Unjodable Family- The Gangwals?

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Shwetha

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Posted: 11 years ago

Can the Gangwals be one happy family (again)?

We don't know how the family was years back. They could have been a very happy joint family or they have always been like this from the beginning. What's the future of this family?

There are two root problems. One Dadaji's unbreakable faith on his elder sons and complete distrust on Ramesh and his family. Second- the bonding between the brothers.

What could be the solution? First if Ramesh comes out with the truth, all the truth, will Dadaji believe him? If the brothers themselves accept their mistakes, will Dadaji believe them?

Say Ramesh proves his innocence and Dadaji's trust is broken. Will Dadaji forgive his sons? Will the brothers forgive Ramesh for turning them in? Will they be able to live under the same roof forgetting and forgiving everything? How long will Ramesh be able to remain silent?

The tangle is very complex. I don't think its something which can be solved in a track or say in quick time.

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Posted: 11 years ago

That's a really good question.

The Ramesh issue has been going on for years. Resolving it would take so much time and effort. I feel like there would need to be a huge situation or something, in order for the brothers and dada ji to appreciate Ramesh. He's always been looked down upon as the underdog just because he refused to conform and was not as successful.

Secondly, I think there needs to be some change in Ramesh as well. Yes he failed because he didn't have the support of his family, but he should recognize that he failed regardless. He clearly harbours intense feelings over that period of his life and although values his family, has not been able to move past it. Ramesh needs to let go and focus more on his present. He's too easy going and doesn't seem to harbour too much ambition.

As for dada ji's trust. Dada ji really needs to reality check. He is way too strict and sees things in black and white. There needs to be some allowance for mistakes. So far, Nisha is the only person in the house who does not mind questioning him.

I really think that the families will break apart eventually for a while. There's no way they aren't going to implode. Tensions have been simmering for a while now. Mohan and Roopan's selfishness needs to be looked at. Virender's oldest son complex really needs to be looked at as well. And Ramesh's constant bashing needs to stop. And all of this under the suffocating atmosphere of dada ji's rules = perfect recipe for disaster.

I'm curious to see how the cousins whether this. Their bonding has been depicted very realistically and well so far.

Also, can't wait for Dolly's re-entrance. Been missing her. I hope we see her being included in the family issues as well. That's another issue I hope the CVs tackle - daughter's involvement in maayka after her marriage. Indian audiences need to realize that just because a woman gets married, it does not mean that she is not a main part of the family anymore.

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Shwetha

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: lovely_lady
That's a really good question.

The Ramesh issue has been going on for years. Resolving it would take so much time and effort. I feel like there would need to be a huge situation or something, in order for the brothers and dada ji to appreciate Ramesh. He's always been looked down upon as the underdog just because he refused to conform and was not as successful.

Secondly, I think there needs to be some change in Ramesh as well. Yes he failed because he didn't have the support of his family, but he should recognize that he failed regardless. He clearly harbours intense feelings over that period of his life and although values his family, has not been able to move past it. Ramesh needs to let go and focus more on his present. He's too easy going and doesn't seem to harbour too much ambition.

As for dada ji's trust. Dada ji really needs to reality check. He is way too strict and sees things in black and white. There needs to be some allowance for mistakes. So far, Nisha is the only person in the house who does not mind questioning him.

I really think that the families will break apart eventually for a while. There's no way they aren't going to implode. Tensions have been simmering for a while now. Mohan and Roopan's selfishness needs to be looked at. Virender's oldest son complex really needs to be looked at as well. And Ramesh's constant bashing needs to stop. And all of this under the suffocating atmosphere of dada ji's rules = perfect recipe for disaster.

I'm curious to see how the cousins whether this. Their bonding has been depicted very realistically and well so far.

Also, can't wait for Dolly's re-entrance. Been missing her. I hope we see her being included in the family issues as well. That's another issue I hope the CVs tackle - daughter's involvement in maayka after her marriage. Indian audiences need to realize that just because a woman gets married, it does not mean that she is not a main part of the family anymore.

@blue Yes. Ramesh needs to become more serious too. He takes everything lightly probably because he doesn't want to go into depression looking at the way he is being treated. However, I do think that if one is constantly reminded of one's failure, they cannot overcome it. Ramesh is always taunted for his failures, how can he overcome it then?

