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"Love" is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition.
The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy.
The mark of the immature Rukaiya is that she wants to own by right the attention of Jalal ,
while the mark of the mature Jodha is that is wants to live humbly for Love of Jalal.
If your love is only a will to possess, its not love.
Love is not something you can acquire or give; it is something you become.
When Jalal and Jodha became love, compassion springs forth spontaneously and manifests as loving-kindness distributed equally to all, just like both sun and rain fall everywhere alike without calculation or making preferences.
True compassion was ultimately the only means by which peace and love could come to our couple , but it could only be achieved through complete understanding, of each one's life , the people in it , the relationships which cannot be given up ,the duties , the responsibilities ,The kartavya .
Like a smile, compassion can prove contagious, inspiring others to pass it along through random selfless acts of kindness.
And so we see the long years of a happy Emperor And His Queen together ruling over a satisfied praja.
Nobody knows Jodha as well as our Jalal .
And that means no one is quicker to recognize the change when Jodha deliberately starts sacrificing her wants and wishes to make sure Jalal's needs are met.
The answer is that love is unconditional selflessness,
"The greatest gift you can ever give another person is your own happiness."
Since Jodha loves him the way she does , she wants him whole.
Maybe this was what love is meant to be after all: sacrifice and selflessness.
It did not mean hearts and kisses and a home only for her but the knowledge that Jalal's well-being is more important than Jodha's own.
The event of their falling in love is of such a nature that Jalal and Jodha are right to reject as intolerable the idea that it should be transitory.
In one high bound it has overleaped the idea of any selfhood;
tossed personal happiness aside as a triviality and planted the interests of another in the centre of their being.
Spontaneously and without effort they have fulfilled the law (towards one person) by loving the other as oneself .
Rukaiya has always had Jalal beside her. He has given her all his attention .
In return she has always had him as the centre of her existence.
He would have been helpless against it, for how can you repudiate something that is never spoken?
She resented the arrival of someone like Jodha in Jalal's life.
She wished him to own his passage through life to her alone"to her care, to her tireless and sole attention on him .
That is the other side of a relationship: its tyranny."
Jalal never wanted anything for himself. He was supposed to have no heart .
Have we ever seen him ask for anything for himself ?
No material things , no affection since he even denies the need by having no heart and hence no feelings,no comfort ,no care giver .
Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive.
It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves.
So Rukaiya prevented Jalal from committing the sin of killing Jodha during the initial days.
But she does not mind committing the sin of lying to Jalal about the one thing which is so intrinsic to him - his need for a child.
Our conscious thinking self', which is the dictionary definition of ego', becomes centred' or focused on the need to justify itself.
We become ego-centric, self-centred or selfish, preoccupied with aggressively competing for opportunities to prove we are good and not bad.
Rukaiya in trying to prove she is good and a friend of Jalal has unavoidably became selfish, aggressive and competitive.
Many people enter into relationships in order to fill the huge gap of longing to be whole.
This desire-based motivation is the main obstacle to loving unconditionally.
As someone wrote in the forum , Ruqaiya has always spoken the truth to Jalal as a habit, always accepted her faults to him since childhood, and she had a whole lifetime to live with him. And she knows that he hates lies.
Both of them have never hesitated in sharing their worst secrets and strategizing.
Rukaiya is still in denial mode as far as Jalal having changed for Jodha .
Alas truth always has a way of resurfacing at the most unexpected moments and will surely destroy a nice relation which Rukaiya shared with Jalal.
The ego hankers for happiness, affection, love, praise, admiration, pleasure and power. All these are ego's nourishment.
But by looking for happiness from an external source, we always fail to find it. Every great sage and prophet exhorts us to look within.
When we look at others solely through the lens of our 'external' eyes, most people focus primarily on limitations. So Rukaiya is now all the time demanding Jalal's attention and complaining about this and that .
But because Jodha looks from within the heart, she can see the essence of truth shining in everyone she meets. For her Jalal is the embodiment of all the goodness , valour, childish innocence, simplicity, true to his word , frank acceptance of his mistakes , endearing humour , openly loving , totally unconscious of being so masculine , charm in every smile and mannerism, speaking eyes that sparkle brightly and are "vibrant like the sea in sunshine." single minded purpose , always willing to share , god fearing , so patient with children, respectful of others unique qualities , quick to recognize talent , strong advocate of equality , strong filial affection , magical swordsman , father figure to his praja , fearless in battle and willing to risk his life ,generous to friends , rewarder of loyalty , avid seeker of knowledge .
Due to this she tends to subconsciously gain something from every situation and person she encounters. This can only be accomplished when one imbibes principles of patience, tolerance, forgiveness, acceptance, endurance and compassion.
All nice things happen to Jodha.
Pushpa Impossible
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