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Kavyanjali

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Posted: 8 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: tanvismile

Your reasons totally justified . May be if his relationship with vandana was fine then he wouldn't have depended on saanjh. So whatever may be the reasons it doesn't change the fact they are almost like hubby wife . . . Largely dependent on each other. The relationship isn't like normal friends so that's why there is no space between them .No space means no space for third party s per arjun s words and also explains the overinterfering saanjh behaviour.

I won't say Husband-Wife alike... even a mother or sister does the things which Saanjh does for Arjun & since doesn't have a sister to replace the lack of mother figure, he seeks that emotional comfort in next best option, his best friend - Saanjh. Now before there wasn't any space or third party because it never came... I mean till nowthe people around then had always seen them joined besides each other and/or want them together forever... Now with Maya's entry the equations have started to change & the cracks have started to form, they acknowledge it or not.

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tanvismile

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Posted: 8 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: kavyanjali08

I won't say Husband-Wife alike... even a mother or sister does the things which Saanjh does for Arjun & since doesn't have a sister to replace the lack of mother figure, he seeks that emotional comfort in next best option, his best friend - Saanjh. Now before there wasn't any space or third party because it never came... I mean till nowthe people around then had always seen them joined besides each other and/or want them together forever... Now with Maya's entry the equations have started to change & the cracks have started to form, they acknowledge it or not.

Call it anything but their relationship is deep then friendship. Cracks may be formed and they may be distance . . . Which is rebuilt saanjh as human and arjun the duffer will come back to her . . . . .

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Kavyanjali

@kavyanjali08

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Posted: 8 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: tanvismile

Call it anything but their relationship is deep then friendship. Cracks may be formed and they may be distance . . . Which is rebuilt saanjh as human and arjun the duffer will come back to her . . . . .

Yes they share deep rooted friendship & yes cracks can be rebuilt... but accept it or not, things would never be the same again, also even with rekindled relationship I don't think love will come along the way... If broken once no matter how good you join them but the cracks of breaking is always there... so even with rekindled relationships, nothing will ever go back like it was before...the side-effects will forever be there, no matter how sublet or supresses but it would always be there just below the surface.

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Posted: 8 years ago

#24

I think they're as bad as each other and they're both to blame. See, all was well between them until Saanjh fell for Arjun. Now thats something that cant be helped, it was only natural one would eventually fall for the other and you cant help who you fall in love with.

Suddenly, things that once wouldnt mean anything to you and you'd laugh off, start to get to you. You become more sensitive to things. Arjun is naive and immature, hes always been that way, and for him the friendship is just the same as it was when they were younger. For Saanjh on the other hand, things are different now because she has feelings for him.

At the end of the day it comes down to honesty and good communication. They're the foundation of a good relationship. Saanjh should have been open and honest with him a long time ago and Arjun needs to grow up and be a bit more self aware and considerate.

Sadly, this is a one sided love. Even if Saanjh told Arjun how she felt and he told her he doesnt feel the same way, i very much doubt the friendship would have remained the same.

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Posted: 8 years ago

#25

Hello!

I don't think I can blame someone for falling in love, whether that person is a best friend or not. It happens to the best of us and for some not at all. Those are feelings which can't be controlled.

That being said, I don't like how Saanjh can't see that he doesn't feel the same way (neither does Maya, but I will stick to Saanjh for this post). Or maybe she does and she thinks it will change. This I think almost everyone has been at fault for that at some point during a one sided crush in real life. It'll lead to her heartbreak for sure.

Now, to the actual friendship being broken, I blame Arjun. Before Saanjh's feelings came out and made their friendship awkward, Arjun's idiotic lines such as "you are jealous of me" beat her to it.

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Edited by starasdf - 8 years ago

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tanvismile

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Posted: 8 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: kavyanjali08

<font color="#993333" face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Yes they share deep rooted friendship & yes cracks can be rebuilt... but accept it or not, things would never be the same again, also even with rekindled relationship I don't think love will come along the way... If broken once no matter how good you join them but the cracks of breaking is always there... so even with rekindled relationships, nothing will ever go back like it was before...the side-effects will forever be there, no matter how sublet or supresses but it would always be there just below the surface.</font>

See when it comes to relationships one cannot say what's going to happen.There are always possibilities.Coming to Saajun ..in the show their friendship will always survive no matter what .There might be huge fights now ...but surely they I get back together.You called their relation mother son ...remember its the huge bond ...because a mother s love is selfless ...Arjun is lucky get that love and friendship in saanjh ...In testing times mother never leaves the child rather protects him .It's also said saanjh is fight case for arjun.Time and again it's hinted she will become his shield .

