MP-childlike and NA -childish

Watching the episodes of the last three months what struck me was the most important similarity between M and P is that both are childlike . N and A are on the other hand childish. Now both may sound the same but they are not.

Let me explain my point.

Both M and P have this innocent quality about them. They both have a huge heart with a great capacity to love. They both are willing to accept mistakes and move on. They dont dwell in the past once things are sorted out. Both take pleasure in small things. They want the people they love to be happy. To understand this one only needs to recollect their moment with the baby. Their interaction with the baby was amazing. Looked like they had become one in its company.

Despite their childlike quality they are both very mature. Here Prachs had to do a lot of growing up in a short period of time because she led a protected life till her father died. Milsi did not have much difficulty since he was used to shouldering responsibility earlier on in life. But now both are on equal plane as far as their maturity is concerned. They willingly shoulder the responsibility of each other's family. They dont let their childlike quality come in the way of it. Hence they are a deadly mix of innocence and maturity.

N and A on the other hand are just the opposite of M and P. Both are childish. Like children they are stubborn and want what they like/love. If they dont get it, they either throw up a tantrum (like Ayesha) or brood (like Neev). They see everything only from their point of view. They do not go beyond themselves. They are near sighted in their decisions and do not think throught the consequences of their actions and its impact on others. Because they are childish they are also immature. More often than not they cannot handle rejection. They are incapable of bearing someone else burden because they have not learnt to bear their own.

Very well said Optimist.Couldn't have said better.

Madhu.

Opti darling....very beautifully put dear.....👏

Coudln't have said it any better......😃

Thats why we love our Michi.....their childlike qualities...make us fall in love with them.....😆

That was beautifully put and defined👏👏👏 Michi's childlike quality is what makes them so enduring...they have a clear heart, cant habour negativity for long.
And NA's biggest put off is that they refuse to grow up😡

I felt Milind was quite childish in the beginning of his and Prachi's marriage - but Prachi's love changed him.

Also I don't think you can pidgeonhole Neev's character as being childish - Neev was used as a pawn by both Prachi Ayesha and his mother whether their intentions were noble or not. Furthermore he was unable to move on as he didn't have a supporting influence in his life (Milind moved on because of Prachi's love). His mother uses him for money, his father is a murderer, his wife is mad. Who does he have really? In such circumstances any man would find it hard to move on. Milind on the other hand has a loving family, and a doting wife. Furthermore, I think Neevs there when you need him to be, for example during the Sukriti-Saket marriage, instead of being broody he supported them. I see him as a complex character who is what he is today by his circumstances. Yes he broods and clearly needs to brood him - but I cannot attribute it to his being childish. If he were childish - he would be more like Ayesha - he would try to break up Milind and Prachi's marriage. But he didn't.

Originally posted by: meteora_smt

Also I don't think you can pidgeonhole Neev's character as being childish - Neev was used as a pawn by both Prachi Ayesha and his mother whether their intentions were noble or not. Furthermore he was unable to move on as he didn't have a supporting influence in his life (Milind moved on because of Prachi's love). His mother uses him for money, his father is a murderer, his wife is mad. Who does he have really? In such circumstances any man would find it hard to move on. Milind on the other hand has a loving family, and a doting wife. Furthermore, I think Neevs there when you need him to be, for example during the Sukriti-Saket marriage, instead of being broody he supported them. I see him as a complex character who is what he is today by his circumstances. Yes he broods and clearly needs to brood him - but I cannot attribute it to his being childish. If he were childish - he would be more like Ayesha - he would try to break up Milind and Prachi's marriage. But he didn't.

Nobody is denying that Neev had been wronged. But how does he react to the circumstances? That is what matters. He has still not displayed anything to show that he is man enough to deal with the circumstances. As to his supporting Saket and Sukruti that again displays his childishness. He thinks that by performing their marriage clandestinely their problem would be solved. He is so short sighted that he does not realise that it would only complicate matters. He knows that Suki's father is ailing. He knows that Suki's brother is very protective of his sister and will not take such a thing lying down. If suki's father had died of shock, Neev would have to pray for his safety because Milsi will come on him hard. And does he have it in him to protect himself or fight back? Like kids, he feels everything is about him. When he opens his mouth all he does is complain about his life.

