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Ok so i thought of writing about what is my take on sona's attire issue since lately it has become a hot topic of discussion and debate in this forum. First of all i would like to clarify one thing i dont think sona is being selfish here. Sona and neha's situation are not the same. Its their tradtion to wear lehengas for their wedding. So neha's in laws sent one, of their choices, which neha didnt like at first but later on agreed to it when sona convinced her. But here it was known from the beginning that the wedding would take place following bengali rituals bijoy made it very clear during the time when ishwari went to him along withother members of the family. So she should have been more sensible before picking that dress for sona to wear for her wedding. Had she given a saree i have no doubt that the bose's would have accepted that. But no she is hell bent on having things work out her own way. She is used to having all her wishes fulfilled so not even for a single time she is ready to adjust with anything. Like dev said its not that only ishwari's son is getting married, asha and bijoy's daughter is also getting married. But ishwari is so blinded by her own sentiments and happiness that she ends up disrespecting others even if its done unintentionally. Had asha wanted she could have forced dev to wear a dhoti punjabi and a topor instead of a sehra or a sherwani. But they didnt even think of doing so coz thats the difference between the bose family and ishwari. They know how to value others emotions and sentiments unlike ishwari who is too self centred. So no i dont think sona was wrong in making this choice coz ishwari's motive was not just to see sona in that 'apni' way which sona wished to convey to neha on the lehenga issue rather here also she was trying to assert and impose herself without caring a damn about the bose family's sentiments, rituals, feelings. Infact i am glad that sona didnt choose it for her wedding. Somebody had to show ishwari that she cant always have everything her way and its not the price that decides the worth of an attire but the feelings that remain associated with it which is what makes it priceless. These little emotions matter a lot which ishwari should learn to value. Had i been in sona's place i would have also done the same. Its not about impositions but the genunity of the feelings should matter the most. I have no objection in her wearing the lehenga for her reception. Whenever we are criticising sona i cant help but think we are ourselves becoming stereotypical we havent said for once that dev should have worn a topor to look the bose family's 'apna' but we are raising hues and cries over why sona is not wearing the lehenga to appear as ishwari's apni.the liberty should be there fir both sides since its a cross cultural marriage and not within the same culture as was in the case of neha and ranveer. So this comparison between the two cases is itself irrelevant. Both traditions and customs should be given parity in such cases so 7 find no fault in the wedding get ups of the bride and groom which represents a perfect blend of culture rather than competing over one another for superiority
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Anupamaa
