IKRS Monday 11th July 2016 ep 301 My Take ~ Emotional Stitch
It's a popular saying a stitch in time save nine!.. dealing promptly with a minor problem will prevent it from developing into a more complicated or larger scale issue. A stitch also means to sew or finish off binding a piece of material . Stitch can also suggest suturing or close a gaping wound. The episode touches upon an emotional stitch that Dulari and Dhani both suffer from unfaithful spouses. But under the needle also comes Viplav and Anshuman as well. Pastimes, past mistakes, long gone misunderstandings emerge in the present times again. Seems like a procedure is required this time to deal with the still existing cancer of dying close bonds. The slow killing cancer has to be stopped before it spreads to other parts of familial bonds and infects grandchildren. The episode then to me is like a medical procedure for the treatment of two broken marriages. The symptoms of the disease have been long standing .In Dulari's case twenty five years and in Dhani's case five years. During the symptomatic stages the patients have suffered loss of contact with their husbands and both Vidha and Dhani have missed out on crucial times with their fathers.. namely Viplav and Anshuman..
Show of infection in the emotional disease in the patients becomes evident when Dhani and Vidha come across Viplav at the wedding; and Viplav has the timely bump with Anshuman in the market. In the next instance the consultant Viplav joins heads with Dhani, has a hurried case conference and seeks her help in the termination of the emotional melanoma. As in all illnesses, the patient has to be told of the diagnosis and the prognosis of the disease, so Viplav briefs Dhani and suggests treatment should start rightaway! the hardest part of the treatment is actually informing the patients about the disease .. put forward the stages of the disease and the treatment available. Each patient responds to the news about their disease differently depending upon the stage of the illness. Dhani is shaken by the fact that she suffers from emotional trauma. But is willing to comply to be part of the treatment soon after with the help of the consultant. She does visit her father in question? Anshuman , with the result she feels healing already.. her mother Dulari ,though is the difficult patient who denies out right she has a wasting away disease. At the best of times she resists help and believes her pain comes and goes and she will survive.. like she has done so in the past!
Integral part of serious illnesses is patient support and counselling, as the patient often feels bitter about their illness being exposed, especially when the patient wants to keep it private. But as part of the treatment Viplav the consultant wants Dhani to find out what could be the possible causes of pain in Dulari? they know Anshuman s reason why he never contacted dulari as he assumed her dead. But they needed to know what kept Dulari away from him? but Dulari rejects Dhani's counselling in the opening of the episode.. shows anger and bitterness at Dhani for going along with Viplav in identifying her illness which she doesn't want support for.But For patient's family to persevere with the patient is crucial.. as Dhani does with her highly strung mother. It is common practice for the patient to throw things back in the supporters face! Here the classic case is Dulari telling Dhani instead of asking her about why she left Anshuman? Dhani should perhaps answer Viplav's question as to why she walked out on him five years ago! Overall there is some give and take of support from each other between Dhani and Dulari.. for a patient during treatment does need reassurance too, so Dhani explains to her mother, she is on her side as some wounds fill by the passing of time ,others need a procedure which is painful but if given a chance the operation can remove the tumour of broken relationships! Dulari gives Dhani a piece of advice too.. a hint almost answer Viplav's question!
Dulari's illness is almost like a boon and will provide a remedy for.. her daughters less suffered illness in terms of a time limit ,nevertheless if not given timely therapy and treatment Dhani's illness to has the potential to become as serious an illness like her mothers. Besides this the illness also provides the consultant Viplav to exchange notes with patient support, Dhani.. in his office! Dhani comes to his room to return his washed laundry. What wife thing to do! He wants to know if she got anything out of her mother? but Dhani replies she is uncompromising. Viplav is inherently a sensitive person.. and he does speak up for his patient ,i.e Dulari, he reminds Dhani her mother suffered unimaginably that too! for a period of twenty five years she is bound to smart beyond their understanding.. after all she grown to live without him for all those Viplav suggests then wants to add like he did for five years. Dhani actually studies his face , this man that she loves, how he puts others first always! Dhani begins to feel she should forgive him.. for betraying her ? so hard to do.. how will she bring herself to forgive him? The strong reason Dhani has to forgive Viplav for his infidelity as she sees it .. soon comes into Viplav's room the living symbol of the love they have Vidha! It's her birthday tomorrow! Viplav being the doting father promises her many pressies and both father and daughter kiss.. Dhani watches .. surely this bonding between Viplav and Vidha . something that she missed out with her own father is now in her hands.. would she allow Vidha too many happy returns of the day with Viplav her dad ,or will Dhani hold the kamini issue against Viplav for the next twenty five year?? Dhani shudders at the prospect.. Viplav on the other hand , no way is he going to live his life in utter remorse like anshuman!