And as to Milsi having a loving family to help move on, that is so not true. He had a sister who herself needed help. An ailing father who he had to take care. The only love of his life who broke away for her revenge plans. So no hope there. His wife was loving, yes. But he could not trust her because she comes from the Shah family which had betrayed his trust. Ayesha was also feeding him a lot of lies against her. Since he knew Ayesha longer than he did Prachi, he tended to believe her first. But one cant fault the guy that he did not act. He always acted. Yes, he brooded at times, cursed his destiny that he did not find love. But he also put in his efforts to find it once he realised that there could be something. He went in the rains to get Prachi that saree. He introduced her with pride to his friends. He showed her how much he appreciates her small gesture like buying him a shirt.

Neev, on the other hand, is not even bothered to take the opportunities that are presenting themselves. He did not even bother to visit Ayesha at the hospital when he heard about the attempted suicide. Granted she had behaved really abominably towards him. But as a fellow human being who has lived with her for nearly four months he could have shown some concern. Why go so far, while he was concerned for Prachi, he did not even bother about Ayesha in the independence day party when they both got burns. He still keeps taunting Prachi that she left him for money. He was so dumb enough to buy that arguement (after living with her for 20 odd years) and keeps throwing this back at her every opportunity he gets. Now that is really childish to me.

Milsi on the other hand has never brought up Ayesha's betrayal every time she tells him he is hers. He could have easily told her that she is suffering because of her own decision to leave him. He does not do that. He does not open up old wounds. After his initial anger against her and his vindictiveness in wanting to show her what she lost by being close to Prachs, his vendetta got forgotten down the line. That exhibits his childlike quality. & nbsp;

Nicely written...

But the N A part i think it doesnt apply on Neevu....he wants Prachi's happiness only has never ever claimed to anyone that he will get her by hook or by crook...!!! 😳

I did not say that Neev says that he will get Prachi by hook or by crook. I merely said that he is childish. Has to grow up and take bold decisions. He cant mop around and have someone solve his problems for him. He should have been man enough to put Ayesha in her place in the beginning itself. If not he should have got out of the bad marriage. The maturity Prachi showed in dealing with a hard to please Milind, Neev did not show in his relationship with Ayesha. So she is a much more difficult cup to handle than Milind. But still we did not see him try to win her either through love or sheer power. Kids wait for some grownup to solve their problems. They constantly complain whenever things go wrong. It is always somebody else's mistake and not their own. Now Neev is doing exactly that isint he? Wallowing in self pity. Yet is too lethargic to do something about it. Hope they do give some meat to his role. Otherwise with the complaining Neev and the infuriating Ayesha, we will just be driven up the wall.

op[ti...
I think your being a bit hard on neev....
what childish factor are talking about....
yes the guy suffered... and yep he is mopping around but till date he only just once declared his love for prachi....

coming to it... prachi wasn't even his first love.... but the effect off this love set time still... so he is allowed to mope around ( only not to long)...yes neev is giving her a hard time and says some ugly thing to her... but wouldn't we all do that...

him behaving not caring towards ayesha... not even on the humanity base...can we really call that a childish behavior... no ... that was his decision cause till date ayesha hasn't done anything for him to deserves any compassion...

her being stuck in her revenge and her milind jap has made it impossible for them to work on their marriage... so why should he be at her side ... cause he just shares a bed with her.....

unless ayesha is ready to work with him on their marriage nothing can happen between them.... and I do think neev is waiting for that cause till date he didn't ended this facade...

Oh Shali, you are just proving my point. Why should it be the woman who has to work for the marriage? It is all about the individuals in the relationship, be it man or woman. Here between the two of them, Neev is more the bending type.I do not mean he is weak but he does have a way with people. Was he not a flirt before he got serious with Prachi? Ayesha on the other hand is more headstrong. So if he waits for her to make the move he will have to wait endlessly. As I had said he needs to be a man a take a decision one way or other.

See Milsi,when he heard Neev's declaration of love for Prachi at the cliff, he decided to let go of Prachi (thinking she too loved him). This hurt him a lot. But he took that step because he wanted both their lives to move on. If Neev is unhappy in his marriage what is he waiting for? He should take that decision to walk away. He does not do that. That is what I term as childishness and lack of maturity. It is not about making the correct decision. Decisions may be right or wrong. But one has to make them if one has to survive. Only kids want their parents/elders to decide for them. They are unsure of what to do. Neev behaves that way. He is unsure of what he is to do and thus is constantly wallowing in self pity. People meet with failures in love. Very rarely does the first love become the last. But one has to pick up one's pieces and move on. Why the hell is he staying in the Shah mansion with his make believe wife when it is shear torture to see his ex-girl friend with her husband? &nbs p;