Pyaaar hai ya Sauda hai?????

What was the need to introduce this track? For confession or to bring change in Raman character. Was raman really need this type of reality check? Is this serial really close to real life?

My answer- No need to change Raman or IShita character:

Koi pyar kare toh tumse kare, tum jaise ho waise kare ... koi tumko badal ke pyar kare, toh woh pyar nahi woh sauda kare ... aur saheba, pyar mein sauda nahi hota ... right? The very famous line from the Mohabbatein movie but very deep meaning in it.

Raman and Ishita - got married because of little angel Ruhi. Their relation starts with " sirf ruhi ke liye" and now they have almost reached to stage of confession. So both of them are unique and different from one another. .Raman is dymanic, outspoken, caring,practical, tough from outside and soft from inside - nariyal kumar- well said by Ishita.

Ishita- naive, sensitive, understanding, soft hearted , caring- thodi pagal hai but acchi hai- well said by raman.

Marriage - The beauty of marriage for me is when husband and wife knows not only their best side of the human and also ugliest side as well. Strangely only husband and wife aware of their ugliest side more than even close family member. The most difficult thing in marriage start when husband and wife starts to know their ugly side that is when compromise or adjustments process starts. Because every human being has negative points otherwise that person will be god. And nobody is god and one should not expect that thing from life partner. Similarly in this unique and almost real love story both raman and ishita has negative points.Raman very short tempered, taunts and shouts every person without considering their feelings. Ishita like to poke her nose in everyone's business with or without their consent. This negative points shows that these characters are like one of us.

Marriage is successful when both of them compromise and adjust themselves and not try to change the nature of the other person. Accept and love the other person as he or she is.

Now , i, as fan of YHm , watching from first episode to till date, really don't feel the need to change the basic characteristic of leading actor of YHM.I liked the raman and ishita as it is. I liked the RAMAN KUMAR BHALLA as dynamic, practical , short tempered, even his taunts because he is the RAMAN KUMAR BHALLA. Similarly I like ISHITA RAMAN KUMAR BHALLA as caring, sensitive, understanding and doing alot of samaj seva. Because I loved them and I don't want them to change. Pyaar mein sauda nahi hota hai.

For this track - Naagmani - best friend- he himself for me is big question mark? What message cv is trying to give that friend of your life partner are like naagmani? No they are not. Please don't give wrong message to the society.If life partner are your life line , then friends are like supporting line. Never ever supporting lines/pillars cross their borderline like naagmani is doing.

My pov if one of the characters of YHM who needs to change - Naagmani is definitely one of them.

Originally posted by: RheaSh

Excellent analysis.👏

Well said...pyaar me suada nahi hota aur agar ho to vo pyaar nahi hota...And i accept that they have shown each character of yhm as realistic not only the leads...but what i feel is may be raman himself wants control his anger for ishita bcoz u know a short tempered person blurts out some hard words which hurts the other even though that will be temporary but it hurts as its said that think before u speak becuase damage once caused is caused it cant be reformed by your sorry...and if such behaviour hurts ur spouse then whats wrong in changing ur self for ur love...ishita never asked him to change but if he himself controls his temper so that he wont hurt ishita then...bcoz u know such all things will create problems between them one or the other day...

It's not sauda. There is nothing wrong in amending ur ways if it improves ur relationship for the better. If Raman tries to have litle control over his temperament then his relationship with everyone in the family.

Originally posted by: Lata_ishra

Well said...pyaar me suada nahi hota aur agar ho to vo pyaar nahi hota...And i accept that they have shown each character of yhm as realistic not only the leads...but what i feel is may be raman himself wants control his anger for ishita bcoz u know a short tempered person blurts out some hard words which hurts the other even though that will be temporary but it hurts as its said that think before u speak becuase damage once caused is caused it cant be reformed by your sorry...and if such behaviour hurts ur spouse then whats wrong in changing ur self for ur love...ishita never asked him to change but if he himself controls his temper so that he wont hurt ishita then...bcoz u know such all things will create problems between them one or the other day...

And regarding nagmani bechara bhatak gaya hai lambu ke karan jab uske samne poora sach ayega to woh khud raman ko praise karega dekhna khud bolega ishu ke liye tumse acha pati nahi ho sakta...😊

This is my POV...

Great post...👍🏼

Originally posted by: nb.neha

It's not sauda. There is nothing wrong in amending ur ways if it improves ur relationship for the better. If Raman tries to have litle control over his temperament then his relationship with everyone in the family.

Even after a change of heart towards Ruhi she still gets terrified of his anger. Other family members are also well aware of his temperament. Ishita too has faced it.

One line perfectly suits Raman "jo bhi main kehna chahun barbaad kare alfaz mere"

It's not that Raman is wrong it's just that he would be an even person if he makes this small change in his personality.

Originally posted by: mayu1982

yes am not justifying his anger he is wrong but its his wife has a right to say about his anger not by some friend.That is where I am not able to connect myself with cv.

If I have a problem with my husband then its right and duty to object. Has Ishita ever object it very strongly with raman that with she is having problem. In fact recently when raman apologised to Ishita for his anger she said that she understands and not objected it by saying please don't do it next time or something like that...

Because in case of Ishita - it was raman who objected her samaj seva behaviour very much. I liked that attitude.

Some way both needs to but not completely.

Raman ka gussa, Ishita ka Samaj seva karna -Agar ye sab na ho toh maza kya????