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Ishita is to be blamed...No, Raman
is to be blamed'.
Ishu ki koi galati nahi thi, toh
Raman ki kya galati thi?'
Yeh Hai Mohabbatein has been
nothing less than a roller-coaster
ride for the past few days. The recent
happenings in the show plus the latest
on air promos have certainly
managed to grab the attention of one
and all. Though several reactions and
comments are floating around and
everybody from viewers to fans to
reporters have been giving out their
version of what's happening, why it is
happening, who is right, who is
wrong etc it all eventually comes
down to one thing The Blame game'.
Is Ishita to be blamed? Yes and No.
Is Raman to be blamed? Yes and No.
Confused? Surprised? Shocked? Well
look closely, keep favorites aside and
analyze the whole thing from start.
Somewhere you will start to feel that
if Ishita is to be blamed then Raman
is also to be blamed and if Raman is
not to be blamed then even Ishita is
not to be blamed. In simple words
there is no debate on what is right or
wrong here, because both Ishita and
Raman are responsible for the chaos
that is about to rock the very
existence of their relationship even if
to only emerge stronger.
To say that both Ishita and Raman
are diametrically opposite wouldn't
be entirely correct because there are
many streaks in their personality
which are quite similar and reminds
you of the other. For example they
both are stubborn, they both are
strong opinionated, they both fight
for justice, are righteous etc would be
a few but apart from these traits
there is something about Ishita and
Raman that make them truly unique
and that is they can go to any extent
for the other which is probably why
it hurts so much when the other says
or does something intentionally or
unintentionally.
The Present Scenario : Ishita
As seen so far Ishita with the help of
Mani has been trying to solve the
Romi-Sarika matter without
informing Raman because she believes
that if her husband comes to know
about Ashok's involvement in the
matter, Raman wouldn't think twice
before giving up something he
rightfully earned; which in this case
would be the "Asia Business Head
Title" if it were to do more harm than
good.
Raman is a family man, someone who
values and cares for his loved ones. If
he came to know that Ashok plans to
disgrace the Bhalla Family' using the
Romi-Sarika incident so that he
would be elected as the Asia Head,
Raman would happily give it away.
He has done it in the past for Ishita
and he wouldn't hesitate doing it
again. Back then Ishita came to know
about the entire matter only after
Raman resigned from his post as
president. With a little luck and
major help from Mihir, Romi and
Sarika, she could put a stop to the
matter and return the president post
to Raman which he had earned with
sheer hard work and determination.
However this time it is not a matter
of only a prestigious title, it is also
about Raman and the entire Bhalla
family's reputation and the other
aftereffects they would be subjected if
the Romi and Sarika matter became
public.
We have seen previously as well how
both Raman and Ishita tend to keep
things from the other because they
feel it's the right thing to do for the
sake of the other. While open
communication is important in any
relationship, let's not forget that this
is a fictional show where such things
are much needed to create drama and
provide full on entertainment.
When Raman decided to give up his
President post why did he not confide
in Ishita? Because he knew she would
never allow him to do it. Raman did
it anyways, why? Because Ishita's
happiness is what mattered to him;
the smile that appeared on her face
on getting to know that she got her
license back was more priceless to
him than his president post. So was
Ishita wrong in wanting to keep the
whole thing hidden from Raman? NO!
She wasn't.
The Present Scenario: Raman
Lets rewind a little shall we?
While Shagun leaving Raman is the
best thing that has happened to him
there is no denying the truth that
Raman's heart was broken beyond
repair, his soul scared badly and his
trust shattered to pieces. The incident
had damaged him to such an extent
that he became a completely changed
man. His views on love and life
changed drastically.
Enter Ishita, a woman who through
her simple thoughts, sincere words
and selfless actions forced Raman to
rethink his general attitude towards
life which he had formed *post the
Shagun phase*. Though it wasn't easy
for Raman to bounce back, Ishita's
every gesture made Raman question
his newly formed beliefs, ideologies
and outlook on love and life. Raman
can taunt, bicker and argue with
Ishita all he wants but his words
before the world "Jahan jahan tum
poori tarah se khari nahi uttar saki
na, wahan koi aur ek hai aurat jo har
maamlon mein, har maiyne mein
khari uttri hai-ISHITA". Somebody
who does not know the character of
Raman can interpret this as him
trying to insult Shagun. At a glance it
is true, but if you have truly
understood Raman then you know
that it was his way of confessing
before the world that he staunchly
believed Ishita is everything that
Shagun wasn't, isn't and will ever be.
