Privacy a Right? - Page 2

When we moved to London from India, I got introduced to this space/privacy thingy in between friends for the first time! I had no clue it exists between close friends too! Statements like "Leave me alone" or "Dun wanna talk about it" or the need to ask.."do you wanna talk about it?" left me wondering most of the times, esp if both were one of the closest friends.

In India, if my close friend was in a bad shape or something was botherin their mind or heart....I wudnt leave her/him unless they vented out ..or told me what was bothering, n the same has happened in my case too. I wasn't even aware of the fact that maybe your close friends need a moment for themselves too! Or that you need to ask " do u wanna talk about it?!" It was taken for granted that something is botherin her or him...or me..n we all could barge into each other's space just to let each other know that we are there, unless one of us really Really insists bigtime to be left alone.

Im not sure its appreciated anymore though. I dont know whatz the right thing to do, buh maybe cus I've been brought up mostly in India, I might prefer it tht way. I prefer to have that right and give my closest bud that right into each other's life, esp in times of distress or turmoil. There was no need to hold back or hide or hold on to anythin, cus nothin was or is hidden from your close bud anyway! I've had situations where my friends have said to me if I was cryin or troubled over something.. " ek ulte haath ka lagaaoonga/gi agar aur naatak kiya toh, bata kya problem hain?" ..lol it was/is as simple as that. But here, I guess I gotta respect that 'space' n 'privacy' of others n let them be.

Originally posted by: Believe

^Ya Right....

There is any relation between Privacy and protection? 😳

can u elaborate on this vinu? what protection?

I liked how Priya seggregated issues of dealing with mentala dn physical privacy.

Ya Qt i also agree with Priya's comments.....

Did we need protection from privacy invasions ?

I feel quite honestly we are probably part of the problem and not the solution.If we have cop the attitude "I have nothing to hide", we are unfortunately part of this group. we have been duped into believing that your life should be an open book😳😊

@ sohn, so well put 👏 I can identify with it so well... but that was something I did so often when I was in college.... but later on, in my professional life, I realised how much of mental privacy I needed to keep my sanity intact... and I guess I am one of those who rebuffed those who kept prodding and poking me for answers in the same way in which I did to them a few years earlier.

Having been on both sides of the fence, I try to keep an equal balance between the two. With some, I dont even push if they indicate the need for privacy, but with some, I do, because if I dont, they feel hurt...

@ QT - Thanks...

@ Vinu - sorry yaar, cant simply comprehend what you wrote, can u please elaborate

ok forget it......Main rasta bool gaya....messup with lot of things..sorry 😊

@ Sohn: purani yaadein taaza kar di.. Faced the same scenarios when I moved to US of A 😭

But keeping that apart, privacy is a necessity these days. If I am talking on the phone and I go to a different room to talk, so what? It does not always mean that I am doing something bad.. but my grandparents always get irked and they are like aaj kal ke bache! hamare saamne baat bhi nahi kar sakte, na jaane kya kya baatein karte honge.. This kinda things def gets on my nerves 😡. A little bit of space here and there surely does some good to everyone.

2-3 years ago, I could pour my heart out to my best friend or my mom but things change, I can't do that anymore. There are always things that are best guarded in the innermost areas of you heart and mind.

Originally posted by: rutumodi915

@ Sohn: purani yaadein taaza kar di.. Faced the same scenarios when I moved to US of A 😭

But keeping that apart, privacy is a necessity these days. If I am talking on the phone and I go to a different room to talk, so what? It does not always mean that I am doing something bad.. but my grandparents always get irked and they are like aaj kal ke bache! hamare saamne baat bhi nahi kar sakte, na jaane kya kya baatein karte honge.. This kinda things def gets on my nerves 😡. A little bit of space here and there surely does some good to everyone.

2-3 years ago, I could pour my heart out to my best friend or my mom but things change, I can't do that anymore. There are always things that are best guarded in the innermost areas of you heart and mind.

@priya : thank you 😊 I also liked the bit where you said, if you dont ask...they might get hurt lol. Yeh, thats one of things I've seen happening as well...some assume you dont care if you dont probe or question. You really need to have some sort of an understanding established with that person or else misunderstandings galore!

I agree with both rutu n priya. I know the rules with 'close buds' dont work with each n every other person or relationship. Plus, may be as you start broadening your circle of interactions, get into different planes of associations.... rules change. Mine might change too...even with close friends though I hope that never happens 😔

Yes Privacy is everyones right, everyone is entitled to their own Privacy and Space.

Unless you give someone the ruight to do something then that is something else.

But everyone is allowed to have their own secrets. I dont think chuldren tell their Parents everything that goes on in their life.

Even my mum says herself, you are entitled to live yoyur own life and say if u get married you asre not going to tell me everything thgst goes on, some things should just be between you and your husband or whtever.

So even if not married you dont have to tell everyone everything. I dont go snopping into my sisters things. and i dont even let them open up my work on the Pc, as im a pivate person and dont like people knowing my buisness,

So whether its friends or family, n one has the right to invade your Privacy. Everyone is entitled to their own.

Same works with friends you dont know every last thing about them, no mstter how much they tell you or how much you know them.

E.g other day i was upset at skl, had tears in eyes, friends ask me whts wrong, hugged etc, but they gave me my own privacy and sed do u want to talk abt it, i sed no, left it at tht, so everyone is entutled to their own Privacy, no matter how close family ties are.

I would not want my family to interfer in my matters, and it works vice versa, they would not want you to interfer in their concerns. 😳