Spouse abuse: It's the husband's turn now
Posted by 498A_Crusader on September 21st, 2007
NEW DELHI: Women have for long complained of being abused by men, which the law takes very seriously. Now it's the men who claim to be at the receiving end.
A new survey has found that no less than 98% of Indian urban husbands say they have faced domestic violence in one form or the other during married life.😳
NEW DELHI: Women have for long complained of being abused by men, which the law takes very seriously. Now it's the men who claim to be at the receiving end.
A new survey has found that no less than 98% of Indian urban husbands say they have faced domestic violence in one form or the other during married life.
Close to 43% of husbands said they contemplated suicide due to humiliation, harassment and frustration and 14% accepted they that had wanted to kill the woman and her family members for instigating her. Turn to DNA Nation, p13
The study, conducted by doctors and IT engineers for these NGOs, covered husbands from various socio-economic strata but the bulk of the respondents came from the middle class and upper middle class backgrounds. A high proportion of husbands who had experienced domestic violence were either well educated and/or earned good salaries.
This study corresponds with a similar survey conducted by Orissa's State Women Commission recently where it was found that women are increasingly using dowry related laws like 498A and the Domestic Violence Act to harass husbands.
According to its chairperson Namita Panda, women were found to be filing false cases in order to harass their husbands and settle scores with them.
"Section 498A is a great weapon for women. It is being used for both getting justice and settling scores. We always tell police to first inquire into the matter before arresting a man and his parents because in many cases it may turn out to be a hoax," Panda said over phone from Bhubaneswar.
However, the National Commission for Women (NCW) differs. "Women are generally in a more dependent position. There may be a few stray cases of women harassing men but that doesn't change the basic situation," said Malini Bhattacharya of NCW.
As per the National Crime Record Bureau's statistics, 4,450 men in the age group of 15-29 and 5,876 between 30-44 committed suicide in 2005 due to family problems which included matrimonial discord.
During the study these organisations received more than one lakh mails across the country. However, only 1,650 husbands aged between 15-49 years selected through random sampling were specifically interviewed using a schedule adapted from the WHO multi-country study on domestic violence.
An interesting finding was that the probability of violence increased significantly with the duration of marriage particularly if it was more than seven years old.
"As the marriage gets older the wives get stronger and more intolerant towards spouses and their families," said Dr Grover, one of the researchers. "The interviews showed that Indian husband who had experienced some form of violence during the first year of marriage, continued to do so for the rest of their lives. It is not something that just goes away."
Gaurav Nigam, a software engineer with the Bangalore-based IT giant Wipro, recently accused his wife, Tripti, of physical abuse. He claimed his wife was pressuring him to transfer ownership of the house and the car in her name. When he refused, she would beat him up.
He alleged that on one occasion, Tripti had left him and gone back to her parents' house from where she filed a dowry complaint against him, after which his parents were arrested and sent to jail for three days 'for no fault of theirs'.
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Court makes woman pay for harassing hubby
Posted by 498A_Crusader on August 12th, 2007
IN A rare case of its kind, a woman was punished by a Jaipur court for trying to spoil her husband's career.
Computer engineer Namrata Bangra was ordered to pay a fine of Rs 25,000 for making life difficult for her husband Ankur Bangra, who is also a computer engineer.
Additional district judge, Prithvi Raj imposed the fine on Namrata under the Domestic Violence Act, 2006.
The judge also dismissed an appeal filed by Namrata, now unemployed, to enhance the maintenance allowance being given to her by her husband from Rs 4,000 to Rs 23,000 per month.
The judge ruled that complainant used to work in a multinational company and earned big salary hence she could get a job again.
The judge said that Ankur produced two e-mails in the court to prove that his wife had illicit relations with another person. The court recognised the authenticity of the mails and dismissed her appeal.
The judgment said Namrata had tried to involve her husband in litigations and intended to spoil his career.
The appeal filed by Namrata alleged that her husband Ankur had demanded a Honda City car prior to their marriage and used to beat her regularly after they began living together.
She alleged that Ankur used to pressurise her to withdraw money from her bank and forced her to sign on blank sheets of papers.
She told the court that she had to leave her job and that the lower court had granted her a maintenance allowance of Rs 4,000 per month, which was too little. She appealed to the additional district judge to raise her allowance to Rs 23,000. In his defence, Ankur said his wife had lodged a false FIR at a local mahila police station, which found the charges baseless.
He said he had returned all the belongings and items she had brought with her when they married. Ankur alleged his wife was having extra-marital relations with her boss during her stint with a multinational company in Pune.
He produced e-mails to buttress his charge in court.
"When I came to know about the e-mails, my wife lodged a false FIR in a mahila police station to cover up her crime," he said.
Sampat Singh, in-charge of the mahila police station, said "I had investigated this case and found that an FIR filed by Namrata was baseless. This has been conveyed to the court."
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Now a days like this disturbing trend, an increase in the abuse of men and some women started misusing the laws enacted for the protection of women by filing false cases or using them to terrorise their husbands.....
Do you think some people misusing the laws??Domestic violence againt men is acceptable??
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