That line oozes so much confidence
that you know for sure that Raman
means every word he is saying.
Quoting Raman who quoted a famous
shayar "Agar suraj ke ujale ko
pehchaana ho, uski roshini ki kadar
karni ho toh kaali raat ki andhere ko
pehchaan lo". Raman clearly states
that Shagun was the darkness in his
life both when present and after
leaving while Ishita aka the sun's
bright light illuminated every
darkened corner of Raman's life
leaving no scope for darkness of any
sort.
Wondering why all this is mentioned
and how it is of any significance
here? The significance is this would
answer the questions "How can
Raman think about Ishita like that?,
"Ishita has done so much for Raman,
he still feels like this, it's so
depressing" etc.
From a person who said such words
back then to one who has started to
believe that he is being cheated, that
his wife is having an affair when in
the past Raman himself has said time
and again that Ishita is anything but
Shagun can that man be blamed for
reacting the way he is? NO! He can't.
Why Not?
Because that is how powerful the scar
of a wound embedded on your heart
and soul by a broken trust can be.
Trust is one thing which when broken
can not be easily mended. When it
comes down to trust even the slightest
flicker can lead to catastrophic
outcome. According to Raman his
wife Ishita respects him, cares for
him, is protective about him etc but
what about love? That is something
Raman is uncertain of, just like
Ishita. And sadly (Not literally) only
love, Ishita's love can erase the scar
embedded in Raman's heart and on
his soul. Since these two are yet to
acknowledge, accept and confess their
love for each other things like this
are bound to happen at some
juncture.
So if Ishita isn't wrong and Raman
isn't wrong then who is? Well they
both are.
Ishita : Ishita's friendship with Mani
is a really genuine one, but her 24*7
Mani jaap can make anybody cranky.
Would Ishita like it if Raman did the
same or compared her with some
other woman?
Citing an example - Shagun left
Raman...Correction- Shagun cheated
and then left Raman. But even when
there is nothing but hatred for the
other, Raman and Shagun are bound
to each other by their kids. No matter
what, Shagun is the mother of
Raman's kids. And though somewhere
in the back of her head Ishita knew
that there was a reason because of
which Raman was helping Shagun in
the Amma accident case', the very
idea that Raman was siding with his
first wife- the woman who literally
destroyed him was too painful for
Ishita. Even when she knew that she
and Raman got married for the sake
of Ruhi, her lines "Maine pyaar dekha
hai Raman ke aakhon mein, bohat
pyaar hai lekin who pyaar mere liye
nahi hai" was a perfect testimony of
how deeply hurt she was when he out
of the blue shut her out and sided
with Shagun. So shouldn't Ishita
know that constantly appreciating
Mani, even if he is her best friend can
cause discomfort to Raman? What
makes her think otherwise?
Ishita is not a dumb woman, infact
she is sensible, quite smart and
intelligent. Being a human she does
have her share of flaws but she is
never known to be as someone who is
oblivious to her soundings and what
is happening in the lives of her loved
ones. So it was indeed shocking when
all of a sudden Ishita could not gauge
Raman's actions and reactions.
Acha Chalo iss baat ko bhi nazar
andaaz kar dete hai. What was the
need to lie? As a writer and analyzer
that for me was the biggest turning
point in this entire drama. Though we
have witnessed Raman get affected
seeing Mani-Ishita's closeness, the
comfort level between the two and
their phone conversations he never
objected to them. Raman has never
questioned Ishita about any of these
things, then what made Ishita lie to
Raman (Karva Chauth Day) about the
phone call? She could have told him
that it was Mani and not divulged the
details. Would Raman force it out of
her? Would he keep nagging? No he
wouldn't. This was a major mistake
by Ishita. This was followed by
another one where Ishita answers
Raman's call but lies to him that she
was at the clinic when she wasn't
while he was right there. Add the
whole changing Mani' to Manisha'
angle to this and anybody in Raman's
shoes would be forced to connect the
dots, even if there aren't any to
connect.
