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There has been a lot of discussion going on about whether or not Anshuman has suffered enough, about whether Paakhi was right in leaving Ayaan, and whether her reaction is justified. I decided to make a post regarding my thoughts on the situation.
What Anshuman said was wrong - calling her characterless was a big jolt for Paakhi, who expected her husband to trust her, whose identity was marked by her own dignity. The fact of the matter is, though, that the evidence that was presented to Anshuman was very reputed and smartly planted. A doctor's note, and then even a confirmation from the doctor when Anshuman called him... that itself is more than enough for many people in today's society to doubt their wives. On top of that, noticing this boy who has the same name and comes from the same city as your wife's ex-boyfriend, in your house over and over again (even catching him in her room), that is another piece of smartly planted evidence. On top of that, Anshuman noticed his mom being thrown out for the same reason by his dad - for cheating on him. Anshuman was already exposed to this situation and if his mom could be unfaithful, why could Paakhi not be? This is simply from Anshuman's point of view.
The purpose of this track is to strengthen their bond. What many couples in today's world goes through, even if they initially have trust in their relationship, is they eventually lose the trust based on circumstances. Anshuman and Paakhi are going through that same phase in every couple's life. The best way to learn is through experience and now that Anshuman and Paakhi have gone through this experience, they will move forward and will never lose faith in each other again. They are lucky that this phase came early on in their marriage, because I've seen couples who have been married for years (10 - 20 , even more), whose marriages are falling apart because they're accusing each other of infidelity.
Now to discuss the whole track of bringing Paakhi back, I'll start off with Anshuman. Anshuman in my eyes, first and foremost, has gone through a lot in order to bring Paakhi back. He has had to adjust to living in the village, has walked barefoot causing himself pain, walked behind Paakhi all day long to protect her from the sun, to make sure she is okay, and even got himself almost killed today. His dialogue in today's episode just shows how far he could go to get Paakhi back ("Tumhari maafi ki khaatir aaj agar mere jaan bhi chale jaate toh mujhe koi faraak nahi parta" - for your forgiveness, even if I had to die today, I would not mind). That one line says it all. He would die for Paakhi to forgive him. He has realized his mistake from the bottom of his heart and is willing to pay for it, no matter how severe the consequences are.
Paakhi, her character was questioned, and for her, her self-respect matters a lot, so she walked out of her house in Shimla. All of that is fine, because the girl needed to sort out her thoughts and decide what she wanted to do. A lot of people may not agree with this and I might be dodging some bullets when I say this, but a marriage does not and should not end just because your spouse says mean words to you at the heat of the moment. We insult each other all the time - we might have insulted our parent's, our best friends, anybody else who is close to us when we get into arguments with them. They must have been hurt to hear the hurtful words from our mouths, but the relationship did not end like that. For me, Paakhi is justified, as long as she is just doing this to sort out her thoughts, but she is not justified if she wants to break her marriage and abandon her son, which brings me to my next point.
Ayaan. He has developed so much since his entry into the story. After going through so much in his life, he has opened his heart and accepted Paakhi as his mother. Paakhi has successfully made the bond between him and Anshuman strong to the point that their bond will never break, which might make leaving Ayaan okay in her perspective, because she knows that the father-son duo will always have - and only need - each other. However, all Ayaan wanted was a happy family. He wants Anshuman, Paakhi, and himself to all be happy together. Just because he has his dad, who has been with him all his life, does not mean that he can forget his mother at the snap of a finger. I don't know whether Paakhi realizes this or not. I don't know whether she even thinks about Ayaan and what he may go through if she leaves. He already lost his mother once, and just got both his mom and dad back, but now if his mom leaves their family, he would be losing his mother again. Ayaan is a mature kid, he would understand that Paakhi left, and he would probably forgive her too, but at the same time, Anshuman, no matter how much he tries, will not be able to fill that empty void in Ayaan's heart as he grows up, that only Paakhi would be able to fill.
I know I have a lot of different ideas going on in my mind, but at the moment, I think that Paakhi would be justified in telling Anshuman that a mother should be the most important lady in any persons life, and until Anshuman is able to forgive his mother, she would feel uneasy going back with him. That would be sensible, and I think that is what is coming (as said in the SBS segment). About Ayaan, even if I feel like it's a little too much to leave Ayaan motherless, Paakhi is confident that her son would stay on the right path because Anshuman will be there to guide him every second of the day. Paakhi may think that Ayaan will be upset over losing her for a few days, maybe even a few months, but eventually he'll forget her because she was not there all his life... and the same might even hold true about Anshuman.
Anshuman has fought for his love, and so has Paakhi. Anshuman needs patience and Paakhi needs to heal. My heart goes out to Ayaan the most in this matter. The child has not made a mistake, yet he's suffering for his parent's deeds - as children are always the biggest victims when their parent's get into an argument.
