Today I will talk about something very underrated - Balance.
Balance is very important in life.
These days people have multiple priorities and without balance it's impossible to do justice to all of them.
For example, let's take cooking.
Say you have a sweet tooth. So when you make a dish, even dal, may be you prefer the sweet kind instead of the savoury kind.
Now the new person who moved in with you may not have a sweet tooth, but they are willing to have a sweeter than usual dal for your sake.
But what happens if you pour in two cups of sugar in the dal because that's what you used to make before this new person came in? That person won't be able to eat it and starve.
The excuse that that's how it always been won't cut it then.
A person, who knows how to balance, would reduce the sugar amount in dal and prepare a sweet dish as a side to manage the sugar craving of others. They won't deprive the new person for the sake of the old ones. That's being considerate.
Now let's take another example.
Say, you get on a bus and you see that one person is sitting in a window seat and has her bag on every other seat, occupying more than her deserved space.
Not only that, every surface in the bus is occupied with the woman's stuff, so there's no other space left.
You ask the driver to ask the person to stay within her space and to make space for you.
The driver replies, Sorry ma'm. She is a long-time customer and she travels every day. So she gets to occupy any place she wants. You can only get a space if she allows.
You reply, But that's not fair. I paid my fare and when you took the payment, you made a commitment to treat me like any other passenger of yours. Why should I give MY space to YOUR long-time customer? I am not asking for you to give her space to me. Whatever arrangement you had was between two of you. If she gets to occupy all space and decide who can get a space and who can't, then you should have put a reserved board on the bus and not take any new passengers. Why did you let me in?
The driver replies, Well, ma'm. I can't explain why this situation is fair. But when you bought the ticket, you were told that this bus has restricted routes. So you have to be more understanding.
You respond, You informed me of the restricted routes. But you also told me that our destination is the same. Since the journey was long anyway, I didn't care on which route you decide to take. I still don't care which route you go as long as we reach the same destination. But you never said that I have to be standing up waiting for my turn for that woman to give me an inch this entire long journey. No one would have got on the bus with no way out on that condition. This was incredibly misleading.
Now there are three options for the new passenger.
She can still jump out of the bus. Yes, she will get some bruises and may be have a scar. But next time she won't make the same mistake.
Or she can convince the bus driver why it's unfair and fight for her rights.
Or she can keep standing in hopes of beautiful scenery that was promised to her in this journey and try to divert her attention from the unfair treatment, waiting for her turn until fatigue sets in her leg and eventually the whole body. Which then turns into anger and bitterness so that when the woman finally leaves the bus, the new passenger who is by that time also a long-time passenger occupies all the seats and shells out the same treatment to any new passengers and the cycle continues.
Again, a balanced person would have told his long-time passenger that he is expecting a new passenger, so please keep within her space. Now they both have to make an effort so that the new passenger feels welcome.
As well as make sure the old passenger understand her designated area, so that she doesn't approach the new passenger's area and the new passenger doesn't feel discomfort or regret her decision to board the bus in the first place.
And because the new passenger is comfortable, they all will have a happy long journey and when the old passenger gets down and new passenger walks in, the new passenger (who would be a long-time passenger by then) will happily make a space for her and a happier cycle will continue.
That's called fairness.
Here the long-time passenger is Ishwari, the new passenger is Sonakshi, the driver is Dev and the bus is his life.
When a relationship crosses its boundaries, it has to be put back in its place. Because both time and life is precious because it's limited. Letting a relationship cross its space means it will occupy some other relationship's space depriving the rights of that relationship. And that's not fair or justifiable by any excuse.
P.S. Sona lied with a loophole - SMART.
But the loophole is weak - STUPID.
Riya didn't mention today when Ishwari was fretting that she made plans to send Dev and Sona to spend time together. It was a surprise for Dev, not for Ishwari. But these siblings are so used to lying to their mother that they can't even tell the truth about doing the right thing.
If this was Nicky, she would have openly claimed that what an awesome sister she is to make all these plans.
Neha would have openly ask her mom what is her problem with a husband and wife being together.
But Riya is the stammering kind on whom Ishwari can easily run rough shed over. Cute, but not a strong ally.
On the other hand, hope Dev and Sona will be a little less frustrated and pay more attention to the situation around them after doing the deed so to speak.
BALANCE - PART 2: http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4736858&PID=137935599&#p137935599
Episode tied in Balance: Part 3 - http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4737011
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