Raman's behavior - from a husband's POV!

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secretservice

@secretservice

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Posted: 10 years ago

Hey all, it's been a super long time since I penned down anything here...I had decided to forcibly stop writing because I felt I was spending way too much time on the forum :) ..but couldn't resist coming back! ..I've been following the serial though, regularly, and reading posts here too ..

I wanted to add something in defense of Raman ..First off, I personally found him super HOT and SE*Y today! ..His authoritative avatar was a turn ON for sure! ..but I see that many have misunderstood his behavior as one where he tried to physically abuse Ishita..

Well, I also discussed with hubby dear whom I keep updated regularly (he doesn't watch!) but made him watch today's epi ..and asked him what he felt and it was pretty much in line with what I felt.

Raman was harsh but it's not like he committed any crime...If he wanted it would have taken him a split second to pin Ishita down and do the unthinkable ..He could have even attempted to pull her saree off ..BUT he did nothing vulgar IMO ..

Yes, he is very very angry assuming that Ishu is having a relationship with Mani ..he is possessive of her ...he loves her but hasn't told her as much and now he thinks it's too late for him...it's like he's missed the boat ...or he thinks he's drowning and he's holding on to the last straw to stay afloat!

I think any guy (hubby or not) who is crazy about a woman and hasn't voiced it yet will be totally frustrated to see her going to another man -

Now it's a different story that he doesn't know that there is nothing between Mani and Ishu ..given his past ..what is he to make of their relation ..and after the "i love you mani" talk and "you are my hero" sort of talk what is he to make of it..

He is just totally frustrated and in his drunk state it manifested as anger ..He loves Ishu ..he always found her attractive ..even on the KC day he commented that she looked good ...he wants her physically which is quite a natural thing to feel ..but he thinks she wants another man ...what can he do! ..

He was harsh but he could have been a lot worse - given that he was drunk ..comparing him with Param is quite outrageous ...Param is a bloody pervert ..he has a wife and he "rapes" other women ..Raman did not really cross any boundaries ...As a husband, he was just venting ...

If he really wanted to be an "animal" he could have very easily overpowered ishita and at least threatened a rape or something ...after all he took down 4-5 gundas on the street..what is Ishita to not overpower! ..

I think we have to cut him some slack ..given Ishita's secretive behavior with Mani ...It's not even a year since ishra marriage and in that time frame it's hard for him to know ishu so well as to trust her 100% especially in the light of things he overheard!...

But I really hope the tempers get controlled and Ishita explains everything to Raman! ..

Anyway, that's what I felt and I thought I would state it because seems like Raman is being accused a lot :)

Does anyone agree here???

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--Megha--

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Posted: 10 years ago

I completely agree with u. N even I think he wud not have raped her coz thats not Raman bhalla that cvs have built all over these months. 😳

Just hope that he confronts her n clears all his doubts tomorrow. 😳

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Anisha_anitan

@Anisha_anitan

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Posted: 10 years ago

Great post I mostly agree with it but tbh while watching today's episode I felt Raman was going to misbehave with her (obviously I know it's not part of rkb character but the way he was acting) and felt totally disgusted.

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barun_mania

@barun_mania

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Posted: 10 years ago

Very well said ,completly agree ,any husband can get furious in such a mu, even though he had not a bitter past like Raman,i only blame ishita for worsning the condition ,can't she figure out this mess is bcoz of that mani her so called bestest frnd

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Aishwarya

@itsme_aish

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Posted: 10 years ago

To be very honest, I have a friend who is dating a guy..And it's quite a few years of love..It so happened that one day he was furious with her about something and they fought..In a fit of a rage, he came very close to her physically..He did try to intimidate her with his anger, but he knew where to draw the boundary line..

I could be wrong but I am assuming that the character Raman wouldn't have crossed the limits..I dont think he would have behaved like a jaanwar with her..Though they ended the scene there, but still I did not really appreciate the way things were portrayed..CVs could have avoided this..Ours is a very sensitive society and such things could send out a wrong msg..They could have avoided that..

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jay_bpm

@jay_bpm

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Posted: 10 years ago

Well I haven't bothered to read whole thing or what/who people have compared him with. Do I call him same like Param no, will I call him rapist No !

But will I say his behavior was more than just harsh or hurt husband, yes. Just because he was hurt and has bitter past you can't go on pushing your wife in sense as if you are going to force yourself upon her.

They way whole scene was shown I was disgusted since I work in the field. I see people convicted of rape and such acts on daily basis. More than 50 % (very conservative number) were intoxicated or under influence of drugs at the time of their act. So when they show Raman being drunk like this, yes I believe he could have very well gone all the way ! That is why when he came to his senses he regretted his actions greatly. Under influence of alcohol/drugs ppl do unthinkable.

I seriously hope makers of the show realize in order to show Raman's hurt they are going far far far than what is needed. As until now I didn't empathize with either Raman-Ishita as see both are idiots !! But with this act of Raman, he owes really big apology. Now will that happen, i doubt it 👎🏼

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Sandysprings

@Sandysprings

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: jay_bpm
Well I haven't bothered to read whole thing or what/who people have compared him with. Do I call him same like Param no, will I call him rapist No !
But will I say his behavior was more than just harsh or hurt husband, yes. Just because he was hurt and has bitter past you can't go on pushing your wife in sense as if you are going to force yourself upon her.

