In matters of marriage, why do we Indians take everything to heart!! - Page 2

Btw, I am Nivi and this is my first ever message in this forum. An independent ,ziddi and ambitious woman as Ramnath described - but luckily with supportive families - both by birth and by law.. So lemme share my own experience.. Luckily there was no demands or dowry in my marriage - if there was any , it wouldn't have happened for sure!! Me and my family was very much sure on that..

But still , my dad made sure to give me enough gold (what he could afford) and have all ceremonies happen as per the society standard!! I fought a lot against it that time.. But he didn't want to take any chance ,irrespective of being with liberal views on all these.. I still remember one thing he said - if he was boy's father, he would have definitely supported a simple marriage and would have tried to convince girl's family on same.. I am sure he would have definitely done that!!

Now I am a mother of 5 year old.. I sincerely hope she also grows up to an independent and ambitious girl , who can win the battle I lost.. and i will definitely support her for sure.. But main point I learnt is that its not a fight we can win alone.. the boy should be on same page and could convince his family himself.. I really hope picture really changes after 20 years...Hoping for best 😊

And i think most practical thing each of us can do is - if we are from Boy's family , try to spread this idea.. that will be the best start.. Than starting it from girl's side.. I really wanted to do it, if my kid was a boy.. not that i regret it a bit 😊