This update made me think a lot about divorces and its repercussions on motherhood.
It is usually said that a baby grows up in the womb listening to its mother's heart beats. And that is the reason as soon as it is born, doctors keep the baby close to mother's heart so that it recognises the familiar rhythm.
Even a baby as small as a week old recognises its mother's touch and not anyone elses. As soon as a crying baby is put on a mother's lap, it stops crying. It recognises the warmth of its mother. A mother child bonding starts even before they realise.
For Maya to not experience all of that must have been very tough on her.
And mothers who have children with special needs, trust me every step they feel, did I do something wrong during pregnancy or while raising the child that my child is like this today? Am I giving my 100 percent to make sure that he is getting the best? Is there any lacking in my attempts to make sure he has the best opportunities available? And Mira, you ask any such mother how much would she rate herself as a mother on a scale of 1 to 10, I can guarantee you that none would rate themselves more than 6.
If that is the way a mother feels in normal circumstances, then how should Maya feel?
She due to her own health issues could not take care of Mohan when he was little, and then she divorced Arnav and married Kailash.
Even though they share joint custody, Arnav is the primary provider for Mohan.
It is apparent in the story that Mohan is more attached to Arnav than Maya as he spends more time with Arnav.
Even little things like giving a bath, or feeding a child, taking care when the child is sick or just cuddling everyday for sometime brings a child much closer to its mother. In the initial years of life, a child is most attached to its mother.
But here, all the things which are normally done my a mother, Arnav is doing it.
Somewhere Maya has this guilt that she is not able to give her complete dedication and love to her child.
And now with the entry of Khushi and Meera, it is natural that Mohan's life is going to get shared with more number of people. Even the little time Maya gets with Mohan will be limited now.
And assuming that Arshi have more kids in the future, Arnav, Khushi, Meera and Mohan are going to get bonded more and more with each passing day.
Arnav is a good guy, he sincerely will try to keep Maya in Mohan's life, always, but somethings are beyond his control too.
Divorce does not happen just between couples, but divorce changes so many relationships associated with those two people.
How should Maya deal with this kind of heart ache? Live with it all her life, accept it as her fate or what???
Kailash's fears were understandable too. It must have been tormenting thinking that his wife has is not happy seeing her ex husband happy with another woman.
But now since he knows her real fears, how will he encourage her to come out it?
I remember, in one update of "Revealed", someone had commented that kids are like the glue which fill the gaps between a married couple. Should Kailash and Maya think of having their own child now? It is fair to think that Kailash should experience fatherhood too.
If Maya cannot conceive anymore, adoption might not be a bad idea.
Coming to Arshi, thrilled to read about their intertwined legs during dinner. So happy that Khushi is seeking Arnav's love more and more.
So did Manorama and Nandu bua not go to dinner with them?
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