I love this show and the CVs continue to present their tracks and their flawed characters, Anshuman and Paakhi, in a very realistic, sensitive and beautiful manner.
What Anshuman said was wrong - calling her characterless was a big jolt for Paakhi, who expected her husband to trust her, whose identity was marked by her own dignity. The fact of the matter is, though, that the evidence that was presented to Anshuman was very reputed and smartly planted. A doctor's note, and then even a confirmation from the doctor when Anshuman called him... that itself is more than enough for many people in today's society to doubt their wives. On top of that, noticing this boy who has the same name and comes from the same city as your wife's ex-boyfriend, in your house over and over again (even catching him in her room), that is another piece of smartly planted evidence. On top of that, Anshuman noticed his mom being thrown out for the same reason by his dad - for cheating on him. Anshuman was already exposed to this situation and if his mom could be unfaithful, why could Paakhi not be? This is simply from Anshuman's point of view.
The purpose of this track is to strengthen their bond. What many couples in today's world goes through, even if they initially have trust in their relationship, is they eventually lose the trust based on circumstances. Anshuman and Paakhi are going through that same phase in every couple's life. The best way to learn is through experience and now that Anshuman and Paakhi have gone through this experience, they will move forward and will never lose faith in each other again. They are lucky that this phase came early on in their marriage, because I've seen couples who have been married for years (10 - 20 , even more), whose marriages are falling apart because they're accusing each other of infidelity.
Now to discuss the whole track of bringing Paakhi back, I'll start off with Anshuman. Anshuman in my eyes, first and foremost, has gone through a lot in order to bring Paakhi back. He has had to adjust to living in the village, has walked barefoot causing himself pain, walked behind Paakhi all day long to protect her from the sun, to make sure she is okay, and even got himself almost killed today. His dialogue in today's episode just shows how far he could go to get Paakhi back ("Tumhari maafi ki khaatir aaj agar mere jaan bhi chale jaate toh mujhe koi faraak nahi parta" - for your forgiveness, even if I had to die today, I would not mind). That one line says it all. He would die for Paakhi to forgive him. He has realized his mistake from the bottom of his heart and is willing to pay for it, no matter how severe the consequences are.
Paakhi, her character was questioned, and for her, her self-respect matters a lot, so she walked out of her house in Shimla. All of that is fine, because the girl needed to sort out her thoughts and decide what she wanted to do. A lot of people may not agree with this and I might be dodging some bullets when I say this, but a marriage does not and should not end just because your spouse says mean words to you at the heat of the moment. We insult each other all the time - we might have insulted our parent's, our best friends, anybody else who is close to us when we get into arguments with them. They must have been hurt to hear the hurtful words from our mouths, but the relationship did not end like that. For me, Paakhi is justified, as long as she is just doing this to sort out her thoughts, but she is not justified if she wants to break her marriage and abandon her son, which brings me to my next point.
Ayaan. He has developed so much since his entry into the story. After going through so much in his life, he has opened his heart and accepted Paakhi as his mother. Paakhi has successfully made the bond between him and Anshuman strong to the point that their bond will never break, which might make leaving Ayaan okay in her perspective, because she knows that the father-son duo will always have - and only need - each other. However, all Ayaan wanted was a happy family. He wants Anshuman, Paakhi, and himself to all be happy together. Just because he has his dad, who has been with him all his life, does not mean that he can forget his mother at the snap of a finger. I don't know whether Paakhi realizes this or not. I don't know whether she even thinks about Ayaan and what he may go through if she leaves. He already lost his mother once, and just got both his mom and dad back, but now if his mom leaves their family, he would be losing his mother again. Ayaan is a mature kid, he would understand that Paakhi left, and he would probably forgive her too, but at the same time, Anshuman, no matter how much he tries, will not be able to fill that empty void in Ayaan's heart as he grows up, that only Paakhi would be able to fill.
I know I have a lot of different ideas going on in my mind, but at the moment, I think that Paakhi would be justified in telling Anshuman that a mother should be the most important lady in any persons life, and until Anshuman is able to forgive his mother, she would feel uneasy going back with him. That would be sensible, and I think that is what is coming (as said in the SBS segment). About Ayaan, even if I feel like it's a little too much to leave Ayaan motherless, Paakhi is confident that her son would stay on the right path because Anshuman will be there to guide him every second of the day. Paakhi may think that Ayaan will be upset over losing her for a few days, maybe even a few months, but eventually he'll forget her because she was not there all his life... and the same might even hold true about Anshuman.
Anshuman has fought for his love, and so has Paakhi. Anshuman needs patience and Paakhi needs to heal. My heart goes out to Ayaan the most in this matter. The child has not made a mistake, yet he's suffering for his parent's deeds - as children are always the biggest victims when their parent's get into an argument.
I love this show and the CVs continue to present their tracks and their flawed characters, Anshuman and Paakhi, in a very realistic, sensitive and beautiful manner.
