Why queens did not attend weddings in Treta Yuga

Queens did not attend weddings in the treta yuga. This was not a ritual that just Ayodhya followed, but all of Aryavrat. SKR wrongly pointed this out as a difference in Ayodhya's customs. If Raja Janak had a son, Sunaina wouldn't have attended the wedding in the princess's kingdom.

Originally posted by: ..RamKiJanaki..

Queens did not attend weddings in the treta yuga. This was not a ritual that just Ayodhya followed, but all of Aryavrat. SKR wrongly pointed this out as a difference in Ayodhya's customs. If Raja Janak had a son, Sunaina wouldn't have attended the wedding in the princess's kingdom.

The reason behind this custom is that the queens' main role in all the wedding festivities was to welcome the bride on her return home. They would take care of all the arrangements at their own home, and once they welcomed the bride, other post-wedding rituals would follow which they were in charge of.

The role of women in weddings was different. While a princess was still in her natal home, it was the duty of the mother of the bride to oversee all the wedding arrangements, and after the wedding, it was the role of the mother of the groom to take over. This symbolized the transition of a woman from maiden to wife.

Today, many MILs demand that the wedding should take place as per their wish, and they complain about this arrangement and that, but in the vedic times, the wedding was done as per the wish of the bride's side. The bride's mother chose all the arrangements, and the role of the groom's father was simply as a mute spectator. He would take the bride and groom home with him, but until he did, the bride's side was in charge of all the arrangements.

This was a much needed info thanks for sharing di .
I was pestering my family with this question for some time even some areas of Bihar and UP still follow the tradition .

Thanks dear...
Most needed information you shared..
Even I was thinking why the rituals for women in both kingdoms poles apart...
Now cleared...

I know this custom exists in many communities. But in my community this change is taken care in the mandap itself. In my community the marriage happens at the bride's side. Bride wears a saree that is from her maayka. There are some rituals before Kanyadan and varmala and the girl and the boy stand face to face till Mangalsutra is tied. Till the varmala ceremony girl's parents will be in the mandap. Once varmala done, there is a ritual called gothra change where thread is tied around mandap with girl's side and boy's side all elders holding the ends. After this mangalsutra is tied and the girl is asked to stand in the left side of the groom. Then women from boy's side take over. The MIL puts a saree over the bride's head. We called it Muhurtha saree, followed by the groom's sisters gifting the bride with saree and the astha mangalya. Then MIL takes the bride to change the saree and the saptha pati and other rituals including grihapravesh happens in this saree from groom's side. So that saree change is the transition for the bride from her maayka to sasural.

Thanks for making this post.

Shruthi what u have described is very typical south Indian wedding amongst brahmins.

I recently attended a wedding where the grooms mother was not allowed to attend the wedding, infact it was considered ashubh if she would see any wedding ritual.

Interesting information
I wondering about this custom when I was seeing the show now my doubt got cleared

@Shruthi,