Critical Inner voice of Ishwari !!

Believe me or not, todays episode just clued me to the screen opening up so many perspectives, For the first time beyond Devakshi , Ishwari's character bowled me over..no I didn't feel disgusted or angry or embarrassed but surprised at the guts of CVs to portray such delicate issue with such finesse. I was in awe actually!!

The whole episode was so neatly constructed that I didn't feel like a drama at all for two reasons, one I am seeing a similar but even worst kind of MIL (not mine) in real life and curious to see how she is helped ...second very much intrigued to see what circumstances make mothers so insecure.. CVs please handle this issue carefully because it can be an eye opener for many and for once it will be pathbreaking in Indian TV for dealing with real sensitive issue !!

Frankly whether we accept it or not, every parent has a hidden insecurity maybe even a pinch of jealousy towards their kids but they are never surfaced because they are compromised by one or the other way with the situations and relationships around them. To make my point clear, let me share an incident from my life..one day my husband came home fully drenched from an unexpected monsoon surprisingly followed by my parents equally drenched and both didn't happen to see each other. I was all smiles and brought two towels and gave one to each first to my husband and next to my dad and my mom helped him so I helped mine. After an hour , my mom told your dad is jealous that his daughter is no more his daughter but has become a wife of someone else as she is more attentive and prioritize him..we both burst into laughter and pulled my dad's leg.. Even today when either of my sons take my husband 's side over me, I get agitated and do bhaav khaoing😆..So what I am trying to say is its a part of human nature to feel insecure and feel jealous, what Ishwari has is the extended version of what we all have because she have no one else (or atleast thinks so) to build her world around again.

I never disliked Ishwari ( except for that prenup signature which is a totally misplaced scene by the CVs IMO) and don't want her to be termed as dysfunctional or psychotic or mentally unstable and demean a mother and her efforts. I researched and found something called "Critical Inner voice", which is an extreme case of insecurity and is formed out of painful early life experiences in which one witness or experience hurtful attitudes toward them or those close to them. As years go, they unconsciously adopt and integrate this pattern of destructive thoughts toward themselves and others." And that explains Ishwari !!

Ishwari never does anything intentionally if we closely watch be it the pills havoc or today, she just uses the situation to her advantage in haste and then regret it later. Today her dormant insecure demons came crashing up when she saw her son valuing some one else other than her and her sense of fear that she is being replaced and will be left alone to struggle like how she survived years back. Even a normal MIL envy when her son treats her DIL special in front of her, here its Ishwari for whom her only source of livelihood is her Son's acknowledgment and concern, the insecurity level tend to raise sky high.

Ishwari never know whether Devakshi consummated their first night so her planning to postpone there union gets nullified here ! What she tried today is the impulsive reaction of her extreme insecurity and a tint of jealousy seeing the sudden changes in her Son. I am sure she will be shown to regret for her action once she senses the blunder she tried .

What Ishwari need is little help and assurance from both Dev and Sona instead ignoring her might complicate things. But all this will be a long process because first Sona needs to learn Ishwari's problems and then Dev realize the complexity involved and I wish both Devakshi join together and make this journey of completing the family !!

Its very easy to ask Sona leave Ishwari and concentrate on her husband now that he is ladoo all over her but whats next? An illness can never be cured by the outer bandage but will be by treating the inner root cause !! Call me old school but family is not just you and me but its "We" and that we here includes both Bose and Dixit family for Devakshi !!

If CVs can maintain this understanding and care between Devakshi throughout , am sure this track will be one hell of a treat to all !! Me for once very excited to see what unfolds next !!

More than yesterday , today's episode pulled me to make some time to post this because this is quite a new expericence in a serial I have watched so far..

Lastly Supriyaji Take a bow !!! You deserve all the accolades !!👏

Thanks for sharing your personal life story and thoughts! Lovely read :)

It is nice to read different perspective on Ishwari. I never hated Ishwari. I have seen Mom/MIL feeling insecure. Ishwari case is a little extreme. Even my mom does not like if I talk to my friends for long time. She complains you get time for your friends but not for me. She was not like this few years back. As they grow older, parents wants kids to give more importance to them.

Liked what you wrote TM.. nice to see a different way of looking at it. I also never hated Ishwari but her today's behavior was really confusing and disturbing. There is definitely some psychological issue which needs to be dealt with delicately. Sadly I don't think CV's care that much.. as long as they get to show drama they wouldn't care about butchering couple of characters in the process

I second every sentence what u wrote!
Firstly I want to applaud u for your postings.. I became frequent visitor to this forum since when KRKPB started and I read yours and others postings but I must say I was very very impressed by your thoughts on each character or about the episodes.
Even I agree with this topic about Ishwari's personality. I see people commenting negative about Ishwari's character but let me Tell you whether anyone believes it or not or think it's too dramatic but in reality this type of personalities do exists 8 out of 10 MIL's are just like Ishwari ... they may not be exactly the same but possess different types of insecurities ...
Forget about others in my own family they do exists ...so I'm not seeing any unrealistic here ... and let me tell u they are not bad people either but due to family background or whether it is insecurity of taking over the family head position or possessiveness for the son or could be any other reason but the truth is many women in India are like Ishwari ...
The good part is now the viewers have to learn something about these kind of issues and learn to resolve them
We need to take a benefit of watching such good enlightening serials and instead of just criticizing the character of Ishwari... if we start criticizing every damn thing or on cvs then that means we are axing out the good work\script.
I'm NOT excepting or want the cvs to change the Ishwari character or present track of KRPKAB as I truely beleive in what they showing us

Amazing post deepa.I am in the same boat .. I dont hate ishwari but i understand it is difficult for her to accept changes that are coming her way at super sonic speed. Mr desperate dixit ks not helping the situation. I hope once he and sona understand ishwaris insecurities they will be discrete about their PDA.
Very glued in to the current track..

Hi Deepsel ( is that really your name..)😊

Thank you for the positive post again 🤗. Ishwari remind me of my grandmother. She have same problem with my mom. My grandfather past away when my dad was 2 year old. So my grandmother did all the struggle just like Ishwari. The only difference is that my mom is my grandmother's choice. But still she always try to keep my dad away. Even if they want to go for movie they need to ask permission. I loved my mom's fighting spirit. Then we grow up and started to take my mom's side. So today when. I saw Ishwari trying to keep lovebirds separate . The more she try the more they become desperate 😉. I will love that.