Neha's feelings; love, crush or habit?

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Samridhi

@BinKuchKahe.

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Posted: 11 years ago

Today's episode compelled me to think about what Neha feels for Aman.

Neha has just woken up after 12 years, & she was hit by the truth of Aman/Akansha's relationship. We've seen her crying over her losing Aman & losing out to being his wife. So clearly there are some strong feelings that she has for him. But today, when the topic of dating came up, her conversation with her brother reflected the kid within her. The kid who doesn't really understand what dating is. What a marriage is & how different it is from dating.

So the strong feeling that she has for Aman, is it really love? Some of you commented in other posts that she isn't mature enough to understand what love is etc. But do you need to understand love to love someone? Do you really need maturity to love someone? The love between a man/woman is no doubt different from love between siblings or family, but isn't it love after all? If Neha can love her family, then why does she suddenly need maturity to love Aman? No doubt that she would need a certain amount of maturity to handle her marriage or even when she's dating. But that is different from requiring a maturity for love per se.

Or is it just a crush? A crush that will get over with time, just like how her motu bhaiya dated someone else & married someone.

Or is it just a habit of having Aman around, to chit-chat & be constantly involved in her life? Is there a need for her to get to know Aman now, & not just live on the understanding of what Aman in the past was?

I know they're most likely to be end game. But if Aman didn't find out about her feelings & propose to her (he is going to do that as per spoiler), do you think they would have realised their love & confess to each other (thus ending up together), or just moved on with other people?

Your thoughts?

Edited by prc_fan1 - 11 years ago

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Posted: 11 years ago

Nice post Sam,made me think. See,what I feel is for Neha,initially this was a crush. This is how she felt about Aman when she was all of 14. By going to his house frequently,by playing cricket,she formed a bond of friendship with him and as as time passed and she started to spend more and more time with him,invariably she started to have a crush on him. And then the unthinkable happened when she met with the accident and went into a coma.

12 years passed. She woke up,started recuperating. She still remembered those moments despite all this time. She wanted to continue where she left off. Then she came to know that Akku is getting married to the same guy who once she fantasized about but chose to remain silent and not say anything to anyone but in her room,all alone,she starts to sob,and I think this is the moment that convinced me that her mere crush was turning to love. He was someone so intricately connected to her life,he had become a habit and just the thought of losing him,even to her beloved sister,breaks her heart.

So I think it is a combination of all the three.😳

Edited by -purpleorchids- - 11 years ago

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Zinnia

@Mogwai

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Posted: 11 years ago

Interesting...

In one of my posts I did refer to Neha's feelings as love. The manner in which she has cried for Aman really seems as though her feelings are genuine and deep.

But then one wonders how can it be love since she has been in a coma for all this time. So is it the fact that they were once very close? Is Aman Neha's habit? Possibly. He is her strong connection to the past.

My two cents would be that it's a bit of both. I rule out crush because I think what Neha feels for Aman is not superficial.

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PyaarDostiHai

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Posted: 11 years ago

I'm one of those people who doesn't really think a 14 or 15 year old can fall in love... I've always thought that before you can fall in love with someone else, you need to understand who you are, and very few people understand who they are at that age. Then again I'm only in my late teens and I've never "fallen in love" before so I don't know maybe I'm wrong.

As for Neha, I think her feelings are deep but I don't think that necessarily means its love. It all really depends on your idea of what love is I guess. I do think she feels more for Aman than just pure habit. Maybe a combination of crush and habit? (I don't mean to imply with crush that her feelings are superficial. I just call any romantic feelings that aren't quite love a crush 😃)

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Zinnia

@Mogwai

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: PyaarDostiHai
I'm one of those people who doesn't really think a 14 or 15 year old can fall in love... I've always thought that before you can fall in love with someone else, you need to understand who you are, and very few people understand who they are at that age. Then again I'm only in my late teens and I've never "fallen in love" before so I don't know maybe I'm wrong.

As for Neha, I think her feelings are deep but I don't think that necessarily means its love. It all really depends on your idea of what love is I guess. I do think she feels more for Aman than just pure habit. Maybe a combination of crush and habit? (I don't mean to imply with crush that her feelings are superficial. I just call any romantic feelings that aren't quite love a crush 😃)

Oh I wasn't referring to you. In fact I will be honest...I just read the TM's post and started typing 😆 so kindly read my comments in an isolated manner...I meant nothing of it :)

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PyaarDostiHai

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: .Wanderer.

Oh I wasn't referring to you. In fact I will be honest...I just read the TM's post and started typing 😆 so kindly read my comments in an isolated manner...I meant nothing of it :)

No I just read your reply right before I posted mine so I added that in there just in case. I always find it tough to talk about if someone in is love vs has a crush because different people think of these words in different ways. Some name a bond as love that others would label a crush, and (sometimes) vice versa. It all depends on people's definition so I was just trying to explain how I see the word "crush" more than truly replying to you 😃

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