This is a very important topic and a broad topic also. Definitely there is a lot of infidelity in this World and those who go for infidelity have their own good reasons.
These days probably there is more infidelity because it is easier for men and women to get in touch with each other more easily and there are more channels available. But then for both a man and a woman, when he/she finds his/her partner has not been faithful to him/her, it hurts that person immensely and he/she can go on for taking drastic action.
But then why there is a lot of infidelity? Those people who stray from the marriage, also deserve to be understood. If I can say rapists deserve second chance, I can only say infidels also deserve second chance. Those who look for outside satisfaction are troubled within and the sex they get outside marriage only satisfies them temporarily. The big problem for them is they are totally off their purpose of their life.
Marriage works when you learn what exactly is the purpose of the marriage. Marriage is an institution in which you learn a lot. It is always tough to build intimacy with another person and it hurts at times also. The spouse you get can never be perfect and your challenge is to embrace your spouse in his/her imperfection. You will always be pained by some type of behavior from your spouse. Except for some exceptional reasons, if you believe the marriage is not going to work, you are deceiving yourself.
A person who strays from the marriage has the fear of commitment and is not even committed to himself/herself. The infidelity just becomes an addiction for that person just like alcohol, drugs or TV. Why can't you use the tough times you are facing in your marriage for your own growth instead of trying to escape from your problem? Marriage works when you practice being more caring, compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding to yourself and extending these qualities to your spouse. And you will learn to be more with yourself and your partner, present to yourself and your partner and available to yourself and your partner. Only as you practice this rule of life, you will be satisfied in the marriage. When these qualities are practiced, sex with the partner also will be satisfying. It has happened a woman could not get satisfying sex from her partner and she was quite complaining to him on that. She told this to a psychologist counselor. The counselor told her to be more kind and understanding to her partner. When she practiced that way, her husband became more tuned to have sex with her and she had satisfying sex. The rules go this way. Of course, she had choice to seek outside satisfaction and she could have got some temporary satisfaction from a womanizer. But how would she feel when he unceremoniously abandons her on a fine morning?
Edited by maha2us - 11 years ago
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