Why queens did not attend weddings in Treta Yuga - Page 2

This is because lord Ram was maryada purshottam Rama .. He set up the laws of the society which are still followed today .
Through dasrath they are reiterating the customs which are still prevalent today of the ladies not being present in Barat .. This custom has been followed even till now just recently ladies have started coming in barats because of improvement in transport ..

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

I know this custom exists in many communities. But in my community this change is taken care in the mandap itself. In my community the marriage happens at the bride's side. Bride wears a saree that is from her maayka. There are some rituals before Kanyadan and varmala and the girl and the boy stand face to face till Mangalsutra is tied. Till the varmala ceremony girl's parents will be in the mandap. Once varmala done, there is a ritual called gothra change where thread is tied around mandap with girl's side and boy's side all elders holding the ends. After this mangalsutra is tied and the girl is asked to stand in the left side of the groom. Then women from boy's side take over. The MIL puts a saree over the bride's head. We called it Muhurtha saree, followed by the groom's sisters gifting the bride with saree and the astha mangalya. Then MIL takes the bride to change the saree and the saptha pati and other rituals including grihapravesh happens in this saree from groom's side. So that saree change is the transition for the bride from her maayka to sasural.

So yes I understand the ritual, but for me since this happens in my community I feel a mother can get the chance to see her son's wedding and bless the couple along with taking care of arrangement also.

My parents in law follow the ritual of not seeing the bride before marriage. I met my mother in law on the day of wedding.

Originally posted by: radianteyes.

This was a much needed info thanks for sharing di .
I was pestering my family with this question for some time even some areas of Bihar and UP still follow the tradition .

in our country, Suriname, mother of the groom dont attend wedding of sons
is still custom to stay at home to welcome the bride