Coming to love between arjun and saanjh ..we can't decide that he unrealized feelings based on that jeetu incident...There was a show showcasing two best friends ...the girl realised her love but the boy immature to understand .The boy was happy innitially jfor the girl just like arjun during jeetu incident .But later as days started passing by ...he slowly started realizing.So arjun being duffer I dint expect him to understand him.Arjun will truly realise when saanjh moves away from him which has never happened till today.

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Kavyanjali

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Posted: 8 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: tanvismile

See when it comes to relationships one cannot say what's going to happen.There are always possibilities.Coming to Saajun ..in the show their friendship will always survive no matter what .There might be huge fights now ...but surely they I get back together.You called their relation mother son ...remember its the huge bond ...because a mother s love is selfless ...Arjun is lucky get that love and friendship in saanjh ...In testing times mother never leaves the child rather protects him .It's also said saanjh is fight case for arjun.Time and again it's hinted she will become his shield .

Coming to love between arjun and saanjh ..we can't decide that he unrealized feelings based on that jeetu incident...There was a show showcasing two best friends ...the girl realised her love but the boy immature to understand .The boy was happy innitially jfor the girl just like arjun during jeetu incident .But later as days started passing by ...he slowly started realizing.So arjun being duffer I dint expect him to understand him.Arjun will truly realise when saanjh moves away from him which has never happened till today.

I'm not saying that friendship between Arjun-Saanjh is going to end for forever... no that isn't possible because no matter how much they fight, they'll always patch-up. But despite patching up, things wouldn't be the same... sublime or sublet or surpassed but the changing dynamics in there relationship would happen & be there, acknowledged or not. Agreed time and again it is hinted that Saanjh would be shielding him but time & again it is also hinted that Maya would take priority place in Arjun's life which is now od Saanjh's & even though he reconciles with Saanjh, Maya would still be part of his life... a very important part, in the place where once Saanjh was. You know I find Arjun & Maya have rather more similarities than one notices...I mean isn't hidden fact that Maya has shut everyone out of her life mostly & though Arjun seems frank & open, especially with Saanjh...I think there is a part he has closed from her also & though she understands it to a quite extend as to knowing him for so many years, she hasn't quite completely got it to open to her. I feel Maya understands some of Arjun's major issues better than Saanjh... e.g. take Arjun's bad relationship with Vandhana.. Saanjh always try to push him in mending it but I don't think she herself understands the real problem Arjun has in accepting Vandhana.. it is some thing that Saanjh can only sympathize with because she has perfect parents & family, also being a happy-go-lucky girl hardly had any family hardship. While Maya would empathize with Arjun on this because of her own traumatized childhood & the worst parents she had which definitely was anything but a good experience for her... and isn't the whole parents & bad past the whole lot of major issues which had shaped Arjun-Maya the way they're. Despite Arjun seeming to be the most predictable character, he had his own complexities & cynicism.

Now getting to Arjun's reaction over Saanjh having a relationship with someone else... well I'm not talking about only Jeetu incident her. If you remember Arjun's 1st Photoshoot where he fought with a model because of Saanjh... she tried to get Arjun jealous by flirting back with the model guy & Arjun hardly cares... I mean at least he should've felt something like 'why is Dusky talking to that guy & almost getting herself a date when she came here for my photoshoot..?' Arjun should've felt like being sidelined or gotten little possessive for his best friend's attention but he rather warned the other guy not to misbehave with his best friend... Arjun never feels insecure about Saanjh moving away because he knows one day someone will come in her life but he also knows that as a friend, she'll always be there to back him up. Uske liye Saanjh is only a friend whatsoever... even without Maya there, he never sees her anything beyond that... it's like the whole philosophy of Alizeh 'Pyaar junoon hai but dosti mein sukoon hai..' & Saanjh is Arjun's that 'Sukoon' which he has always hinted and keeps saying one way or another and even shown in his actions but then again he doesn't want to complicate it with 'Pyaar ka junoon' ever...

