Originally posted by: payal7
Abhiyawaron - I completely agree with you that what Pakhi-Anusman had was very real and very very special.
But I have to disagree that you cannot care for someone else ever again.
Normally this would happen after a while once the person has grieved and come to terms with their loss but this is Indian Soaps so everything is fast forwarded.
There is an old saying ... you cannot live on love alone...
love like everything needs to be nurtured and grow and evolve just as a person grows and evolves with time. If Ansuman had lived Pakhi-Ansuman love and relationship that was in Singapore and when they returned would not have been the same 5 years later. Don't mis-understand me I am not saying they would not love each other but its expression would have changed.
Unfortunately Ansuman is not there anymore because of that ganchaakar Aryaman. His memories and possessions can provide comfort/solace to Pakhi but it cannot fill the gap his presence has left in her life.
Pakhi is very young - in her mid to late 20's I think. Is it fair to expect that she spends the next 40-50 years of her life alone - no one to talk to about her problems, worries, no one to share her joy or sadness with, no one to comfort her when she is scared or worried, no one to take care of her when she is ill. Yes she has Ayaan but a child (no matter what age) can not take place of a partner/companion.
IMHO its a myth that you cannot never love again. You can care for another person whilst still cherishing the memories of the person you have lost because the 2 relationship will be different because the 2 individuals are different. It requires a level of maturity and understanding on both sides but it can be done (that is what we have in Veer - maturity and understanding of Pakkhi's sentiments)
I loved Pakhi -Ansuman story but I feel this storyline is very important in breaking the mindset / changing perception about second relationships (lust, being unfaithful to the person who has died, replacing the person who has died) that exists in the vast majority of the Indian population. So often when someone's husband dies the family is more concerned with keeping alive the memory of the person who died, making sure that they are not forgotten (which to an extent is right) at the expense of the need of the wife who is still alive. But if a man's wife dies and he chooses to remarry than its accepted. Please don't mis-understand me I am not arguing about equality.
But I do feel that the rigid mindset I have explained above traps very young women into a life of widow who has to remain in the shadow on good occasions because they are considered to be a bad omen, who have no right to have any wishes, desires who are treated as unwanted, a burden that has to be borne by the family and in old age quite often mis-treated.
If this storyline manages educate one person to understand/accept that under the right circumstances and with the right person second relationships can be flourish and can be to the betterment of all then its worth telling.
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