For Raman this is like history
repeating as all these are the very
signs of betrayal for him. This is
where Ishita's fault lay. In her
attempt to keep this matter hidden
from Raman, for his sake she chose
to take a path aka lie which has never
been known to be helpful without
creating a ruckus. And unfortunately
for Ishita this move of hers is going
to force them apart even if for a
short while.
Raman: Raman's jealousy, his
insecurity simple makes him human.
It affirms the truth that he hasn't
confessed which is, Ishu is not just the
mother of his kid but something more
and special to him. If they had not
shown these aspects of Raman it
would have been the wrong way to go.
It's not Raman's jealousy or his
insecurity that mattered. He felt
history was repeating and there is no
blaming him however his fault lies in
how Raman handled the situation. Jo
usne saalon pehle kiya, aaj bhi usne
wahi kiya.
Raman knows that Ishita is not
Shagun, usne khud yeh kaha hai then
why did he not talk it out with Ishita?
Agreed he decided to talk to Ishita as
per Mihir's advice but then why
didn't he go through with it? Again
agreed he did want to talk to her and
even made an attempt which he left
mid way when he saw Ishita hug Mani
and say I love you'. Mani
reciprocating the same by saying if
you love me so much then leave your
husband and marry me followed by
Ishita agreeing to the same only made
matters worse for Raman. A person
who hears only this portion he/she
can easily misinterpret it. Raman ne
bhi wahi kiya, he heard this and
assumed the worst. Which is why
bade buzurgo ne kaha hai "Half
truths can be dangerous". According
to him the worst had occurred there
was nothing more? He could have
confronted Ishita, raised his voice
because clearly something wrong was
happening but he chose not to.
Remember the FB sequences that were
shown two episodes back? When
Raman calls Shagun from their home
asking where she was, she lies about
being busy with household chores.
When Raman picks up a call that
came for Shagun, he gets to know
that her friend Anupama is actually a
man. The same stuff happened here as
well and that along with witnessing
Ishita and Mani's conversation was a
final nail on the coffin. But it was the
final nail because Raman decided so.
He could have still confronted Ishita
but did not.
Back then when he believed life was a
bed of roses he couldn't do much and
he didn't however today when he
knows that life is not just a bed of
roses but has thorns too he still
chooses to not do anything, but
drown himself in alcohol and hurt
Ishita. Agreed Men and Women react
differently when they learn something
like this but against his better
judgment Raman chose to only
connect the points he had seen and
heard thus concluding his wife is
cheating on him.
Both Ishita and Raman have donated
in big and small amounts, to this
cause aka this misery they are about
to take a deep plunge into.
So there is no blame game here and if
there is it rests on both their
shoulders. What would Raman do
when he learns that Ishita never even
in her dreams thought about the
things that he thought she would do?
What would Ishita do when she learns
that her actions fueled Raman's
insecurities?
Ab yeh dekhna hai ki what Ishita will
do when she learns from Mrs. Bhalla
that the wetness of the pillow was not
from AC leakage but Raman's tears
and how it's related to Shagun
breaking his home, his heart and
leaving him. Will she connect all that
Raman uttered in his drunk state
with this information she learns from
Toshi Ji and understand what's going
on?
There is one angle where things can
get a little trickier. Where Ishita's
sole intentions was to keep Raman
from harm's way and spread
happiness in his life. Raman is
deliberately trying to hurt Ishita and
inflict pain upon her. What Raman is
doing is an act of self-defense. He is
hurting her before she can hurt him.
But if not handled properly this turn
can end up making one character look
bad than the other which as far
IshRa are considered is a huge NO.
Even if unknowingly Ishita has
refreshed Raman's scars, which did
not even heal properly. She is going
to have to bring heaven and hell
together to make this alright. On the
other hand Raman too is going to
have to make it up to Ishita for
thinking that she would break him
like Shagun did, especially after
proving herself and her loyalty time
and again. It's not going to be an
easy feat and they have a long way to
go but it will definitely be worth
watching.
Author: Vijitha Rajan
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is to be blamed'.