They way whole scene was shown I was disgusted since I work in the field. I see people convicted of rape and such acts on daily basis. More than 50 % (very conservative number) were intoxicated or under influence of drugs at the time of their act. So when they show Raman being drunk like this, yes I believe he could have very well gone all the way ! That is why when he came to his senses he regretted his actions greatly. Under influence of alcohol/drugs ppl do unthinkable.

I seriously hope makers of the show realize in order to show Raman's hurt they are going far far far than what is needed. As until now I didn't empathize with either Raman-Ishita as see both are idiots !! But with this act of Raman, he owes really big apology. Now will that happen, i doubt it 👎🏼

@blue hope they will ..

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--Megha--

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: jay_bpm
Well I haven't bothered to read whole thing or what/who people have compared him with. Do I call him same like Param no, will I call him rapist No !
But will I say his behavior was more than just harsh or hurt husband, yes. Just because he was hurt and has bitter past you can't go on pushing your wife in sense as if you are going to force yourself upon her.

They way whole scene was shown I was disgusted since I work in the field. I see people convicted of rape and such acts on daily basis. More than 50 % (very conservative number) were intoxicated or under influence of drugs at the time of their act. So when they show Raman being drunk like this, yes I believe he could have very well gone all the way ! That is why when he came to his senses he regretted his actions greatly. Under influence of alcohol/drugs ppl do unthinkable.

I seriously hope makers of the show realize in order to show Raman's hurt they are going far far far than what is needed. As until now I didn't empathize with either Raman-Ishita as see both are idiots !! But with this act of Raman, he owes really big apology. Now will that happen, i doubt it👎🏼

Jay in all the serials men r supposed to say sorry to women even if Men r not wrong, here toh Morally RKB is wrong he will definitely apologize for it. 😆

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jay_bpm

@jay_bpm

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: mnr123

Jay in all the serials men r supposed to say sorry to women even if Men r not wrong, here toh Morally RKB is wrong he will definitely apologize for it. 😆

Oh yes I forgot after all Indian tv is female world so men sure have to say sorry 😆 now before all gals bring their "feminism: making me cry like male lead I shall hit the bed 😆

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ZaaraBB

@ZaaraBB

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Nice post! Unfortunately i do not agree fully. Which means i do agree but partially.

I am not married and never have been in any relationship, so what you may be saying and understanding may be different from my thoughts.

From the past few episodes, i couldn't take up any side, i felt bad for both Ishita and Raman. Before, i felt worse for Raman but after his drunkard state and the speech, i was fully turned off. What i don't understand in this whole situation is why is this couple lacking communication?? WHY!!!???

We have seen in many previous episodes, its always Ishita who starts a discussion to a topic, whether it was Romi or Simmi or any of the other family members. I.DO.NOT.UNDERSTAND why Raman allowed himself to get to this point.

Agreed.

He had talked to Mihir and then he had the "flirtatious" talks between Mani and Ishita. Then the name changing. But then he just assumed! He knows from Ishita's nature she is not a liar and she is a girl with principles.

But putting these things aside, I still 'side' with Raman bcz of his past. I was feeling the hurt and betrayal Raman felt. I felt horrible for him, and wanted to know why Ishita couldn't realise.

But then it was this night, the award night. That blew everything; Raman did something that was uncalled for. He kept his eyes on Ishita and Mani, to see how they were behaving, he made himself in that postion to allow himself to insult IShita publicly without no feelings and care. It made me wonder, does he even really love Ishita? Is this LOVE?

Then, from here i felt very bad for Ishita. She loved Ramana nd what NOT has not done for this man? She did everything with her heart and will continue doing it for him and her family. He from day one had taunted her and insulted her, even in jokes. WHich was not fair, yet she accepted this and fell in love with him.

But it was tonights episode that took the cake. I was scared as wits. He was "pretty-much-fine" bringing in the things in the kitchen, opening the main door for her, then he goes in the room, gets drunk again and then decides to show her who has right on her? That was disgusting, regardless of whatever happened in the end, in his drunkard state, his intention was to show her 'her-place' basically. He didnt succeed.I was so happy at the push she gave him.

Im sorry, but i see nothing positive in todays episode. For me Raman was utmost disgusting tonight. and for this i thank the writers for ruining his character big time. This almost rape scene turned me OFF big time!!

Coming back to your point, agreed we can't compare Raman with Param(who in the world made this comparison in the first place) Param is a neech insaan, and Raman, although he was disgusting last night, he is a man of principles and putting my anger and disgust to a side i am sure he will make back up for last night.

About the animal part, Raman was really behaving like a hungry angry beast last night, he stopped her multi of times and kept on saying he will show her his right as a husband, he was basically, termed in Ishita's words, wanted to show her manhood rights to her. This was disgusting and HE only stopped after Ishita pushed him down with all her might on the ground. He had stooped THAT low, and he scared her to witts and then she ran out. If Ishita didnt push him, what wouldv'e happened? I hated that scene!

Tempers and control?? Its the game of EGO. Had Raman really cared so much, he wouldn't beat around the bush, but go bluntly and ask. LIke how a man would! And now its too late, i don't think Raman deserves any explanation from Ishita. She does not need to explain anything to him. She should for at least now, to let Raman understand on his own, stay away from Raman for a while!!

Well regardless, the story is on an interesting turn, awaiting the future episodes