Yes,,it should be about individuals rather than categorising someone on the basis of gender...
All these orthodox thinking have been plaguing us all along..I would not comment that,,Ohh,,girls are denied their rights because then again,,I am making it gender specific and actually thats where the basic flaw lies that you are pointing...Segregation as to who is made for what...The individual we refer to as "female" is bestowed with birth giving ability and to be true,,this is what accounts for most of the orthodox thoughts,,..Baby producing factories,,just to further a family..This is what happens on a broader scale..At some point of time,,every woman has to face the wrath of choosing,,whether in teenage of choosing profession,,or the groom or career afterwards..She is sort of destined to give up at some step...Then,,the other sex,,is chosen to be the bread earner whether he agrees or not..He is destined to go out and cringe day and night..If a mother is the one who feeds the child,,then the father is the one who manages to earn that feed..It somehow is that we are abiding to what we are..And somewhere,,it largely culminates in progression from us too..We all somewhere decide along the course of this gender too..We all indulge in judgements not opinions!!