Fair and Unfair - Page 2

Originally posted by: Gudakesha

See, this is where women go wrong.

Roshni is absolutely wrong in taking money from Rajveer.

Sid can take insults from DD because he owes her. And DD is a family not an outsider. But Rajveer is an outsider. And Roshni taking money from him only proves that she did not have confidence on Sid's abilities. She has insulted the man in him - proving that he cannot do anything on his own. It would have been different if she worked herself and earned the money and gave it to DD, but she didnt. She took money from an outsider - just like that. For free. How did she think she'll repay him? To clear one debt she fell in another debt. Didn't she think even once what if Sid had to work for Rajveer to repay the money? What if Rajveer treats Sid the same way DD did? Then what will she do? Take money from third person again and give it to Rajveer?

Love is not the only thing a wife has to show towards a husband, she should also keep his respect and self-respect. Which she failed a big time. Her problem is not about Sid losing, but DD winning. When the time of crisis comes she is not even able to walk two steps.

Sid is a mature and good person - and this is a show. Hence he forgave her easily. But in real life if any wife does what Roshni has done, then there would be a huge crack in marital life.

Originally posted by: Gudakesha

^^^^^ I agree to what you said. But just think, there are certain things by which the woman in us get hurt or humiliated. Men may not realize it but insult the womanhood of their wives, not intentionally sometimes. (I cannot elaborate further on what issues as this will create a whole new discussion, but I'm sure you understand what I mean) Similarly women too hurt the man inside their husbands unintentionally. Unfortunately they dont crib and cry or do morchas like naari shakti and all. The only way they show displeasure is through anger. But that doesnt mean they are wrong or less hurt than women. Respect is a two-way thing, so is honour. If we expect a husband to keep a wives self-respect, wives too should do the same and there is nothing like chauvinism about it. I just wanna say that though Roshni did not ask Rajveer money herself, though Rajveer sweetly insisted her, manipulated her, It is her duty as a wife to remain strong and refuse it. Result matters not process in decision taking.

And there is nothing like good option and bad option in marital problems, there is always bad option and bad option only. She just has to decide which option makes less damage. One bad option may seem immediate relief but long term consequences may be bad/blurred/unexpected like in Rajveer's debt. The other option may be difficult at present in long term there is a certain guarantee of what will happen like in DD's debt. He may suffer now but will be out for sure after sometime. But then we cannot keep on analyzing this as this is male-centric show and we cannot expect perfection from the female lead.

I don't know who's fair or unfair, Sid, Roshni, Roshni, Sid but I would just say that these little issues between Roshni and Sid can become the start for their relationship suffering, if they are not dealt forthwith. Little cracks can turn into big cracks if not resolved. Furthermore, Rajveer is the one happy in all this because money is easily coming into his hands without him making any effort from both DD and Roshni, under the pretext of helping them with regards to lending them money.

Originally posted by: Gingerly

I don't know who's fair or unfair, Sid, Roshni, Roshni, Sid but I would just say that these little issues between Roshni and Sid can become the start for their relationship suffering, if they are not dealt forthwith. Little cracks can turn into big cracks if not resolved. Furthermore, Rajveer is the one happy in all this because money is easily coming into his hands without him making any effort from both DD and Roshni, under the pretext of helping them with regards to lending them money.