why is it that vidya.....!!!!

Posted: 18 years ago
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hello bmtdians😛

I just saw last friday;s epi......i was kinda stunned to hear vidya wanting to change becoz sagar ....to be his ideal life partner...y shud she change ...y always is it a women / from poor family / traditional....always expected to change.

why can't sagar just except ther the way she is..fine i agree she sud be educated....if she has to survive in his world but other things.....champagne..to shaking hands to speaking english to her dressing in sari........y is she expected to compromise her values when sagar is not ready to compromise his ideology of his prefect lifepartner.

i agree sagar is giving their relationship one chance & is try his best to accept vidya...but ....i am talking abt the fact that y is vidya asked to go thru a make over .......y is sindoora saying to sagar that vidya cannot change....my arguement is y she has to change wht's wrong in her😡

this is my first thread in bmtd ...please do share ur views!!

cheeers

❤️Kai❤️

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Posted: 18 years ago
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kai, you've made a very good point. i agree with you totally. why is it that most of the time, it's the woman who has to make sacrifices and change herself for the man?

why can't the man try to change himself? and in this case of vidya, she has always tried to please her husband so this was already expected from her. but i'm just surprised that sindoora said that. i mean in her marriage, i bet it's aniket who has to adapt to her and not the other way around,😆😆 so why should vidya change for sagar?😕

sagar has always looked upon the village people as the lower class. you think he'll change for vidya? no of cos not. it's vidya who has to adapt to his stinky high society life which sometimes stinks worse than a public toilet.🤢🤢 someone should tell the dude that not all high class people have good morals or are great as he thinks them to be.

look at vidya and sindoora for example. vidya who is uneducated loves her family more, loves her husband more and has far better intentions/morals than sindoora, the educated woman has.😊

great thread kai! this topic is a wonderful discussion topic.👏👏

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Posted: 18 years ago
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The root of the problem is simple: chauvinism & egoism. No offense to the men. 😛

Despite the immense awareness that "hey, men & women are equal" in rights, the men & other members of the society have turn a deaf ear to this. A woman is expected to change probably because the man is unable to change. Shameful, but true.

Vidya took a step to educate herself, well, cheers on that. But I don't think fitting into high society is a must. If you don't fit, it doesn't make you any less an good natured/cultured human being. In fact, High Society ruins and created immorality(i.e. Drinking> Parties> Scandalous/Affairs). Does Sagar want Vidya to become like that? I don't think it's a very good suggestion to make her fit. She's way up in the pedestal as our cutie gawar then a kitty party snobbish lady. Shalu would be happy though. haha!!

Once I had an argument with my cousin from India. He said a man can do whatever he wants, he would not get bad name. But if a woman sleeps around or is friendly with men, she is called a tramp/characterless. She should not work because aachey ghar ki bahu kam nahin karti. I'm sorry but I still strongly disagree. Why do we have so many restrictions? I said, if a woman works to support her family, why is it bad? He said that a woman who leaves the house could become a scandalous woman. I am like, what? So how about the men? He said it's okay for men.

Seriously, we are looked down upon and criticized. No matter how much the equality we are given(supposedly),
the differences can never be erased. We must always change.

Sure, Vidya should change. Get educated and become social able. But she's the ideal bahu. You can always refuse a drink in parties but is saying Namaste very gawar? I say Namaste to any Indian people I met depending on occasions and I live abroad.

Good topic to discuss! 👏 Cheers on that note.

Edited by torrentless - 18 years ago
Posted: 18 years ago
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Originally posted by: jigglypuff726

sagar has always looked upon the village people as the lower class. you think he'll change for vidya? no of cos not. it's vidya who has to adapt to his stinky high society life which sometimes stinks worse than a public toilet.🤢🤢 someone should tell the dude that not all high class people have good morals or are great as he thinks them to be.

yeap leena..even his so called frnds....wht kinda moral or manners do they have..who gave them rite to comment abt vidya.....atleast she doesn't make fun of ppl that too in their on house. Fine she can't read or write but he is far more decent, well mannered & board minded than these so called educated ppl. Wud they except a mentally retarded person as her life partner..wud they have done & gone thru wht vidya did.

y is sagar so much bothered abt pleasing the world.😡..where was this world when he was sick....his whole family lost hope of his recovery....but only vidya took courage..went on her own to treat sagar...& this is what he has to offer her in return

look at vidya and sindoora for example. vidya who is uneducated loves her family more, loves her husband more and has far better intentions/morals than sindoora, the educated woman has.😊

yeap...a person is modern not my his clothes but by his thoughts....for this matter even sindoora is not less than bahanghi....narrow minded person...being a woman she can't understand another woman's problem.

