INFIDELITY: Is it just a WAY of the WORLD NOW?! - Page 2

Zorro, The chemistry can start working without you being aware. But I will say without you being aware of your intention. Definitely I may not have control over my feelings but I may have control over my actions. But whether the feelings are there or whether there is chemistry I have also, is what I am doing totally loving to myself. It is possible a man finding a not so good understanding with his wife, confides himself to his sweet office colleague girl and she behaves sweetly with him accepting the way he is and pretending to value him. And he is drawn to her. But she has her own agenda and later blackmails him in one way or the other. He had feelings and chemistry but no idea she may have secret agenda? how did he come to this situation?

I don't think it is up to us to decide whether infidelity deserves a second chance. There are indeed many reasons why people. But whether those reasons warrant a second chance depends on the person who was cheated on. Everyone's expectations, thresholds and tolerance in relationship is different. Their relationship, their life, their choice.

Also not everyone who cheats wants a second chance. Some people just want out.

I can really not say much about infidelity. A person may abstain from getting into physical intimacy with others... but what about his mind? Fantasizing .. can anyone be sure about that? It's also infidelity.

infidelity strengthens relationships... unless you cheat or don't get cheated you don't understand value of loyalty..

Originally posted by: maha2us

The point is he is not taking care of himself. If he gave importance to himself and he believes he deserves to be loved and valued, he would not be drawn by the sweetness of the office colleague girl. He could have kept a distance from her.He would not have had feelings to her.

If he really believes that he deserves to be loved and valued why would he think that the other person is having evil designs on him? If he believes that deserves to be loved than he ought to also believe that every human being finds him deserving of that love and so would love him and not be out to trap him.