Inferiority complex? Or hurt feelings?

Vivek and Sanchi.

Why men cant take it if the wife gets flashy cars and gets more promotions? While women are too happy if their husbands get those flashy cars and speedy promotions.

I think it is both.Hurt feelings and inferiority complex.

Let us forget Sanchi. Generally women feel guilty about their success or they are made to feel guilty. Once the initial euphoria is over.

Men indulge their women but they sometimes cant cope when the woman starts to have her own work related life and moments.They need some patience and understanding. When working women tries to underplay her achievements, sensitive men can sense that they are being patronised and this angers them more. A working woman's life is no bed of roses. She has to do house work also impeccably so that she wont be labelled as someone who neglects her house for the sake of her career. And if children are there, her responsibility increases manyfolds.

You have touched upon a sensitive topic.

Men do feel inadequate, threatened and insecure with their life partner's success as this is supposed to be their coverted position. They are in a catcy situation of "being terribly uncomfortable in a comfortable situation". The typical social structure of men being providers where women should lookup to them for wordly comforts and they depend on women for emotional bonding and household labor is gradually getting shattered.

While men still depend on women, women have moved on and progressed a great deal.
Over the generations, women have embraced the so called gender revolution, where women have successfully entered areas earlier dominated by males, but men haven't caught up with them. I feel its not the ego, but more of a hesitation on men's part to accept and adopt.

Woman have heavy incentives to take up male jobs whereas most men are still wary of doing the unpaid work or womenish jobs,(a homemaker or taking care of household, kids, family, social commitments etc.)

Even today, I see some of my male colleagues proudly telling me, "all household things are taken care by my wife, I only approve or disapprove". Well, its another matter that they have only two options to choose from, Yes or a yelling yyess 😊.

In addition, Vivek-Sanchi case is also about the emotional stress caused by Sanchi's sudden abnormal professional success. Vivek is feeling small and Sanchi's overtly loving behaviour is not making things any better. She should stop praising her boss or talking about her office affairs at home.

Vivek is a good guy afterall, he encouraged and supported her to start her professional career.

Sanchi needs to separate her professional and personal lives till Vivek could accept and adopt. He needs to be given that space.

Both Sanchi and Vivek dont have the maturity levels required.

They need to go through all this bitterness and misunderstanding to reach maturity and understanding.

Mistakes are natural and one has to learn from mistakes to evolve.

I don't know whether it is anything to do with the Kabra couple.

You summed it up Aparna. Its not really the fault of men, but the conditioning the society forces upon them.

Aparna, I agree with your points.

There's one thing though, urban society has become more open minded or rather money minded.
Most men now want a working woman, and women also want a professional career.
Some men are willing to share all household responsibilities or make arrangements to ensure wife is not over stressed. But there are some who want the cake and eat it too, they want the good things like an additional income, but don't share the additional burden of taking care of home.

Woman being more successful than a man is always a challenging and delicate situation to handle.
Even a woman doesn't like to be in such a situation frankly, no point blaming men.

In case of Vivek-Sanchi, the traditional roles become applicable as so far Vivek has been the one protecting her and having an upper hand in her life. She has been depending on him for all support. Now that Sanchi has got wings, he feels she is giving too much importance to her work. Why is she being bestowed with gifts, surprises, promotions in such a short time? This sudden abnormal success is bothering him, not that she is more successful than him. You are right, both are immature. Sanchi needs to stop mixing her professional and personal life. And Vivek should be a little more patient.