For her property is way precious than her own brother, family or husband.

sagar is finding it difficult to adjust with vidya but how can he forget how difficult it was for vidya..to adjust with sagar when he was sick.....adjusting to uneducated person is way easier than mentally challenged person.

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Posted: 18 years ago
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Well I agree with u all that Sagaar is just behaving like a spoilet brat, he CAN'T have everything he wants. Just coz Vidya comes from a viliage, doesn't make her a bad wife.

Quite frankly, I would love my wife to have all the same principles Vidya has, she is a great wife. I do agree she should b educated, but she can do it a bit l8r

BTW great post
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Posted: 18 years ago
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Originally posted by: Kai_Hiwatari

hello bmtdians😛

I just saw last friday;s epi......i was kinda stunned to hear vidya wanting to change becoz sagar ....to be his ideal life partner...y shud she change ...y always is it a women / from poor family / traditional....always expected to change.

why can't sagar just except ther the way she is..fine i agree she sud be educated....if she has to survive in his world but other things.....champagne..to shaking hands to speaking english to her dressing in sari........y is she expected to compromise her values when sagar is not ready to compromise his ideology of his prefect lifepartner.

i agree sagar is giving their relationship one chance & is try his best to accept vidya...but ....i am talking abt the fact that y is vidya asked to go thru a make over .......y is sindoora saying to sagar that vidya cannot change....my arguement is y she has to change wht's wrong in her😡

this is my first thread in bmtd ...please do share ur views!!

cheeers

❤️Kai❤️

I agree..😊

But if Vidya changed like Sagar..😆

It woulld be a cute jodi...😳

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Posted: 18 years ago
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grt topic Kai! 👏

apparently Sagar cares more abt his prestige, status, business associates and all those posh stuff more than his simple wife.

He cares more abt what his friends would think tha what his wife feels...Sagar should seriously have more sense put into him

As much as i love Sagar, i care abt Vidya too. And why cant Sagar see how simple n sweet is wife is, that een though she cant read, she has hat is needed to survive in this world: Common Sense! And the one proof is how she arranged his messed up Project papers!

All these small details he wont pay attetion to! But he would see how intellectualy apt she is and how she dresses and looks but not whats on the inside! Did he for once think that she actually took care of him and loved him when he was all kid like!

No! Of course not! Because he doesnt remember but what about what his family members old him!

Sagar has some reflection to do on his life and his shut n slepy eyes will only be brght and awake once he learns all of this the hard way!
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Posted: 18 years ago
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Originally posted by: Kai_Hiwatari

hello bmtdians😛

I just saw last friday;s epi......i was kinda stunned to hear vidya wanting to change becoz sagar ....to be his ideal life partner...y shud she change ...y always is it a women / from poor family / traditional....always expected to change.

why can't sagar just except ther the way she is..fine i agree she sud be educated....if she has to survive in his world but other things.....champagne..to shaking hands to speaking english to her dressing in sari........y is she expected to compromise her values when sagar is not ready to compromise his ideology of his prefect lifepartner.

i agree sagar is giving their relationship one chance & is try his best to accept vidya...but ....i am talking abt the fact that y is vidya asked to go thru a make over .......y is sindoora saying to sagar that vidya cannot change....my arguement is y she has to change wht's wrong in her😡

this is my first thread in bmtd ...please do share ur views!!

cheeers

❤️Kai❤️

Kai you do make a really good point i agree why can't sagar give in a little but to there realtionship why is it vidya who is doing so much to make the relation ship work and not sagar it seems that he just wants to get rid of vidya as fast as he can and hook up with another surili type of girl 😆

sagar is driving all of us over the edge he is not worth vidya some people on this frum are right she should hook up with tushar becuz he excepted her just like she was he helped her out so much nad it wasn't like he was low standers he was high but he didn't care he still would of got married to sagar(ye i still like the sv jodi😆but just to say)

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Posted: 18 years ago
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I agree. Sagar is being a jerk and that's why I am jittery about the Big Night.

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