Gays in India......10 yrs in Prison

Yesterday I was watching a show called "Family Secrets" and it was about an Indian Prince who was gay and was later disowned by his mother who was the queen. I didn't get to watch the whole show, just the last 20-25 mins of it, but I felt really really bad for the guy. I am not too sure since I missed the first half of it, but I think the Queen forced her son to get married, but he later divorced his wife and then realized that he was gay.

He said that when he was younger he was attracted to the boy that his mom financially supported, who was from the orphanage, and that he and the boy would usually experiment with each other's bodies.

What I found that was really interesting, yet very angering was the fact that if your are proven to be gay in India then you can face up to 10 years in jail. And not only that but they also said that 80% of the gays in India are living double lives, where they are married to a woman, but also have relationships with men.

In my personal opinion, I think that first of all there should be no law that should punish a homosexual or a gay, because it's not fair that they are not given the right to choose how and with whom they want to live. Also because of this 10 year punishment, many of the gays are forced to marry women, and end up involving themselves in an unwanted relationship and also ruin a woman's life. I mean no woman would want to be married to a guy whose gay or a homosexual (not that I am saying theres anything wrong in being one)

So the debate is:

Is it right for India to have a law that punished gays, just because they choose to be different than what is expected of them?

And what you think about the 80% stat of gay men marrying straight women.

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Originally posted by: dazzlingdesi

What I found that was really interesting, yet very angering was the fact that if your are proven to be gay in India then you can face up to 10 years in jail. And not only that but they also said that 80% of the gays in India are living double lives, where they are married to a woman, but also have relationships with men.So the debate is:

And what you think about the 80% stat of gay men marrying straight women.

Good Topic. Good points made by Souro and others.

Here is my major concern the double life lived by Gays in India. India is not only conservative but Indians are hypocrite by nature. Personally I do not have problem with homosexuals having relationships with same sex. When gays start living Bi-sexual life we have problems.

Here is the reason why we have outrage of Aids in India due to men living double lives IMHO. I had made this point in Gay adoption topic couple wks back.

Having laws against someone's sexual preference is ridiculous. If they act indecent than put them in jail for the act but having law against is just too far fetched IMHO.

Originally posted by: souro

in blue: then the same type of laws should exist for hetrosexual couples who show public displays of affection. why the hypocrisy?

regarding your comments about men not marrying or women opting out of such a marriage........much easier said than done.

we're talking about India here.....for a woman to walk out of a marriage, especially if there are children involved is not an easy thing to do. and to make it worse i bet that the society will blame the woman for turning her husband gay. 😕

Originally posted by: mittijalebi

in blue: then the same type of laws should exist for hetrosexual couples who show public displays of affection. why the hypocrisy?

Showing affection in public is not encouraged for heterosexuals too in India. But that besides the point. When I said 'nuisance' I meant what I have written in the last two lines of that para. I hope that clears your doubt.

regarding your comments about men not marrying or women opting out of such a marriage........much easier said than done.

I know and that's why I said if they are getting married for whatever reason they can always get out later.😊

we're talking about India here.....for a woman to walk out of a marriage, especially if there are children involved is not an easy thing to do. and to make it worse i bet that the society will blame the woman for turning her husband gay. 😕

Why blame the society in everything, ain't women a part of the society?? Why is it that even now women think about what the society will say, and that too when she's leaving her hubby becos of him being gay?? But I know what you mean, and that's especially true among the illiterates where people may even say that the woman failed in her duties.😆 However, I think that'll happen in any other country and is not something over which one should waste one's life.