Edited by kavyanjali08 - 8 years ago

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tanvismile

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Posted: 8 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: kavyanjali08

I'm not saying that friendship between Arjun-Saanjh is going to end for forever... no that isn't possible because no matter how much they fight, they'll always patch-up. But despite patching up, things wouldn't be the same... sublime or sublet or surpassed but the changing dynamics in there relationship would happen & be there, acknowledged or not. Agreed time and again it is hinted that Saanjh would be shielding him but time & again it is also hinted that Maya would take priority place in Arjun's life which is now od Saanjh's & even though he reconciles with Saanjh, Maya would still be part of his life... a very important part, in the place where once Saanjh was. You know I find Arjun & Maya have rather more similarities than one notices...I mean isn't hidden fact that Maya has shut everyone out of her life mostly & though Arjun seems frank & open, especially with Saanjh...I think there is a part he has closed from her also & though she understands it to a quite extend as to knowing him for so many years, she hasn't quite completely got it to open to her. I feel Maya understands some of Arjun's major issues better than Saanjh... e.g. take Arjun's bad relationship with Vandhana..Saanjh always try to push him in mending it but I don't think she herself understands the real problem Arjun has in accepting Vandhana.. it is some thing that Saanjh can only sympathize with because she has perfect parents & family, also being a happy-go-lucky girl hardly had any family hardship. While Maya would empathize with Arjun on this because of her own traumatized childhood & the worst parents she had which definitely was anything but a good experience for her... and isn't the whole parents & bad past the whole lot of major issues which had shaped Arjun-Maya the way they're. Despite Arjun seeming to be the most predictable character, he had his own complexities & cynicism.

Now getting to Arjun's reaction over Saanjh having a relationship with someone else... well I'm not talking about only Jeetu incident her. If you remember Arjun's 1st Photoshoot where he fought with a model because of Saanjh... she tried to get Arjun jealous by flirting back with the model guy & Arjun hardly cares... I mean at least he should've felt something like 'why is Dusky talking to that guy & almost getting herself a date when she came here for my photoshoot..?' Arjun should've felt like being sidelined or gotten little possessive for his best friend's attention but he rather warned the other guy not to misbehave with his best friend... Arjun never feels insecure about Saanjh moving away because he knows one day someone will come in her life but he also knows that as a friend, she'll always be there to back him up. Uske liye Saanjh is only a friend whatsoever... even without Maya there, he never sees her anything beyond that... it's like the whole philosophy of Alizeh 'Pyaar junoon hai but dosti mein sukoon hai..' & Saanjh is Arjun's that 'Sukoon' which he has always hinted and keeps saying one way or another and even shown in his actions but then again he doesn't want to complicate it with 'Pyaar ka junoon' ever...

Red -I don't think saanjh was his priority. Maya can never take place saanjh position in arjun s life . Just like he could never give his mother s position to vandana. Although vandana always tried to create her own position.

Green Maya isn't matured to understand her own issues . . . What will she understand arjun s issues ? Even if she understands his issues she wouldn't solve it rather take advantage of it and make him away from his family.

Pink - As I have said before arjun has never been insecure because of unconditional love of saanjh . Even when she is very very angry . . . He knows she will melt. He always counts . . . . Before he could finish counts . . . Saanjh is always back to normal. Insecurity enters when there is fear of losing . . .Deep down he cannot imagine that saanjh will ever leave him.He is only going to realise when maya will break his all ties and make him alone.

That day isn't too far . . . We l get our answers . I personally feel just because he hasn't shown any feelings doesn't mean he only considers as friend . . . It's not 10 year old friendship . . It's a very strong lifetime relationship . . . In a certain relationship insecurities can creep in easily but a relationship which is existed from 6 years of age . . . .

N ways let's agree to disagree and leave it here . . . I respect your opinion but I disagree . .

Edited by tanvismile - 8 years ago

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SStephy

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Posted: 8 years ago

#29

I wouldn't blame Saanjh for this. She does have feelings for Arjun and it's ok to fall in love with a friend... but her feelings had nothing to do with the fight between Arjun and Saanjh. She would have questioned about Maya's intention to Arjun even if she wasn't in love with Arjun... as a best friend she will still be concerned for the way Arjun has got his head in the clouds and doesn't seem to realise why Maya is promoting him all of a sudden.

I would blame only Arjun here... granted that he thinks Saanjh's opinion is wrong, but he did go overboard when he said that Saanjh was jealous of his success. This harsh thing that he said rashly is the breaking point, not Saanjh's feelings.