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This video was just so appalling to watch but that is the harsh reality which women face daily in India. We can all blame the infestation of item numbers but the root cause is the mentality we were brought up with. The thought that men are superior than women. No matter what status you belong to ,be it rich or middle class or lower income class, Indians have always believed in a patriarchal society and men being the supreme power. Its always been told that "Beti paraya dhan hoti hai" or you can't do this you aren't a guy.
I agree men and women are not created equal.We weren't created equal physically, emotionally, psychologically (women were better at some stuff and men at some) but shouldn't our moral sense come into play when it concerns a persons basic human rights. Why is it that the respect for an individual and her rights not imbibed in our brains when we are still kids? Even if boys are not told that they are equal to girls atleast educate the boys that they are in no way inferior to them and deserve as much respect as anyone else.
What sucks big time is the government. The laws are relaxed when it comes to harassment, marital rapes aren't even crime, eve teasing is part and parcel of day to day life. The govt just says ladies are not safe,wear decent clothes, behave appropriately, n then it gives us a separate compartment and seats in public transport. Is that even possible to provide safety for women by segregating them from men. What happens when you get out of that safe zone, are we even educated about the personal space which is not supposed to be encroached by anyone? Where is the respect for ones person space.
When it comes to Item numbers , I can't totally blame them. I don't support lewd actions and lyrics at all and detest most of the item numbers but I don't blame the one's who acted in them. They are also doing their job. If they don't do it someone else be hired. Its impossible for all ladies to stand up and say they won't do an item number. The thing is that in India sex is a taboo, so its shown in such a way that its demeaning to women and something which men have to force women to do. Doing things forcefully is a proof of manliness/mardangi. If this outlook changes,then maybe things will change for better.
Like India has its share of perverts, it also has its share of men who really respect and look after their women,I was blessed to be born in one such family. So every time someone generalizes and curses all Indian men ,I do cringe a bit but looking at this video I don't blame ppl who do that.
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