The cousins can bring out the truth but will it solve the problem? Won't it blow the problem more?

I am waiting for Dolly to come back too. Another elder in the cousin is needed along with Umesh. Probably Dolly might have some problem at her sasural, and probably Dadaji will have a reality check over his decisions.

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Posted: 11 years ago

Yeah agree this tangle is complex and sensitive. Dadaji is still complex to understand at one side he is able to understand each and every thing goes around and on other he refuses to understand everything goes around. He trust his elder son blindly but does trust means perfection? Does trust means that his elder son can't do anything wrong (intentionally or unintentionally)?
I understand his anger towards Ramesh but he is 2 years kid in case of Ramesh. I don't believe that brothers will ever accept their mistakes in front of dadaji they both are big selfish persons and if ramesh will speak dadaji will not believe him. Can't say anything about future but one thing is sure with present track that till now this family is together due to dadaji and dadiji, but now they will stay together because of cousin's.

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Shwetha

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Posted: 11 years ago

^I don't understand Dadaji's anger towards Ramesh. His anger is not on his present, but about his past. Ramesh had done things against Dadaji's wishes which Dadaji is unable to forget which I find is very wrong. Just like Ramesh should move on in his life, Dadaji should also forgive and forget the past. I think that will solve most of the problems. And Dadaji is openly partial with his sons. This provides an open platform for everyone to target Ramesh and his family. If not for Dadiji, I think Ramesh would have left the house long back.

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rima

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Posted: 11 years ago

It is a dysfunctional family as it is built at the altar of another's humiliation. It can be happy only if this tangled web is resolved

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Fanha

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: Shwets1502
^I don't understand Dadaji's anger towards Ramesh. His anger is not on his present, but about his past. Ramesh had done things against Dadaji's wishes which Dadaji is unable to forget which I find is very wrong. Just like Ramesh should move on in his life, Dadaji should also forgive and forget the past. I think that will solve most of the problems. And Dadaji is openly partial with his sons. This provides an open platform for everyone to target Ramesh and his family. If not for Dadiji, I think Ramesh would ave left the house long back.

Haha yupe dadaji's anger on ramesh is related to their past, that's why I said he behaves like 2 year old kid with ramesh. After having such years experience he is still so stubborn with ramesh that ur my culprit and I'll never forgive u nor forget what u did wrong. He needs to understand that now ramesh itself has family and no children's like their parents insults every now and then. He need to move on by forgive and forget the past but he is failed in that and that causes many problems. I completely agree with ur last lines.

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changumangu123

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Posted: 11 years ago

I am sick and tired of the derogatory treatment and sneaky games of the two brothers against Ramesh and his family. Same dialogues and same humiliation for Ramesh and family every single day. Why are they so eager to be the sacrificial lambs all the time? Keeping peace and being nice does not mean that you can not state the facts and inform the elders of the truth all the time. In fact it will bring to light how everyone makes mistakes all the time. Why is Ramesh and family hell bent on protecting others from Dadaji all the time? Bored of same dialogues about cousins' bonding all the time.

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Shwetha

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: changumangu123
I am sick and tired of the derogatory treatment and sneaky games of the two brothers against Ramesh and his family. Same dialogues and same humiliation for Ramesh and family every single day. Why are they so eager to be the sacrificial lambs all the time? Keeping peace and being nice does not mean that you can not state the facts and inform the elders of the truth all the time. In fact it will bring to light how everyone makes mistakes all the time. Why is Ramesh and family hell bent on protecting others from Dadaji all the time? Bored of same dialogues about cousins' bonding all the time.

I don't think they do it by will. They just get trapped. Ramesh and Nisha do voice out their opinions in their own way but Dadaji just doesn't listen to them. Lakshmi too speaks out. But they are not given a chance to be listened completely. Cousins bonding are spoken a lot because in a broken family like the Gangwals, a bonding like this is something to be proud of. The treatment Ramesh receives is just not acceptable. But he or his family cannot do anything about it if they want to stay together in the family.

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Shwetha

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: KochurShaakBata
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I think the tution teacher might be behind Nisha's harassment.

Could not stop myself from speculating. :P

That's a good speculation and could make things interesting. I think the issue is definitely related to school. But how come Nisha's parents didn't notice the difference or the problems is something they need to be more clear.

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