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Well for me dumla was not a woman who was selfless but selfish she analyse it the way that t get wat she wanted she has t be at service of the kapoors

I never liked the character Kamla. I found her to be one shrewd mother without an iota of selfless bone in her. For a mother her child's welfare always comes first no matter what the circumstance, or hardship bestowed or the environment that surrounded you. She saw big dreams, dreams for her daughter to become a memsahib but never did she once ask what her own daughter wanted. What were her dreams, aspirations, goals. Perhaps these were Kamla's own unrequited dreams that she secretly harbored for herself, and Kalpi was her means to achieve it. She was always willing to work for the Kapoors at any given time and available at their beck and call, without realizing the impact of her actions on her own family, her own daughter. She tried to straddle both worlds but ended up with nothing, neither Pakhi her pseudo daughter or a life of comfort. I left Kalpi out as to me Kalpi was a commodity to her, a pawn she used to get her way, through emotional blackmail, manipulative and calculative moves and nothing else. From childhood she ignored her own daughter, denied her a mother's love, her own milk and instead gave that right to Pakhi. She sold her motherhood to Pakhi and the Kapoors when she fed Pakhi her milk, cared for her 24x7 and neglected her own kin. Kalpi was conceived by Kamla but she was raised and given an identity by her father. Kamla had no hand in developing Kalpi. Being in boarding school taught Kalpi to be self-reliant and her father's love gave her the support, security and unconditional love a child needs and seeks from a parent.

Coming to the drowning scene - for a child to see her own mother leave her to drown and save another, is heart wrenching not to mention the lifelong trauma set in the child's mind and heart of being abandoned. It just fuels the feelings of insecurity and neglect already present in Kalpi and reinforces the fact that Kamla never saw Kalpi as her daughter. No mother would sacrifice their own child's life for another and Kamla actions proved it. She saved Pakhi; her daughter.

as person kamla may be a selfless but as mother I don't no.

As a human being she is good who want to help everyone...but as a mother she is totally failed who was always failed to understand her children who was always standing opposite side whwnever her children want her by der side...she always choose pakhi over kalpi just coz she think she is very strong... It's not mother nature...even she was trying to gv her daughter's only happiness his raghav to pakhi...she observed pakhis one sided love but anable to see kalpi's love for raghav...

Wow Fuzz! Your post actually made me ponder over a character I never spent much time on... Kamala 😆 I never ever thought to think from her perspective as I always thought she was a selfish woman... To me anybody who shows , I emphasise 'shows' more love towards another child than to our real children is selfish...and cruel... She may had equal if not more love for Kalpi in her heart but she sure had a funny way of showing it...

Kamla is selfish women...yes she helps others but on her own terms...she always thought wat she is dng is right n all should accept her decision specially kalpi n her fly ... she always took her fly for granted...poor jadhav's hav always suffered coz of her mahaanta

Kamala was a naive helpful person. As a housewife her world was her home, husband & sin Pakya. Being the wife of leader , she became the leader of the women of the chawl. Once she took up her job at Kapoors things changed. She was still naive. Her gratitude towards them for releasing Vithal from jail was the driving force of her submissiveness to them. She also felt sorry for Pakhi as she was not given attention by her own mother. Everything made her to love Pakhi a lot. Initially Kalpi never felt sad that she shared her mother with Palhi. She was anyway sharing her with Pakya. It was same for her. But the pen incident made things go wrong. Being a worker she had to go by Pakhi's wish. But next day she corrected it. After leaving the job Kamala was not able to sit away from Pakhi. She never thought abt her kids. Thats where things started to go wrong. Kalpi feeling insecure of her mothers love. She dreamt about Kalpi being a memsab. Good one. But love & affection are two things needed for a relationship. Not just dreams & push towards it
Had Kamala explained things to Kalpi she would have been the best mother to her.
In raising Pakhi she should have taught her the right & wrong. Not just aim & get it by hook or crook. She just became a Nanny for Pakhi & not her mother. Pakhi's selfishness came in her blood.
Kamala was selfish that her daugjter Kalpi make her dream come true. She wanted Kalpi to understand her.
Kamala is selfless to give her love & attention to Pakhi. She became selfish when all she wanted is Pakhi's wish come true.
Drowning incident, kamala's action can never be justified. She terribly failed as a mother to both. Kalpi lost her mother there. Pakhi's posessiveness increased there..

Kamala is a good person at heart but a teribble failure as a mother.