Originally posted by: Shaavi
I would like to relate a few of my experiences. I think this
post is going to be a little long.
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When I was 9, my dad passed away. Till he was there everything
was good. I am the youngest in my family and since my dad loved girls, I was doubly
pampered and a little spoiled you can say. But after my dad's death everything changed
in a short period of time.
When my dad was there we had maid in the house who used to
the cleaning, dishes, laundry etc. My mom's task was to cook for us and take
care of us. Suddenly it was not like this anymore. I came to know about
relatives I did not even know existed. About cousins who were about my age but
were proficient in household chores. Within a short period of time I was being
compared to them and told how I lacked in the necessary skills. They became the
standard to which I was constantly measured.
My mom who had not asked anything other than studying from
me started becoming overbearing and asking me to make them my role models. She
wanted me to be like those cousins who cooked and cleaned in the house and had
hobbies like singing and embroidery. My hobbies are reading, watching movies,
listening to music etc. I never was really interested in cooking and cleaning
was boring to me. But I wanted to make my mom happy. So I started helping my
mom out and so everything she asked of me.
It was never enough. She always would point to the things I
did not do. Never really showed much appreciation to what I did do in the
house. She used to always criticize me. I always felt that my mom did not like
me at that time.
When I got married after college, I was not very proficient
in cooking. I knew a couple of things, that's all. I came to U. S.
For the first 2-3 months my used to just say that she missed
me and we used to have these kind of small tasks. After that all of a sudden
she broke down. Not crying but started apologizing to me saying that she now
realized how much work I actually did in the house. She said she was proud of
me and that I should forgive her for not telling me that before. She wanted me
to know how much she loved me and missed my companionship. She told me that I
was not just her daughter, but had become her friend too.
When she said those things, I was surprised. I did not
really know what to say to her. I mean when I thought she did not like me, she
had done what she did because of her fear of society. She did not want the
society to point any kind of finger at me or say any bad word against me. This
was her way of protecting me.
We can always say that she could have conveyed that in many
other ways. But for her, she did not see any other way. From her perspective,
she did not have any other way.
Brain is the one organ in our body which cannot be
transplanted from one person to another. Cause it learns about you. Why a
person does what he does is because of what he knows and his experiences.
Here Dev loves Sona to the moon and back. For him she is his
life and a person usually goes to great lengths to preserve it, keep it happy.
This is what Dev is trying to do.
Ethically and maybe morally what he is doing is wrong. But
unfortunately, his upbringing and the current situation he is in is making him do
all these things. He wants Sonakshi to have all the happiness in the world and
he wants it at any cost.
<p>But this is also not a situation where he can hide this for
long. It will come out. He will hurt her. But hurting her and himself in the
process is needed for him to confront his mother and brign her down from her
pedestal. He needs a big push and this situation is going to give him that. It
will let him to finally face not just his mom, but his family and also his
past. Only then both Dev and Ishwari can come out of their bubbles and false
images of each other and grow.
Eagerly looking forward to this track...
