Choice of a woman. Most pertinent question Maya raised

Does she lack intelligence. No. But then if the woman is given a choice our patriarchy suffers. They no longer can run their rules. For men to have control and power the choice of woman has to be curtailed. Not only that she needs to be brainwashed to believe she does not have a choice. I am happy some of the shows are now raising this question. EHT raised, even Everest raised the question and now the same question comes in MK also.

So while the question Maya asks Rudra is significant the fact that her decisions from childhood were taken by her nanu and mamu and now Rudra is taking it for her where is the solution and how the solution can be arrived.

I would say in the first place by raising the question itself. Because yesterday also her question makes Rudra think. The battle of head and heart starts for him from that question. Yes she cannot correct nanu or mamu but then a man like Rudra can be corrected. He is not mean. He has a lot of respect for his mom, his dadi and generally respects woman. A man like him can be jolted out. Change is possible.

Because if woman has to get the choice she has to fight her battle by raising pertinent questions and also supporting the right men to support their cause. Because it is only with the help of right men the jinx of patriarchy can be broken. Only when men turn against men and start giving respect and love to their moms, sisters, wives and daughters the transformation happens by having a more balanced society. Because though I am a feminist, I am not one of those who believes to get an upper hand we have to do all the evil things men did to us if we have power. But one of those who wants my father, brother, husband and my male friends to understand me, give space to me and respect my decision and choices. Because I value all my relations and I want all of them in my life to enrich it.

Agree with ur view!

But , lol I know how difficult it's for a woman to take her own decisions in our society . Even all my decisions uptill now , even my crucial career decisions were taken by my father . I wanted to study either chemistry or English literature , but my dad ensured that I study medical. So, there. 😆 Easy to preach but difficult to change life.

Ladies have to let go of that fear factor and be accountable for their decision. I am not preaching. I am telling after making some people hear my voice. Have done it and also know how difficult it is because when you take it you generally will have no back up option. You have to suceed in your choosen path. You need immense mental power. But well believe me it is liberating once you do it the right way.

I believe you need a minimum support system to take your decisions by yourself, because once you deny the male members of the family from taking your decisions , you're on your own , if your decision back fires on your face, you'll be left to stew in your own mess n you'll find yourself alone.

Also, financial dependency is one huge cause.

For e.g, take Maya's case. If she'd refused her so-called-family in just about any thing, they'd have kicked her out of the house with only her clothing on , if they don't kill her, that is. Then what ?? She hasn't yet completed her studies . To jayegi kaha aur khayegi kya ?? An unmarried jobless young girl left to look after herself among a society which has next to nothing support system for women n full of vultures wolves n jackals

I said I wanted B-Tech, but had only one chance but I converted that chance and as you rightly said it was after I got the job the financial independence I started coming out more and talking about my choice. And I was very choosy about the guy I wanted to marry and stood my ground till I felt sure without yielding to any pressure ( you can say till my heart's voice said this is the right one) and yes my job helped me to stand firm.

And I never regret that strong stand because marriage and the type of person you gets decides how difficult or easy the choices are for you in future. My husband gives me space to take my own decisions and respects my choices and he is my current best friend too😃

N yes having a job is the most important thing. N nowadays women are getting more vocal about their choices n opinions only because women are doing jobs in greater frequency than ever in our country.