i really need advice ....

hey friends

i have a really big problem

I found that my friend is in love with me.😕

i don't know what to do because i don't want to break my friendship with him and i never look at him like that.

he is a really nice guy but i don't love him.

i don't want to break his heart

i m avoiding him for 3 days now.

what should i do. i don't have courage to face him if he purpose me what should i say or how will he react if i say no to him.

pls somebody help me with this situation.

shelly

wel dis is a tight situationn....if he propose u i thnk u shudnt say directly dat u dont luv him...instead try 2 make him understand.....dat deres diffrnce betwen simpl fridnship n luv life....if if evr ne problem cums into ur way n if u break up he will b too ashamed 2 tok wid u...n den ur frndship wil cum 2 an end wich wil vrrrry diffuclt 2 remake....tel him dese thngs...n try 2 make him understand but plz dont say directly no den it may cause gaps n probs in ur frndship....hope dis wil hlp 😊

Shelly, you should tell him exactly how you feel. By avoiding him you are giving him mixed reactions. He may feel you are considering or you are feeling shy.

Now first make sure that your feelings for him will not change caz suppose you tell him now and then u fall for him, it will be really bad for you.

Once a friend feels different about the other, trust me the friendship doesn't be the same. He will find it hard to not feel for you. So see if you can go through those awkward times.

I hope I could help. Wish all the best.

Originally posted by: tukz_REmix

wel dis is a tight situationn....if he propose u i thnk u shudnt say directly dat u dont luv him...instead try 2 make him understand.....dat deres diffrnce betwen simpl fridnship n luv life....if if evr ne problem cums into ur way n if u break up he will b too ashamed 2 tok wid u...n den ur frndship wil cum 2 an end wich wil vrrrry diffuclt 2 remake....tel him dese thngs...n try 2 make him understand but plz dont say directly no den it may cause gaps n probs in ur frndship....hope dis wil hlp 😊

thank u so much.

I don't wana scare u, but try to sit and think if ur actually in love with this guy and didn't realise it.

When a boy and a girl are friends alot can happend.

I would also say DO NOT avoid him, I mean if u likes a guy and he starts to avoid u, u will feel hurt coz u wouldn't know wats going thru his mind. So don't do that

before I give my advice I would like for u to do this for me... I want u to sit for at least an hour and think if ur actually in love with this guy and never realise it or noting at all.

when u give me an answer I'll reply u, with my advice😊

just talk to ur friend that u just like him as a friend and
then just give him some time to understand and also tell him that u like him but only asa friend no more than that. if he doesn,t listen then just leave him alone for some time and he will understand it by himself.

Hey Shelly,

This is a rough situation. And I hate this kinds of situations because you can't lose a good friend but you don't love him either.

First of all, make sure that your really don't love him - sometimes I get mixed reactions from girls who first say they are not in love with their friends but after refusing him, they realize that they also loved the guy.

But if you are really sure that you never loved him or will, then just tell him that. You don't want to hurt him now but by avoiding you'll end up hurting him more. Because he might think that you have some feelings for him too. And when he gets that in his head, then when you'll refuse then it'll be harder for him to bear it.

Just go to him and calmly tell him that you have always loved him just as a friend and nothing more than that. Tell him that you will always be friends with him but you don't love him. You need to have conversation as soon as possible so he's least hurt and the situation doesn't go out of hands.

Originally posted by: shelly8888

thank u so much.

its ok....😉

Ok, here's what you do:
If he asks you out, go out with him ONCE and see how it ends up. If he kisses you and you like it, well you can give your relationship a try. But make sure to not get too close to him at first incase you break up, because you still want your friend right?!

Originally posted by: Angeleyes 2

I don't wana scare u, but try to sit and think if ur actually in love with this guy and didn't realise it.

When a boy and a girl are friends alot can happend.

I would also say DO NOT avoid him, I mean if u likes a guy and he starts to avoid u, u will feel hurt coz u wouldn't know wats going thru his mind. So don't do that

before I give my advice I would like for u to do this for me... I want u to sit for at least an hour and think if ur actually in love with this guy and never realise it or noting at all.

when u give me an answer I'll reply u, with my advice😊

i think for like hours and hours to know what i feel for him. i still think of him as a friend. he is a really nice guy i don't want to break his heart because i know how it feel when you love somebody and he doesnot love you and does not want any relationship. i already been thru that kind of situation. 😭 i really so nervous and scared what to do.