Random Thought Bucket - Page 3

Originally posted by: naq5

i truly understand neha. shes used to a certain lifestyle and looks for the same in her future life too. Frankly speaking though i understand that one should be satisfied with what they have, there is nothing wrong in wanting to grow financially or wanting to have a better life, and you do not need to take anyones favour for it.. though i do not want ranveer to take dev's help i want him to see at least wanting to grow on his own. But i do not see that wish in ranveer. he does not want to grow financially nor see him wanting to give some luxuries to his family. leave alone luxuries not even comforts that medium middle class people have. Love is important but then that love also makes you do all these things for your family.

And its not only the girl who has to adjust, its also about the boy who has to adjust. ranveer is not willing to adjust with his mindset. he can love and understand neha but he is not willing to earn more for her.I feel neha dosent wish for a lifestyle like her present but she wishes for some extra comforts which she will not be able to adjust without. For your families happiness and comforts you do have to work hard and sacrifice a little.

Originally posted by: Loveforlife

Aww Sam..That was wonderful!

I especially love Ishwari Sona equation that is at the moment. The easy rapport between them. But as you have mentioned this relationship will change after the labels change. The day Dev tells Ishwari he wants to marry because he loves some one, Ishwari's is going to get maha insecured because she may tolerate marriage of convenience between Dev and Nats but Dev's loving someone outside their family will be a matter of contention and unbearable for her.

Loved loved loved what you have written about Dev and his arrogance related to the power of money.

Neha is a very real character. How easily she puts the burden of her happiness on others.

Baki...Sona and Dev... One knows and the other on the verge of knowing.. With Neel complicating things for them... Superb!

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

I completely agree with you! Neha should not be ashamed that she wants a certain kind of lifestyle for the rest of her life, and I certainly don't endorse the idea that she should be the one doing all the adjustment just because she is a woman, or because Ranveer's life is more "noble." That said, I also don't have a problem with Ranveer's priorities. His family is happy and he gets to do what he loves. No doubt, Ranveer should adjust as well if the relationship with Neha is important to him, but my issue is that he is not being given the opportunity to do so. Ranveer has been honest with Neha from the beginning about what his family is like and what his priorities are. He is therefore giving Neha the all the information for her consideration. Neha has not been as honest, and therefore hasn't even given Ranveer a fair chance. How can we know how much he'd be willing to adjust if he hasn't even been given all the relevant information? Rather than confronting him with her desires honestly, Neha is trying to manipulate Ranveer into accepting a different kind of lifestyle, without his full knowledge. That lack of honesty is what I don't approve of in Neha's behaviour. As hard as it may be for her, she needs to learn to trust him if they are to have any real relationship.

Originally posted by: naq5

yes ranveer has been honest. hes shown neha how his family is what kind of condition they are in and told her that "this is what i can give you , ill give you love though... He dint tell her i will work hard and do something so that this lifestyle of ours gets better" he dint give her hope regarding that front.

So that is why neha is behaving that way. Though i believe neha is doing a wrong thing by not confronting him directly about it. But somewhere i also know that ranveer already knows that neha is scared of poverty, he knows it yet wants her to adjust with him in his present condition, because he believes if a person loves they will adjust, while he forgets that even he has to adjust his priorities for neha. I am not asking ranveer to give neha a life like dev gives but at least a life where she has to not compromise that much. If u see the kids in ranveer's house are not even allowed to eat jam biscuts coz they cant afford & ranveer actually dosent even feel a bit disappointed about it. or wanting to do something for them. i feel ranveer is also grey like neha who has this high notion of his nobleness