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Originally posted by: Crystal29
OMG Anu - This is an awesome post on Rudra! 👏 Aww thanks yaar😳
You are so right. He doesn't believe in marriage but why did he marry her the way he did. His way of telling her that - you wanted marriage. I lost my job because of your zid. Ok I will marry you. It is not going to be pretty marrying me because I am not husband material and cannot be one. I can't trust, I can't love, and I can't be nice. And that exactly is what the 8 vachans were about and that is what he plans to do. Show her how she did the mistake of not going away when he asked her to. Exactly! And that is something that Paro and the others aren't realizing even though he's told them so DIRECTLY😆...Paro especially INSISTS on weaving rose-tinted dreams despite him making it so obvious that he's not cut out for this stuff...so he's basically left with no choice but to DEMONSTRATE as he sees it...actually go out of his way to hurt her and maybe then she'll get the message...but she obviously refuses to😆.If he was left alone, he would have stayed as far as he can from her and let her go. He tried to scare her away, scream her away, put her on the spot etc etc. Nothing worked. She came closer and closer. Then proposed too. That too in front of so many people. For a person like Rudra who stayed away from anything resembling love for so long, that has to be cornering. And No he doesn't understand what he feels for her. All he knows is he does not want to even think that route as those feelings always end up hurting him. THIS...exactly...Rudra won't even LET his mind wander in the direction of pondering over these things...he's conditioned himself over the years towards this...since he's been burnt so badly when he trusted and loved with all his heart...he just doesn't want to put himself out there...he just doesn't think anyone's capable of or worthy of that kind of love...The fact that he cares for her and has that love hidden in his heart is something he does not acknowledge himself. So starts the I will make you cry dialogues. But when she gets hurt and blood oozes out, he can't stop himself. This is quite an interesting characterization of Rudra. He doesn't fall for tears or bashans or reasoning. But when it comes to Paro getting physically hurt or when a third person tries to hurt her in any way, he cannot stop himself. He instinctively jumps in and takes over. Oh well, he doesn't even let Maithili take care of her when she was sick. LOL he's possessive in every way...he wants exclusive rights on both hurting her as well as healing her...twisted mind, but there it is.Possessive he is. But with tough love - as you have beautifully pointed out. SO Haq Banta Hain is how it is going to be. But I feel the big revelation for him is going to be that he does have it in him to be a good husband. He does have it in him to feel that love. He does have it in him to trust. And that will be a beautiful revelation and an even more beautiful journey. Yes, that's the journey that he has to take and he has a ways to go...trust will probably always be a key point of contention...for him, trust is always fragile and Paro doesn't exactly understand him properly on that front yet...
Great husband ka toh pata nahin😆...he has a LOT of hangups😆...he's always going to be a difficult person to deal with...but Paro signed up for this so she has to deal with it😆...but yes Rudra is the kind of person who if he does form attachments, he forms deep and strong ones...loves fiercely with all his heart...and that is the reason why he runs away from attachments...he probably can't cope with the strength of emotion they bring in him...detachment has kept him alive and strong all these years...
It's basically a clash b/w Rudra's cynicism and Paro's idealism...and the fact that both of them are VERY stubborn regarding their viewpoints is what keeps the conflict alive...Rudra's extreme cynicism contrasts with Paro's extreme innocence.Again. Great Post! Thanks again! :-)
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