Ishu ki koi galati nahi thi, toh
Raman ki kya galati thi?'
Yeh Hai Mohabbatein has been
nothing less than a roller-coaster
ride for the past few days. The recent
happenings in the show plus the latest
on air promos have certainly
managed to grab the attention of one
and all. Though several reactions and
comments are floating around and
everybody from viewers to fans to
reporters have been giving out their
version of what's happening, why it is
happening, who is right, who is
wrong etc it all eventually comes
down to one thing The Blame game'.
Is Ishita to be blamed? Yes and No.
Is Raman to be blamed? Yes and No.
Confused? Surprised? Shocked? Well
look closely, keep favorites aside and
analyze the whole thing from start.
Somewhere you will start to feel that
if Ishita is to be blamed then Raman
is also to be blamed and if Raman is
not to be blamed then even Ishita is
not to be blamed. In simple words
there is no debate on what is right or
wrong here, because both Ishita and
Raman are responsible for the chaos
that is about to rock the very
existence of their relationship even if
to only emerge stronger.
To say that both Ishita and Raman
are diametrically opposite wouldn't
be entirely correct because there are
many streaks in their personality
which are quite similar and reminds
you of the other. For example they
both are stubborn, they both are
strong opinionated, they both fight
for justice, are righteous etc would be
a few but apart from these traits
there is something about Ishita and
Raman that make them truly unique
and that is they can go to any extent
for the other which is probably why
it hurts so much when the other says
or does something intentionally or
unintentionally.
The Present Scenario : Ishita
As seen so far Ishita with the help of
Mani has been trying to solve the
Romi-Sarika matter without
informing Raman because she believes
that if her husband comes to know
about Ashok's involvement in the
matter, Raman wouldn't think twice
before giving up something he
rightfully earned; which in this case
would be the "Asia Business Head
Title" if it were to do more harm than
good.
Raman is a family man, someone who
values and cares for his loved ones. If
he came to know that Ashok plans to
disgrace the Bhalla Family' using the
Romi-Sarika incident so that he
would be elected as the Asia Head,
Raman would happily give it away.
He has done it in the past for Ishita
and he wouldn't hesitate doing it
again. Back then Ishita came to know
about the entire matter only after
Raman resigned from his post as
president. With a little luck and
major help from Mihir, Romi and
Sarika, she could put a stop to the
matter and return the president post
to Raman which he had earned with
sheer hard work and determination.
However this time it is not a matter
of only a prestigious title, it is also
about Raman and the entire Bhalla
family's reputation and the other
aftereffects they would be subjected if
the Romi and Sarika matter became
public.
We have seen previously as well how
both Raman and Ishita tend to keep
things from the other because they
feel it's the right thing to do for the
sake of the other. While open
communication is important in any
relationship, let's not forget that this
is a fictional show where such things
are much needed to create drama and
provide full on entertainment.
When Raman decided to give up his
President post why did he not confide
in Ishita? Because he knew she would
never allow him to do it. Raman did
it anyways, why? Because Ishita's
happiness is what mattered to him;
the smile that appeared on her face
on getting to know that she got her
license back was more priceless to
him than his president post. So was
Ishita wrong in wanting to keep the
whole thing hidden from Raman? NO!
She wasn't.
The Present Scenario: Raman
Lets rewind a little shall we?
While Shagun leaving Raman is the
best thing that has happened to him
there is no denying the truth that
Raman's heart was broken beyond
repair, his soul scared badly and his
trust shattered to pieces. The incident
had damaged him to such an extent
that he became a completely changed
man. His views on love and life
changed drastically.
Enter Ishita, a woman who through
her simple thoughts, sincere words
and selfless actions forced Raman to
rethink his general attitude towards
life which he had formed *post the
Shagun phase*. Though it wasn't easy
for Raman to bounce back, Ishita's
every gesture made Raman question
his newly formed beliefs, ideologies
and outlook on love and life. Raman
can taunt, bicker and argue with
Ishita all he wants but his words
before the world "Jahan jahan tum
poori tarah se khari nahi uttar saki
na, wahan koi aur ek hai aurat jo har
maamlon mein, har maiyne mein
khari uttri hai-ISHITA". Somebody
who does not know the character of
Raman can interpret this as him
trying to insult Shagun. At a glance it
is true, but if you have truly
understood Raman then you know
that it was his way of confessing
before the world that he staunchly
believed Ishita is everything that
Shagun wasn't, isn't and will ever be.