The flower fairy's birthday is one of the best form of treatment that is dished out to all grieving parties.. with gifts from her demon uncle ,cake and balloons and an exchange of somewhat tearful smiles between Viplav and Dhani..certainly shows good prognosis of the illness that Dhani suffers from! But then again the colour of Viplav's love is to wait for Dhani to let him into her heart again.. he doesn't believe in sledge hammering his way into her heart! So when Parshiya turns up with his elaborate arrangements for Vidha's street birthday party, Viplav makes a graceful exit with tremendous grace and dignity. That which does not go unnoticed by dulari and she turns to Dhani and comments on Vidha being over the moon about her birthday party and the attention she was getting! Then Dulari says to Dhani, with much emotion on her face.. she noticed the tears in Viplav's eyes today, and she is sure he has committed no wrong! He has not wronged her..these words are useful for Dhani whose heart is already softening towards Viplav..due to his good deeds! #But then preaching forgiveness to others is easy than actually carrying out the ordeal. Anshuman comes bearing birthday gifts for Vidha.. Dulari turns them down! sharply.. refuses the treatment with abrasive language, both her daughter and granddaughter are not in the habit of going for expensive gifts! She bids him to take them back! With the view to hurt him! Dhani sees how strongly her mother suggests treatment to her issues with Viplav but herself rejects her father's attempts at making amends for his past failings.. not even Dhani can intervene her mother has made it her prerogative only! thus Anshuman is leaves sadly.
This lion is brave heart himself, giving up is not for him ! and what's more he will include Anshuman as part of treatment to cure kaki! Viplav stops Anshuman in his tracks, and asks to wait,tells him straight he may be younger then him, but since he is Dhani's father ,he wants to explain that kaki suffered for twenty five years.. she will not forgive him easily, he will need to give her support and win her with sensitivity.. him walking away from her now will not be conducive to her healing.. he needs to return and explain his stance fully and not be put off by her rebuttal fight her anger.. treat all as part of her illness that he has caused her! Viplav warns him not to repeat the same mistake of being oblivious to what caused her to stay away from him.. Viplav argues if Anshuman feels that he is in the right than go back to Dulari and clear her doubts and restore her! he should do away with the vanquished attitude and fight for his wife and daughter! With faith in his love which if its true will get him victory. He is about to leave. But Dhani hears Viplav's conversation, with her father .. she wonders, he is doing so much for her family , she's not sure if she can justify herself anymore for keeping the truth from Viplav any longer.. may be she should come clean with Viplav..
Parshiya reckons today is a happy occasion may be he should tell Dhani how he feels , but he defers it and is knee deep with party s arrangement. Dhani's worried about how he will foot the bill for such n extravaganza! He replies flippantly and wants Dhani to go inside and rest!
The greatest gifts for humans are their bonds and relationships.. for Dhani the presence of her father ,for Viplav the knowledge ofvidha as his daughter .. for anshuman a the gift of finding his long lost family!Dhaani comes back home and asks Dulaari what is she doing? Yes as inside the house dulari sorts Vidha's presents. Viplav brings into the room.. Anshuman the stiff dose to cure dulari..To relieve the pain of the receiving excruciating treatment Viplav as the consultant also as the son she never had! holds dulari's hand and begs her to hear anshuman out if she wants to get better!. Anshuman and dulari are deliberately throw in at the deep end! either they will swim or drown! Anshuman shows respect to dulari who stands with her back to him..he assures her , he will leave ,but at least tell her why she left? Viplav gives Dhani a pleading sided gaze.. that is the question he begs from her and she withholds to this day.. anshuman tells her he has been mourning her death since twenty five years! Duklari confronts him and mocks him.. some mourning he has done by remarrying and by having a daughter too! Men cannot wait to remarry! and start life again! Dhani and Viplav can relate to dulari's grief, it is so much like theirs! this was news for them too!Anshuman says I didn't marry again...Dulaari is speechless..
All these years she got it wrong! brought upon her illness by feeding herself sick on a misunderstanding! Anshuman proclaims before all he has the one wife whose name is dulari! Dulari again rejects the treatment , he calls him a liar! and mentions she knows about his daughter Piya!! He clarifies the child was an orphan which he thought the gods granted him as a replacement for a dead dulari! Emotions run high as revelations take place! But aushuman does ask dulari a crucial question and blames her too.. for keeping him away from his own daughter Dhani for twenty five years? She knew he was alive but she still donned the semblance of a widow?? Why ? dulari hasn't got a leg to stand on and Dhani and Viplav weep over the sad situation their parents find themselves in..
Well the whole episode of ironing things out..getting Dulari and Dhani treatment on the way to recovery..is courtesy of the jack of all trades Viplav .T.
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precap: Dulari asks ansuhman didn't his mother tell him about her. Anshuman replies, she showed me her saree and said she had drowned in the floods. Dulari says she kicked her out of the house when she was pregnant with Dhani. Anshuman says we have lived all these years in misunderstanding and says if she would have come back to him then they wouldn't have seen this day...
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