too much negativity

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Posted: 11 years ago
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DB is showing too much negativity towards a special and adopted child when no one is there.

anandi has become a part time mother and there is always some crisis in BH and she has to be there.

Shiv can manage but what about amol? Except DB, no ladies of the house are around him.

Anandi is able to protect amol from the vultures outside but what about the big vulture inside?

Wish she did not adopt amol and left him where he was. And continued with her social work and BH service without worrying about some child.

Amol's life has become neither here nor there.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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God forbid. If there is some paedophile is in the family and anandi trusting the family so much.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Anandi can see NOTHING when DS call comes up.

I hate BV for showing such pathetic treatment of kids. Earlier what Anandi and other girls went through in childhood was also torturous.

Why they have to show such stuff?

DB is frustrated to this extent that she is deliberately targetting a kid?!

What did Amol do to get such attacks?!

I said earlier also that Shekhars do not bother about him.

Where were Ira and Meenu? Couldn't they sit near him while he did homework?

Nice to know Daddu made him sherbet. Good he does something more than eating and drinking himself.

I can't understand what work Anandi is doing at Jetsar. She is not even seen with Sumitra. Mostly in her own room or in kitchen. Tamasha hai?

How many times will she and eventually Shiv come to Jetsar to handle blunders of DS?!

I agree Anandi should not have adopted Amol. That boy was better off at orphanage. At least he did not get such treatment there that he is getting now at hands of DB.

Anandi need not have her own child either till time DS is alive. Nahi toh DS ke ek ishaare pe haazir kaun hoga?
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Posted: 11 years ago
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DB targeting that kid is too difficult to watch
She just figures out who offers her least resistance and targets them to her nastiness.I am sure because of her nature her husband and son left her.
Coming to Amol he is sitting there and doing his home work minding his business.So many times we leaves kids to their own devices on their at home because we don't expect them to come to some harm while sitting at home in the midst family
I didn't find wrong in that.
But even reality it the child abusers are family members and they do it for years without the family knowing about it because kids are so scared
At least thankfully they are not showing that wouldn't have been able to cope with it if they chose to show that.
Kid is quite happy with his parents and grandparents and even his bua.This lady came from no where and suddenly targeting him.Her behaviour is so different when family members are around.So how will they suspect her/Till now she was creating problems only with her regressive thoughts.
But all the same family has to learn these things from the behaviour of kids and be alert to any changes they note
Good that they noted that he has not eaten and hopefully they pick up from other signs too.
Anandi - I don't think the care is lacking on her part.The whole thing is so abrubt one minute she was upset with her darling husband for forgetting about their child.One minute she is happy with herc hild next scene she gets up and goes to Jaitser Before going to Jaitser they could have shown her asking the Shekhars to take care of him while she is away. After all mothers do have to go out of station sometimes leaving the kids behind but they should have shown her making arrangements woth Shekhars by adding that sentence that would have made a difference.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Even if anandi told them, it would have little effect to protect amol.

anandi's trips to jetsar are too many. For every function, for elections etc. The only genuine trip was this one where dadisa is really in trouble but now it has become like shiv and anandi are always in jetsar. And anandi should have phoned amol instead of amol phoning.

anandi is taking parenting lightly after being so angry with shiv for his lapse. It is not enough to love amol. It is also important to be there for him most of the time.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Even if anandi told them, it would have little effect to protect amol.

anandi's trips to jetsar are too many. For every function, for elections etc. The only genuine trip was this one where dadisa is really in trouble but now it has become like shiv and anandi are always in jetsar. And anandi should have phoned amol instead of amol phoning.

anandi is taking parenting lightly after being so angry with shiv for his lapse. It is not enough to love amol. It is also important to be there for him most of the time.

I am glad that thye are showing those phone conversations now.Just to show that she does care for her family.
I suppose they wanted to show how a woman who has so many comitments within the family and also outside of her family copes with these responsibilities. Sometimes being there for her people sometimes not.This is how it happens in real life too.
Most have been brought up by working mothers left in the care of grandmothers and domestic helps .We were left in the care of domestic help most of the time.So what is being shown is not so unusal.
I guess functions are meant for family reunions only. She went there with her family and came back too.
Her only stay was at the time when Jagya was injured that too at that time she didn't want to stay but all thanls to silly Sanchi she had to stay back.Which I think was for the silliest of reasons.
But these last two occasions - They were meant for Dadisa. Election campaign Jaitser people connect to her and Dadisa more and now I think it really is a genuine reason to stay back.
Dadisa is really vulnerable and broken at the thought of killing someone and that is eating her up.Unforunately her great family members are not realising how broken she is.Thye just want her to be strong for themThey may be able to get her off the hook for murder but she does need help in coping with this blood on her hands thing.So this time it is necessary.So far only Ananid and Shiv was shown discussing this aspect of Dadisa.
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Children coming to harm in their house it could have happened even if Amol had been their biological child.
This happened not because Anandi is away but the lady is like that.
Even when she targets Anandi she makes sure that Anandi is alone.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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and amol has to be grateful that he was picked up to live in such luxury and he cant open his mouth. If he opens, he will be asked to respect the elders and he maybe accused of making up stories as DB will cleverly put the blame on him.
I have observed that amol longs for anandi's presence more often but she is a lady with so many commitments.
By now he must have realised that he does not belong to that family and they are simply nice to him.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

and amol has to be grateful that he was picked up to live in such luxury and he cant open his mouth. If he opens, he will be asked to respect the elders and he maybe accused of making up stories as DB will cleverly put the blame on him.
I have observed that amol longs for anandi's presence more often but she is a lady with so many commitments.
By now he must have realised that he does not belong to that family and they are simply nice to him.

She scared him so much.Children don't open their mouths out of fear.
She clearly threatened him saying if he opens hiw mouth that she will trouble him even more.
That fear is the reason why children tolerate abuse for so many years.
In my profession doing post graduation and starting family happen at about same time.
During post graduation in my line they have to work long hours do 24 hour shifts etc
So many of my colleagues had young children pre schoolage they had to leave them at home come for work and there were incidences of child battering too
I won't call them negligent parents.
Children left in the care of maids because extended family support is not there and the maids bashing children to keep them under control not feeding the children properly etc all these are routine occurrences where both parents are in demanding professions.
So Anandi cannot be singled out and here actually Shekhars have proven to be good grandparents it just that thye have not woken upto the fact how dangerous this lady could be.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Anandi going to Jaitsar during functions is OK, her going to campaigning is also understood because DS wanted her help. But going to Jaitsar without even explaining to family members/Amol was too much. She may be feeling for her DS, but she could have make Amol understand why she is leaving like this and also inform elders what happened (very similar to Jagya leaving to Mangalore without telling his parents why he broke the engagement). She told even Shiv while on road. Her staying back in Jaitsar now look frivolous because she is not doing anything there.
As regards DB - she is another alien after Sanchi. A great grandmother targeting the child is difficult to believe. And Amol hiding it is again strange - at least he should show symptom of withdrawal in presence of DB - like children suffering from abuse show (do not know why but DB-Amol scene looked like Mausi-Ichcha scenes). If they show Amol upset while with parents but being normal in presence of DB - it will be bad, children try to avoid bullies/abusers. However I agree that this incident could have happened even if Anandi was in KB. Being at home does not mean being around the child 24 hours.

Just like Sanchi, DB is negative for the sake of being negative - no reason/justification can be found for her behaviour.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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The justification for her behaviour is amol is not their blood. and anandi is a divorcee. Thats how regressive minds work. She is mean only to anandi and amol.

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