That line oozes so much confidence
that you know for sure that Raman
means every word he is saying.
Quoting Raman who quoted a famous
shayar "Agar suraj ke ujale ko
pehchaana ho, uski roshini ki kadar
karni ho toh kaali raat ki andhere ko
pehchaan lo". Raman clearly states
that Shagun was the darkness in his
life both when present and after
leaving while Ishita aka the sun's
bright light illuminated every
darkened corner of Raman's life
leaving no scope for darkness of any
sort.
Wondering why all this is mentioned
and how it is of any significance
here? The significance is this would
answer the questions "How can
Raman think about Ishita like that?,
"Ishita has done so much for Raman,
he still feels like this, it's so
depressing" etc.
From a person who said such words
back then to one who has started to
believe that he is being cheated, that
his wife is having an affair when in
the past Raman himself has said time
and again that Ishita is anything but
Shagun can that man be blamed for
reacting the way he is? NO! He can't.
Why Not?
Because that is how powerful the scar
of a wound embedded on your heart
and soul by a broken trust can be.
Trust is one thing which when broken
can not be easily mended. When it
comes down to trust even the slightest
flicker can lead to catastrophic
outcome. According to Raman his
wife Ishita respects him, cares for
him, is protective about him etc but
what about love? That is something
Raman is uncertain of, just like
Ishita. And sadly (Not literally) only
love, Ishita's love can erase the scar
embedded in Raman's heart and on
his soul. Since these two are yet to
acknowledge, accept and confess their
love for each other things like this
are bound to happen at some
juncture.
So if Ishita isn't wrong and Raman
isn't wrong then who is? Well they
both are.
Ishita : Ishita's friendship with Mani
is a really genuine one, but her 24*7
Mani jaap can make anybody cranky.
Would Ishita like it if Raman did the
same or compared her with some
other woman?
Citing an example - Shagun left
Raman...Correction- Shagun cheated
and then left Raman. But even when
there is nothing but hatred for the
other, Raman and Shagun are bound
to each other by their kids. No matter
what, Shagun is the mother of
Raman's kids. And though somewhere
in the back of her head Ishita knew
that there was a reason because of
which Raman was helping Shagun in
the Amma accident case', the very
idea that Raman was siding with his
first wife- the woman who literally
destroyed him was too painful for
Ishita. Even when she knew that she
and Raman got married for the sake
of Ruhi, her lines "Maine pyaar dekha
hai Raman ke aakhon mein, bohat
pyaar hai lekin who pyaar mere liye
nahi hai" was a perfect testimony of
how deeply hurt she was when he out
of the blue shut her out and sided
with Shagun. So shouldn't Ishita
know that constantly appreciating
Mani, even if he is her best friend can
cause discomfort to Raman? What
makes her think otherwise?
Ishita is not a dumb woman, infact
she is sensible, quite smart and
intelligent. Being a human she does
have her share of flaws but she is
never known to be as someone who is
oblivious to her soundings and what
is happening in the lives of her loved
ones. So it was indeed shocking when
all of a sudden Ishita could not gauge
Raman's actions and reactions.
Acha Chalo iss baat ko bhi nazar
andaaz kar dete hai. What was the
need to lie? As a writer and analyzer
that for me was the biggest turning
point in this entire drama. Though we
have witnessed Raman get affected
seeing Mani-Ishita's closeness, the
comfort level between the two and
their phone conversations he never
objected to them. Raman has never
questioned Ishita about any of these
things, then what made Ishita lie to
Raman (Karva Chauth Day) about the
phone call? She could have told him
that it was Mani and not divulged the
details. Would Raman force it out of
her? Would he keep nagging? No he
wouldn't. This was a major mistake
by Ishita. This was followed by
another one where Ishita answers
Raman's call but lies to him that she
was at the clinic when she wasn't
while he was right there. Add the
whole changing Mani' to Manisha'
angle to this and anybody in Raman's
shoes would be forced to connect the
dots, even if there aren't any to
connect.
