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Okay so I am one of those people who is immensely tired of this track; I am sure that is a common sentiment among many of us but the reason that prompted me to make this post is a simple one - trying to understand RKB and the acts of his (almost) insanity.
I didn't pick this up almost immediately but last night' episode somehow struck a chord with me, the scene which I am speaking about in this post is that of Raman and Neil in his chambers where Neil asks to speak privately with Raman.
I couldn't understand why that scene had me rattled until I watched it again with a calmer (read less pissed off) mindset did it occur to me what actually made me sorta uneasy about the scene. It was Neil' question to Raman where he wanted to make sure Raman wants to help his ex and Raman' reply to him. Now last night all I could hear was him going on his Adi track once again.
But on a replay what struck me was one sentence by Raman - Adi being disturbed about the divorce between his parents.
True we have seen less of the kid and aren't any fan of his but that one statement does have a resonance... Adi would have suffered a lot at the fragile age of 6 or 7, watching his parents get divorced, being questioned by lawyers about how his dad and mom behave with him and such, getting shifted from a home where he lived with his family - where everyone naturally loved and doted on him to a place full of servants, who would abide his orders but naturally not love him.
Recently in the scene with Bala we saw how even his dresses are ordered in the wrong size - that is a very small thing, knowing the size of your child' dress and yet even that couldn't be picked right by his mom who is such a social butterfly.
I am not trying to defend/justify Raman here but somehow it now occurs to me perhaps it isn't the blind love or the obsession of a father that is making him do crazy things which are bound to come back and bite him in the ass - his actions, all of them have their roots perhaps in the guilt that Raman feels as a father, as a man who feels he let down his child. Shagun left him for another man because he wasn't ambitious enough then, didn't make as much money as she thought he should/could have. Post their split that has become the sole focus of RKB - making more money, being more successful, more powerful than Ashok. All of which has got nothing to do with showing Ashok and Shagun what he is capable of but more likely him trying to be the father who could have had his way and kept back his son. Raman was proven weaker and was defeated in the court when the false accusation of being a parent who abuses his child was proven against him all because Ashok could afford a better, smarter lawyer because he had the means to do so.
Raman lost even though he wasn't in the wrong because he had no power back then - to fight back or even prove his innocence.
Somehow all his insane acts now which are focused on his son are borne from that guilt he feels I think. Yes Ruhi was abandoned as a baby by her mom but think about it - till Ishita entered her life she might not have had as loving and caring a parent but she GREW up in a household where she was loved by every member and NEVER had her mom and dad together, yes it affected and impacted her as we saw. But Ruhi never witnessed the ugly fights Adi was unfortunate to have, she wasn't sent packing to a hostel where perhaps life would have been made even a bigger hell with bullies who might have taunted and been cruel to make ridicule of her parent' divorce.
In a way even though Ruhi has suffered the consequence of her parents being divorced she has been saved from the worst of it. I don't know how far along right I am about this theory but somehow it seems fitting to me.
Sometimes there are no justifications or reasoning's or even explanations for certain things - acts committed out of love and guilt can be only understood with the heart and not the mind.
Kumkum Bhagya
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