Selfless Raman and Ishita

when u see Ishra don't u see a lot of selflessness. Raman is not spineless, as most ppl are saying I feel he is the selfless, like Ishita, they are both willing to sacrifice a lot for the happiness of others. And think about their happiness last. Even when he was married to Shagun he did everything to keep her happy, he admits in a episode that by the time Ruhi was born he was totally unhappy with her and her demands. Now he knows Ruhi is well protected by Ishita he wants to do the same for his son.. Sure it's not fun to watch but it's part of his character.