ALL Hotstar Before TV Spoilers-Post Here ONLY #2[VB Note :pg 54]

Originally posted by: vivacious_gurl

Sorry Mods I'm extending the already extended thread... But this post needs to be here for continuation of discussion happening..

We talk about women wanting someone atleast as better off as they are... Don't men want that? In today's world... Especially guys from lower, middle and upper middle want a working woman so that they can make their dreams true earlier... Women want a career to be financially independent... Today compatibility issues result in divorces very soon... Women can't depend on their men for all financial support... They need to be independent... Even in live marriages, guys chose women who r doing as well as them in career but post marriage they expect women to take charge of house n yet work as hard outside..

I'm speaking from personal experience... N I don't believe either stereo type that men shud earn more then women.. I married a guy I was in love with... We had a two states kinda wedding... A guy from North marrying a girl from South... I was already working post MBA for an yr n he did his MBA a yr later so he was just outta b school... I spent all my savings on wedding N HM.. N then there were three yrs where I was earning 30% higher than him... So we're v stereotypes... Nopes... After 5 yrs of marriage I took a break for family planning as I was in a very hectic job... He was all supportive... But come baby I had to join back work when baby was an yr old coz of our home loan... Work at office.. Morning get baby ready, send him to day care.. Go to office... Come back.. Get the child.. Spend time with him.. Make him sleep... Get back to work.. N then sleep by 1 am.. Wake in the night if child is crying... All was just my job... Now me on maternity leave as V had our second baby four months ago... I got to join back in Nov... Do I hv a choice to c back n take care of kids... Nopes... We hv a home loan to take care of.. Do I hv in law back up.. Nopes... Who takes care of both kids, home n work... It will all be me... Am I happy... No not at all... I'm sleep deprived n tired... I want a break... Do I get it... Nopes... This is the truth bout our society... Now men want educated women but won't share household duties... Time has come to change mentality.. N who shud do it... Mothers of sons. I hv started that with training my elder son who is 3.5 yrs that there is no work which is defined for men n women... He helps me with everything... Same I will teach the younger one who is now 4 months old... I don't want my DILs to suffer the way I am doing... Do I try changing my hubby... Sure I do... But the effect stays for a week n then it's back to same old thing. I hvnt given up though... Will keep trying... Or else one day will run away n s how he manages house, kids n work without me... Will come bCk only when I'm sure he will contribute equally coz I contribute equally to household expenses n home loan... Uff... Vented out frustration..

Originally posted by: YeHoKyaRahaHai

Yaay!

My most favourite thread on this forum...thanks Nish 👍🏼

Originally posted by: Crazy4Mayur

And it has become my fav.too these days...we end up having better n peaceful discussions here than other places 😆