever.
If Sonakshi takes away all Dev's company money and puts it in a Hedge Fund because she thinks it will make him richer. Should Dev forgive her and be grateful because her intention was good?
If one of Dev's employees tells Sonakshi that Dev's new product has a bug and if released it will destroy Dev's business and Sonakshi keeps mum because Dev is very excited about the product letting him go ahead with his planning, will Dev forgive her for her attempt to save his feelings by withholding the truth that can shatter his dream? Will her good intention count a whit then?
Would we expect him to forgive her regardless of the result?
No. At least money and business can be earned back. But health, once it's gone, can never be regained to its full capacity.
There are certain cases where intention matters and there are certain cases, intention doesn't matter a whit. Lying to someone that they are looking good in a dress they like is former, the situation CVs are showing is one of the later.
The funniest thing is that sitting in 21st century the fact that I am having to write a post on the meaning of consent is the biggest shame of our society.
EDITED:
Ishwari is now totally Sona's team. Hope it maintains when she finds out the truth.
Neha has now taken Ishwari's position in the "It's all about me" game. It's no longer about Riya's life being spared. Now it's all about Sonakshi has to be wrong. That's why her life needed to be sorted for Dev and Sonakshi's happy life.
Now as per spoiler, she will find out the truth that Dev was hiding. She will definitely use it against Sonakshi and it will destroy Dev more than Sona.
Karma is the biggest payback.
Tomorrow Dev will get a taste of his own medicine.
You see until now he had been holding all the cards and making people dance to his tunes.
He used his leverage to get Sona out of her job, to cancel Ritwik's loan, to take away Ranveer's job.
Yet, tomorrow, Ayan, that nobody little greedy punk, will take away his right to defend his sister and he will have to do as Ayan says without his FREE WILL or should I say, CONSENT?
He will now have to helplessly watch as his sister has to marry Ayan to save his lies or completely ruin his marriage including break everyone's heart and trust on him to save his sister's life.
What goes around comes around.
That's why they all say. Don't dig a hole for someone else for any intention, you might find yourself in it one day.