For Raman this is like history
repeating as all these are the very
signs of betrayal for him. This is
where Ishita's fault lay. In her
attempt to keep this matter hidden
from Raman, for his sake she chose
to take a path aka lie which has never
been known to be helpful without
creating a ruckus. And unfortunately
for Ishita this move of hers is going
to force them apart even if for a
short while.
Raman: Raman's jealousy, his
insecurity simple makes him human.
It affirms the truth that he hasn't
confessed which is, Ishu is not just the
mother of his kid but something more
and special to him. If they had not
shown these aspects of Raman it
would have been the wrong way to go.
It's not Raman's jealousy or his
insecurity that mattered. He felt
history was repeating and there is no
blaming him however his fault lies in
how Raman handled the situation. Jo
usne saalon pehle kiya, aaj bhi usne
wahi kiya.
Raman knows that Ishita is not
Shagun, usne khud yeh kaha hai then
why did he not talk it out with Ishita?
Agreed he decided to talk to Ishita as
per Mihir's advice but then why
didn't he go through with it? Again
agreed he did want to talk to her and
even made an attempt which he left
mid way when he saw Ishita hug Mani
and say I love you'. Mani
reciprocating the same by saying if
you love me so much then leave your
husband and marry me followed by
Ishita agreeing to the same only made
matters worse for Raman. A person
who hears only this portion he/she
can easily misinterpret it. Raman ne
bhi wahi kiya, he heard this and
assumed the worst. Which is why
bade buzurgo ne kaha hai "Half
truths can be dangerous". According
to him the worst had occurred there
was nothing more? He could have
confronted Ishita, raised his voice
because clearly something wrong was
happening but he chose not to.
Remember the FB sequences that were
shown two episodes back? When
Raman calls Shagun from their home
asking where she was, she lies about
being busy with household chores.
When Raman picks up a call that
came for Shagun, he gets to know
that her friend Anupama is actually a
man. The same stuff happened here as
well and that along with witnessing
Ishita and Mani's conversation was a
final nail on the coffin. But it was the
final nail because Raman decided so.
He could have still confronted Ishita
but did not.
Back then when he believed life was a
bed of roses he couldn't do much and
he didn't however today when he
knows that life is not just a bed of
roses but has thorns too he still
chooses to not do anything, but
drown himself in alcohol and hurt
Ishita. Agreed Men and Women react
differently when they learn something
like this but against his better
judgment Raman chose to only
connect the points he had seen and
heard thus concluding his wife is
cheating on him.
Both Ishita and Raman have donated
in big and small amounts, to this
cause aka this misery they are about
to take a deep plunge into.
So there is no blame game here and if
there is it rests on both their
shoulders. What would Raman do
when he learns that Ishita never even
in her dreams thought about the
things that he thought she would do?
What would Ishita do when she learns
that her actions fueled Raman's
insecurities?
Ab yeh dekhna hai ki what Ishita will
do when she learns from Mrs. Bhalla
that the wetness of the pillow was not
from AC leakage but Raman's tears
and how it's related to Shagun
breaking his home, his heart and
leaving him. Will she connect all that
Raman uttered in his drunk state
with this information she learns from
Toshi Ji and understand what's going
on?
There is one angle where things can
get a little trickier. Where Ishita's
sole intentions was to keep Raman
from harm's way and spread
happiness in his life. Raman is
deliberately trying to hurt Ishita and
inflict pain upon her. What Raman is
doing is an act of self-defense. He is
hurting her before she can hurt him.
But if not handled properly this turn
can end up making one character look
bad than the other which as far
IshRa are considered is a huge NO.
Even if unknowingly Ishita has
refreshed Raman's scars, which did
not even heal properly. She is going
to have to bring heaven and hell
together to make this alright. On the
other hand Raman too is going to
have to make it up to Ishita for
thinking that she would break him
like Shagun did, especially after
proving herself and her loyalty time
and again. It's not going to be an
easy feat and they have a long way to
go but it will definitely be worth
watching.
Author: Vijitha Rajan
Telly Tadka
Sports
Health and Fitness
Fan Fictions
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