Sometimes, being strong is not about letting go, but about holding on - Page 2

Originally posted by: farzy2910

It's nice to see a different view point to the whole situation. Thanks for sharing. You are right in saying that she should try to understand where Sahir is coming from. Aarzoo needs to bring the light into Sahir's dark life.

I am sure that this heart break will make her stronger emotionally but she doesn't have to cut Sahir out completely from her life. She needs to also help him to let go of the past and live for the present and future. Sahir holding onto the promise he made to Zeenat needs to come to an end. He is ruining everything for that 1 promise

I have to say though...living in the Niyaamat household is like SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST. You have to be strong to cope with all those crazy people. And it's everyone for themselves, there is just 1 or 2 who truly care for the next person

Originally posted by: Suvika.

Arzoo has probably not realized Sahir's true worth now - she has only accepted a part of it but she must now THINK, INTERPRET all those actions, gestures, words, and above all, what went unsaid and hold on...She should find out what is amiss, what is so wrong. If she claims to have loved him, she should understand him. She needn't fall over him and she can still maintain her distance but she should not go away, not leave him like this. She should really solve the "mystery" and hold fast. Agreed, it would be tough, extremely tough for her - especially after the molestation thing - perhaps it would be impossible to do so -but then she has loved an extraordinary man (and she must know this at least) - so, her actions should be extraordinary now to make it work.

The title of your post had me and these above lines nailed it.👏 👏 You are absolutely right. We do need a stronger Arzoo. Arzoo who would look below the surface. Who would try and read the thoughts behind his actions. Who would hold on and refuse to let go no matter what. He needs that right now. No one has done it before. Not even his mother. No one sees his pain and even if they do see, they take it that he is strong enough to endure it. Yes, he does go to extreme lengths to hide it from everyone but one just has to peal one layer and there it is!!

He needs an Arzoo who will hug him tight and say I won't leave. Just let go. I'll be here to hold you. Past hurts because you can't change it and you can't accept what happened. She needs to help him accept his past and move on. It is in no way easy. Not after the way he spoke to her last night and what is going to happen tonight. But if the makers want to show her become strong, confident and firm, this is where her strength and firmness should come out.

And for that to happen, she needs to get some inkling on the workings of his mind. Some hope that he does have feelings for her. That he cares for her much more than he is letting on. That he doesn't want to drag her along with him into his painful past. Without that she can't take the first step. Her feet would halt. Because he is a married man.

Even last night, her first words after he pushed her away were not "yeh sab fareb tha?" It was "aap shaadi shuda hain?"

Originally posted by: ploydome

Beautiful post 👏
I agree with you that Arzoo should show the light to Sahir...even if she is hurt...
But the problem here is not Arzoo...the only problem is that Sahir is not himself ready to put the past behind him ... So how can Arzoo heal him if himself is not willing to accept that he has to move on ?


I found a quote which is good :
"The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward." STEVE MARABOLI



Ps : sorry if here some mistakes English is not my strong😕

Originally posted by: -vandy-

Bang on

Simply loved how u put it all

People here want aarzoo to move on...see her married to zaki but then it'll mean aarzoo never loved sahir...

U know ppl live in a wonder land here... A princess meets her prince charming...They fall in love and live happily ever after

Life is not a bed of roses

You need to look beyond the obvious...see and understand what does not meet the eye

Once aarzoo had told sahir to read her eyes...understand her...will she be able to do the same with sahir?

Sahir will never tell her he loves her...its going to be there in his eyes...will she be able to read it?

Originally posted by: allforlove

What a lovely response Suvika ...here's to you 🤗 And I was almost counting on you to understand my POV 😊 From your own posts, I can see the similarities 🤗

@red above - I hope hope hope Arzoo does that someday soon - gives Sahir a tiggghhhtwala hug and tells him its all going to be okay To be sure, he would want to wriggle out of it 😆 but she should grab him tighter then 😆

As for her to have inkling, I think she doesn't really believe what Sahir has told her yesterday. Actually, his eyes speak more strongly than his words and I wish she sees that She left the house too when he said he does not trust her, not when he said he does not love her - so am thinking 🤔 She needs time to get out of this trauma now but Sahir may make some effort this time as he is feeling hugely guilty for all that has happened since their confrontation. Hope the new year brings them closer

And a happy new year to all of you ...😊