As preparations for the wedding got underway, many mothers of sons , struggle with tension between their desire to be a "good mother" and the challenge of defining their role with respect to their child's wedding and her future role !
The mothers clearly wanted to have some role in the planning and in the actual wedding event. ...and in the later part of their offspring's life too !However, it is always not clear what this role should be, and who or what defined this role ,she ,her son or her Bahu ? The inability to define her role was often emotionally difficult for the mother of the groom !Every mother thinks , she wanted to be involved with her son's life at every step , yet he could not actually come and say I want you beside me mum !. She, from a distance helplessly watching her son who is busy in impressing his newly found romantic bundle !Here the mother-of-the-groom is feeling that ..she lost her control over her toddler ,. This mother's looks are stated, "I could tell ,she didn't really want my presence . I also knew she didn't allow my son to come near me ...she deliberately want to hurt my feelings! I tried to support her with minimal resentment. I wanted it to be wonderful for them...but ..but they are ignoring my presence ...neglecting me...have to do something now ..to make them realise my importance !She felt angry and disappointed, with a sense of purposelessness, and expressed irritation that her Bahu is getting more attention from her son than her ...this feeling , by evaluating positions ...is the starting point of the misunderstanding and a life long tussle .. a vigorous psychological struggle , typical in Indian households ,in order to obtain control over the precious son/husband ! Man ..thy name is a divider ..but always an inheritor of love from either side !
Anupamaa
