A Conflict - Trust vs Insecurity : A Shramanalysis

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LIKEDMG

@LIKEDMG

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Posted: 9 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: nith125

Thank you ! Agree with you on both your points. I found the precap to be a bit bizarre.
"Kya woh mere Naana ji nahi hain ? Bachpan se leke jo pyaar ka rishta tha woh jhat se thod diya tumne ? "
I don't know what Sumo did or said but they have a communication problem for sure 😛

I donno ..they r childhood friends but too much communication prob...one says something other gets diff meaning vice versa..

Nice post ...

Edited by LIKEDMG - 9 years ago

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Joyness

@Joyness

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Posted: 9 years ago

#12

Your analysis is very good but the way things are being shown it os all leading to adi sumanmarriage. I feel cvs could have shown shraman fights but along with it they should have to show their understanding and bonding grow...but that is missing which was so there in the earlier episods...its like some other writers are writing and so the disconnect

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idonkno

@idonkno

Dazzler

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Posted: 9 years ago

#13

When a person is at their most insecure - it is all about personal survival. They don't mean to hurt, but they often do.

Shravan's insecurities stem from a critical inner voice that he has internalized based on the negative experiences of his past and has been carrying it like a cruel coach inside his head since then. Ramnath's words, Suman's constant blows and the circumstances are making him perceive things through the filter of his critical inner voice - it is this voice that is challenging his core feelings and taking him far away from his comfort zone by opening up unresolved wounds from his past...

Shravan has gone through the feeling of being abandoned by his mother in the past (as well as Sumo when he needed a friend) and Suman's current distant behavior has sent him back into the emotional state of that terrified child, who needed his mother for survival (and his best friend too)...He's subconsciously equating Suman and Nirmala in order to protect himself from facing that painful occurrence again - (its an adaptive mechanism called transference)

Personal perceptions are subjective and conditional - often dependent of our emotional state - thereby leading to misinterpretation or a missed understanding - that can cause trouble for relationships. That is what Shravan is facing at the moment.

In moments of emotional threat our perceptions narrow to black or white categories. And that is why Shravan ends up throwing absolute allegations on Suman lately. With his mind steeped in fear and anger - it is making it impossible for him to recollect those instances (reassuring one's) that prove that his allegations are wrong - because it would mean letting down his guard.

It is not easy for anyone in this world to override the misinterpretation that are so deeply tied to our threat emotions because that would mean that we are exposing our self to renewed injury.

Awesome post Nith! Loved reading every bit of it :)

Edited by idonkno - 9 years ago

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Spandana

@sptrno

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 9 years ago

#14

Amazing wonderful beautiful as always dear...

TFS

Love,

Spandana

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nith125

@nith125

Dazzler

Posted: 9 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: jyotic74
Your analysis is very good but the way things are being shown it os all leading to adi sumanmarriage. I feel cvs could have shown shraman fights but along with it they should have to show their understanding and bonding grow...but that is missing which was so there in the earlier episods...its like some other writers are writing and so the disconnect

Thank you! And I agree, thw bonding has not been shown at all, that's why it is getting frustrating to watch.

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nith125

@nith125

Dazzler

Posted: 9 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: noexcuse
Awesome analysis.

Thank you ! Glad you liked it !

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nith125

@nith125

Dazzler

Posted: 9 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: idonkno
When a person is at their most insecure - it is all about personal survival. They don't mean to hurt, but they often do.

Shravan's insecurities stem from a critical inner voice that he has internalized based on the negative experiences of his past and has been carrying it like a cruel coach inside his head since then. Ramnath's words, Suman's constant blows and the circumstances are making him perceive things through the filter of his critical inner voice - it is this voice that is challenging his core feelings and taking him far away from his comfort zone by opening up unresolved wounds from his past...

Shravan has gone through the feeling of being abandoned by his mother in the past (as well as Sumo when he needed a friend) and Suman's current distant behavior has sent him back into the emotional state of that terrified child, who needed his mother for survival (and his best friend too)...He's subconsciously equating Suman and Nirmala in order to protect himself from facing that painful occurrence again - (its an adaptive mechanism called transference)

Personal perceptions are subjective and conditional - often dependent of our emotional state - thereby leading to misinterpretation or a missed understanding -that can cause trouble for relationships. That is what Shravan is facing at the moment.

In moments of emotional threat our perceptions narrow to black or white categories. And that is why Shravan ends up throwing absolute allegations on Suman lately. With his mind steeped in fear and anger - it is making it impossible for him to recollect those instances (reassuring one's) that prove that his allegations are wrong - because it would mean letting down his guard.

It is not easy for anyone in this world to override the misinterpretation that are so deeply tied to our threat emotions because that would mean that we are exposing our self to renewed injury.

Awesome post Nith! Loved reading every bit of it :)

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Yes that's what I meant. He himself says that he doesn't want to break again. Anger is just his coping mechanism. They very wounds that have taken years to heal are being renewed again and he wants to hide under his mask of anger. But I have faith it Sumo, she is "Sumo" after all.

Thank you 🤗